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writes:I tried to have sex with my boyfriend of 6 months last night and i couldn't. His penis felt like it was too big for my vagina. It was so painful that I felt sick and shakey. This has put me off ever having sex again yet I know that my boyfriend will want to. I feel really inadequate and I can't even think of sex because it makes me nervous. Please help!
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reader, jessjess +, writes (23 August 2009):
 Awww sorry about that- don't let it put you off though hard as it may be. I bet loads of people have first-time issues. The first time me and my boyfriend tried to sleep together it was both of our first times and I think he was pretty nervous because he couldn't really get the condom on properly and then lost his erection from worrying so it just basically was quite a nightmare! Didn't matter though, I love him to pieces so obviously didn't think any worse of him especially as I was quite nervous too so we probably were meant to wait a little longer anyway! We tried again a month or so later and it was perfect :) Well not perfect but very special anyway- worth waiting for. Just with your issue, make sure you are fully aroused before he tries to enter you because if you were dry then that would have been why it hurt! Use some lube if necessary. But don't do it until you are ready there is just no point. If he cares about you he will wait. If he pressures you or makes you feel inadequate get rid of him cos there are lovely guys out there and you don't need to waste your time. Don't let fear put you off though. The first time is a little painful/uncomfortable for lots of girls so don't feel like you are weird or anything! Is his penis especially large or something? I think you just need to relax and things will be a lot better!!! Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): I have a similar problem ish, well.. ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 weeks now, and i get the feeling he wants to have sex, he's fine waiting and i dont feel presured i just dont really feel fussed about it. I'd suggest having a long time with foreplay and using lubricant which may help loosen up a bit
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reader, starfairy +, writes (23 August 2009):
 Do a search on Vaginismus, might be you.
I experienced this once...But it was because I felt so sexual desire for him once we got into the bedroom...Was weird, relationship obviously didn't last!
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