Pregnant and very confused
Q. I just found out that I am pregnant. I am a fresh 26, in the middle of earning a Master's Degree, working full time, and currently with the man I will marry. I am surprised, we have spoken about having children - in a few years, not in a ...
A. 8 January 2010: you haven't mentioned if you have considered not having the baby. So as you haven't mentioned it i guess you've not considered it as an option this makes me think you have already made your decision. ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of hurting them both with my selfish indecisivness..
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. For these three years, we have been the center of eachothers attention, and have been completely happy up until a few months ago. I reconnected with an old friend, and feel like I have been falling ...
A. 8 January 2010: maybe you should talk to your boyfriend. You can be involved with your friend so long as you do not break the rules. You are aloud to be friends with a boy go out hang out see movies get coffee or what ever so long as you do not sleep with him. I ... (read in full...)
He's dating me, but he's engaged, what would you do?
Q. hey, im a 16 year old girl really need some advice... i recently got a job on weekends and at my interview met a boy who is now 21. ive been working for 2 months now and weve become better friends over this time, he was always helping me out an...
A. 8 January 2010: ok kid listen up. He wants you to be his bit on the side. If this is ok with you then regardless of what other people think say and feel do what you like. But remember this is a bit of fun its sex not a relationship its not easy its very very ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's penis won't get hard?
Q. So, we have not often because of my living place, and the paper thin walls. But we do when we are alone and the moment strikes. Anyway I guess you could say 1-2 times a week. We had sex yesterday morning, and today he comes over to my place after ...
A. 7 January 2010: its stress a hot bath and a back rub will sort this out. ... (read in full...)
What questions can I ask him about himself?
Q. Ok so this guy i'm into said let's play that game where we can ask each other absolutly anything, this was on msn and as soon as he said it I had to go offline, so I texed him saying we'll play next time. We're getting closer and we know how far ...
A. 7 January 2010: be bold. Ask him things that will put him on edge. But dont give so much about yourself. You can do it a few different ways you could just talk dirty asking him what he likes when having sex and what he would like you to ware or you could use this ... (read in full...)
I know I shouldn't but I'm falling for him... Help!
Q. hey guys. this is a weird one but plz help!!! i've recently went back home to europe to c my family over christmas. Went out with my mum for new year and we bumped into her cousin that i never really saw before and there was a heavy attracti...
A. 7 January 2010: I cant tell you what to do but i want you to think about some points that need consideration.
1 You are related, in the eyes of your family this could be very wrong.
2 he has 4 kids from 2 different people
3 he's already divoiced
4 it... (read in full...)
I need ideas! What can I do to get him to try and lose weight?
Q. Recently I have noticed my fiance's weight gain. To me it's not a problem, I still find him attractive no matter what. But he's noticed it and has got a complex about it, his frineds call him 'fat' fatty' etc and I can see it really gets to him. ...
A. 7 January 2010: this is not your job if he wants to loose weight then he will. If he wants to be cant then there is still nothing you can do. you can try to support him lossing weight but dont say you think he should when its obvious that you're the only one who is ... (read in full...)
Is it normal what I'm doing/feeling?
Q. Hello, I'm 15 years old and I look at pictures of naked women online sometimes, which I like very much :/ and also when I'm out shopping and I pass a lingerie section, I always stare at the models, quite aroused. But the thing is I'm totally into ...
A. 7 January 2010: you feel like you're the only person you know who feels like this but you're not. You sound bicurious this is nothing to worry about. there are lots of people who you know who are going through the same thing and wont talk about it because there ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm a lesbian?
Q. I always seem to be thinking about how attractive females at my school are. I get turned on by females and occasionaly males. This year I had strong feelings for a female in my class. I had romantic feelings and that tingly feeling. I watched ...
A. 7 January 2010: well you sound like you like both. This is called being bisexual and you know by the fact that you like both men and women... (read in full...)
How can I bring back the spark in our relationship and stop worrying about her actions with other guys
Q. my girlfriend and I really love each other, however there is a slight issue. She is close friends to another guy and sees him as her good friend but then they used to like eachother in the past, although it was at different time. They would phone ...
A. 7 January 2010: my my we are tense. Sounds like you should give this one up plenty more fish in the sea. However if thats not an option you could tell her what you want how things have to change and then give her a reason to change. But you need to know what you ... (read in full...)
Three months and he hasn't even attempted to make out with me...
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for three months. we were both each other's first kiss, so we're both fairly new to the whole kissing thing but i really want him to make out with me but he hasn't even tried. i think he's afraid he'll do it ...
A. 7 January 2010: i agree light the fire so to speak. Go up to your guy and simply kiss him. make the first move simples ... (read in full...)
Older boy, what are the rules?
