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*enelopepitstop
writes:guys when is a women being cold? when she doesnt get in touch for a few days, in another hand is texting or emailing every day just too much?what would you guys like from us as a thirty something woman ive still never figured out how to play it
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (21 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the question i just wanted to say thank you jason for letting me tell you all this and giving me advice
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 I`m sorry but honestly I would be thinking the same thing.
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (20 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi againwe've been together for about 6 years believe it or not, and its not likely that we'll move in together for a while, I see him sometimes once a week sometimes it can be weeks before i see him,the contact is down to zero for the past week now, and im really fed up he didn't respond to my last email isnt texting me so really now im thinking its time to let it go
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (17 July 2009):
Long distance relationships won`t hold up forever.Have you approached the subject of something more serious?How willing would you or he be to moving?If your not talking on a daily basis I wouldn`t suggest approaching the subject yet.Just put as much effort as you can into constant communication.Send him something once or twice a day. Remember it doesn`t matter what your talking about as long as your talking. When/if you get to the point where your talking on a regular basis then you can try to bring the subject up. How long have you known him/been in a relationship?How often is not much?Once a month,twice a season,every other week?
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (17 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe lives a distance from me so we dont see each other much, if it wasnt so wonderful when im with him id give up
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (16 July 2009):
Keep talking.Send him messages.Why is he so busy?How far away is he?
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (16 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok i went online last night and left a message saying hope to catch you soon, mins later he logged on and it was all small talk and as quick as he could get offline again..yet there is times when hes on here and ill get a text asking me to come on to speak to him cos he misses me or there is an email waiting for me saying the same, to me it seems that im only good enough when he wants me..
theres no issues when were together its just great, its only when were apart this builds up..
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
Communication is vital.If your not talking over a 4 day period then the relationship is up in the air.If your scared to talk to him when he is on-line send him a letter while he is off line.Talk about anything.Whats new in your life.Ask him anything your curious about.Mention that you wish you could catch him on-line so you can talk more.And expect a reply when he does come on-line. Reply a few hours after he goes off-line again.Keep talking or you may forever be in silence.
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (15 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni havent spoken to him since sat and that was on here i know hes been on but i kind of hid my online status as i always think hes not on that often so im better to leave it be and give him space lol i hardly see that much of him in the real world, youd think id want to talk on here i just cant seem to judge what he wants
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I don't get any texts or emails from my better half and never have done. She's not good with buttons or computers, fortunately.
There are too many variables here: The length of the relationship for a start, the content of the texts and emails, the distance the two people are apart, how long since they last saw each other etc etc.
Sod all this modern technology - pick up the telephone and speak to each other. By listening to someone's voice you can pick up on what sort of mood they're in, whether they are having a bad day or if they're pleased to hear your voice on the other end, plus it's far more personal. Apart from that it's a lot quicker!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): If I'm at the beginning of a relationship and i'm fairly clear I'd like it to go somewhere, daily texting/ emailing is very acceptable - makes a guy feel fancied and needed! A few days gap and I'd think that she can take me or leave me so for that reason, I'd play it cool too, until the whole thing fizzled out.Just my personal view.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
First off everyone is different.Just be yourself,and treat your partner or interest how you would like them to treat you.I personally like a lot of contact.If my gf went 24 hours without contacting me I would seriously think there was something wrong.On the other hand there are times when it can get excessive.During work hours I don`t expect/want anything unless its important. If I went out with friends (which I don`t) same rule would apply. But during me free time I want to be with her as much as I can.When shes here its nice to just have her in my presence.But shes not so I spend as much time talking to her on-line as I can.Even if I can never really think of anything to say its nice knowing shes at the other end of the keyboard.
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