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51-59,
anonymous
writes:i am gay but got married to a female. now i am having problem with sex with her as i do get erection, she does not know that am gay but feels that i am impotent. plz solve my problem.
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reader, trigtrigboom  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 I think its harsh to make the judgement that you have ruined your wifes life. Without knowing the facts about your relationship, you may have been the best thing that ever happened to her. comments above like "let her get a real man" are unfortunatly the sentiment that puts men in this position and get married and lie to themselves and their wife to feel like a real man. being gay doesnt make you a not real man in any way. If you are not able to function in the role that you chose and would rather be with a man then the time might have come to move on to pastures new.Otherwise buy her a strap on and twist the dynamic she may enjoy calling you a sissy boy and using that on you !
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): you deliberately deceived your wife by marrying her. you are messing with her life. if you cannot admit to her that you are indeed gay then end your marriage. you have been very very selfish and cruel to marry her in the first place. maybe you are still a closet man, but it is time to come clean. you will make your wifes life misearble and you will hurt her tremendously. i am hoping you are not planning on having kids with her. end your marriage so that she can find a real man who will not deceive her. we cannot solve your provblem, only you can. you had no right o marry this inncent person and then mess with her life. there are many gay indian men so you are not the only one. you have your own reasons for living this lie but please do not let your wife endure your lies any more. you will be found out sooner than later then you will be in more sh1t. lies breathes more lies and deceit. please do not hurt your wife any more than you have already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): Please be honest with her as soon as you can, and tell her the truth.
If you are otherwise in love - I presume you are, since you got married - then you might still be able to work out a way of living together. You wouldn't be the first gay guy that's ever married a woman, and you won't be the last.
The alternative is to carry on like this forever with no sex life, pretending you're impotent. Please don't go that road. Tell her the truth, and free both of you to find men who will fulfil your needs.
(On that note, I think jason3247's idea is brilliant if you can make it work!)
Good luck
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 well i think u should have not got married in the first place
when u were aware of the fact that u were gay!
u just ruined your wife's life too
well i think u should be honest to her and tell her ur gay
she deserves to know,before she starts blaming u or herself
better late than never
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Come clean with your wife,maybe suggest the idea of adding a third person into your relationship.Someone you can share?
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