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51-59,
anonymous
writes: I fell in love with C when i was 18, we were together for 2 years then went our sperate ways, i never stopped loving him compared everyone i met to him ect, he moved on had kids ect. So 20 years later we get together i am over the moon got what i wanted and it was all great THEN 3 years in he falls in love with someone else,tells me he's never felt like this about anyone before wnats to marry her! So i keep it friendly keep him in my life but 18months on im still a mess i love him so much and don't want anyone else i cant move on...he's living with her and we text each other occasionally and it kills me but i can't bear the idea of letting him go completely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): please end ALL contact with hum .NOW. this immediate change will ensure that you survive this turmoil you have been facing.by keeping in contact with him. firstly, you are lying to yourself that you are now his mere friend.2. this so called friendly relationship hides the truth of his betrayal. you are just so scared to call him on this betrayal. is like you are a martyr, you sau, it's ok, i understand, yes lets just be friends, i am here for you if you want to talk. cut the crap. YOU ARE HURTING, YOU ARE DEVASTATED, you cannot believe he has done this to you. 3. so scream, if it was me i would use colourful words, band something, get that hurt, anger, frustration out. it is slowly killing you by being his friend. 4. TELL HIM HE IS A f*cking *astard. tell him how much he has hurt him. by not confronting him, you have made it so easy for him to mess your life and for him to pretend that he is a good guy. HE IS NOT. you need closure and you need it fast. you don't have to fight with him but be brave enough to tell him exactly what you think of him and how he betrayed you. Your survival depends on this closure. good luck and hugs from me. i know you are going through hell, but it cannot get any worse, can it. this needs to end. then please slowly move forward. you do not need to hear all his happy life stories.
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reader, jessjess +, writes (18 August 2009):
 You don't deserve to be messed around like this. Anyone who can break your heart TWICE shouldn't be allowed the chance to break it a third time so really, you're better off without him. You're just in too much pain right now to realise it. Find yourself someone lovely who deserves you. Rememeber that for ever girl with a broken heart there's a guy waiting with a glue gun :). No matter what age you are. And I wouldn't bother 'keeping it friendly to keep him in your life'. The only people who you need in your life are those that need you in theirs. Best wishes and a big hug. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): Harden up. Wear it on the chin. Get a life. Meet someone else. He wont stay with her either.
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