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*hygrl86
writes:So my boyfriend who I have been dating for 4 years and I seem to be falling apart. He wants to have and open relationship and I am just not up for that. He said a while back that he would attend coucling with me. So I finally looked into it and set up and appointment. The next thing I know is he is telling me that he dosn't need coucling because the problems in our relationship are my fault. I told him that he needed to make a decision to fight for us or let go and leave me alone. So he said that he would go to the councling. He is already texting other girls and handing out his number and he has tons of girls on his face book.I have been with him for 4 years. We have almost been engaged and I love him more than anything in this world. I am a giver and I keep trying to give and I feel like he just keeps taking.He is naturally flirtacious, but to me he go's to far sometimes. This is one of the main reasons we fight.I tell him how I feel about it and he just says that he dosn't care and he is not going to change.Is this my fault for being insecure? Is he too far gone for us to save this relationship?
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reader, jessjess  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 I agree- you deserve so much better. It is not your fault. Sometimes things just fall apart- it means there is someone out there who will treat you a hell of lot better and give you the love and respect that you should be getting from a boyfriend of four years. Don't bother with the counselling- go out and have fun and leave him! If he refuses to stop flirting with other girls then let him. Show him you are better than that, which you clearly are. What a first-class twat he sounds. It will be hard to let go after four years I can only imagine, but surround yourself with your best friends and concentrate on getting your own life back. Good luck. Please get this guy out of your life?!
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reader, AlexCM +, writes (2 September 2009):
ok. why the hell are you still with this guy? he's disrespecting you! has no regards to your feelings! and is being incrediably selfish! its obviously your descion but being with this man is not going to make you happy!
leave him!
i know this is not what you wanted to be told but what he's doing is not right!!
good luck honey.
xx
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