Q. hey, This isn't that exciting, but I'm just fishing around for ideas really.. I'm 19, and I'm seeing this guy, who is 25. (this bit isn't a big deal. he's quite a young 25, i'm quite an old 19.. ) WE've both had long term relationship thi...
A. 7 January 2010: if your seeing him and his not seeing anyone else then your boyfriend and girlfriend unless its agreed otherwise hope that clears that bit up. The age gap is very little i wouldnt even bring it up... (read in full...)
Should I tell him why I cant be around him anymore? I feel cheap and gutted that he doesn't want to date me!
Q. This is really long but I think I need some professional help. I have never had much confidence but when I started my new job a few years back it was meant as a new start and I felt really positive, however, after a few weeks things weren't g...
A. 7 January 2010: oh you poor dear. I think this guy sounds like he doesn't know what he wants he dont want a relationship but wants to get with you. well if you dont want that be strong and ditch him. as for friends and such like keep socialising and stop looking ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Misunderstood...
Q. Hi, Me and my boyfriend been going together for 5 months, and on our 5th month anniversary, he wanted to tell me something, because he thought it was best for me to know, and he told me a year ago, he was attracted to men, but he never went with a ...
A. 7 January 2010: if hes not attracted to men no problem. If he's attracted to men again no problem its called being bisexual he's with you and no one else you should except him the way he is. Get over it and grow up its no big deal ... (read in full...)
What can I do to last a bit longer during sex?
Q. Basically, me and my girlfriend have recently started to have sex. She's the first girlfriend I've had that I've been having sex with and when we first started doing it I lasted quite a while. Within a few times of doing it i had lasted 90 minute...
A. 7 January 2010: well i think you dont need to worry at all. If you managed to last 90minutes then you'll be fine you just need to remain in control and not go so fast. have sex slower. Failing that there are condoms you can get with lube in that makes you last ... (read in full...)
What do you do if your PE coach has a crush on you?
Q. I'm 15 years old and im in high school, lately my PE coach has been flirting with me. He's told me how good I'm doing in his class, and how much I remind him of an actress off his favorite tv show. I've caught him looking at me when I wasnt looking, ...
A. 7 January 2010: dont be daft. This is not a road you want to go down. use your brain and stick with your own age. ... (read in full...)
I feel kind of trapped, what do I do?
Q. So i have my boyfriend who's this perfect guy who im super super attached to. But then there's this other guy who was my best friend then he started to like me so i made out with him one night. I told my bf all about it and he forgave me. but my ...
A. 7 January 2010: your in a difficult situation choose between them and stick to it. It might seem easier to see them both but it will end in tears and they'll be yours... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how he feels... what do I do?
Q. he says he doenst want a relationship and doesn't like getting into one. however, he says I am 'cute, sexy and have a nice personality.. lets just see where it goes'. We get on well and make each other laugh. He's been calling, texting and...
A. 7 January 2010: this guys messing you about and leeding you on ditch this dick before you get hurt... (read in full...)
I need to get over my ex... but how???
Q. Bear with me, this may take a while. I'm a 21 year old female and up until two years ago I was a very logical, rational (some might say cold) person. I'd had one serious relationship with a guy I cared deeply about at the time, we were together a ...
A. 7 January 2010: i do not think time away would be a bad idea. However the only thing that is going to heal this is time. Usually i find it to take twice the length of the relationship but the reason its so hard is you were friends first. Thing makes things much ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and porn...
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost 2 years with my current girlfriend. Things are going great, and we both confide in each other for pretty much everything. Porn has been a little bit of an issue in our relationship, though. I like to watch ...
A. 7 January 2010: you have nothing to worry about. either nothing will come of this or you will over worry and it will become an isue. fantacy is very different from the real thing... (read in full...)
There's definitely something between us, but we're both spoken for already. What should I do?
Q. Here is the problem i have. About 6 months ago i met a girl. Well i didnt meet here then i met her about 2 years ago but i met her again 6 months ago. I started talking to her online. We realised that we didnt live so far away from each other...
A. 2 January 2010: Thanks... (read in full...)
Could she be avoiding me?
Q. I need some help. There's this girl who i really like. She told me that she has a crush on me and i took advantage of it. She is still not my girlfriend. We have been fine these past months but i can't help to think that she's avoding me. She never ...
A. 28 December 2009: I think she's messing you about mate. Ditch her and find someone who only wants you and you like for more than just the convinence of it... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to do something bad so I hurt. How can I fix this?
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months, i love him to death and he is so good to me, he treats me like a princess, but I want him to fight with me, i want him to do something so bad i hurt. Now in my past relationship they have ...
A. 28 December 2009: I think your being daft. Your relationship well get to a point all by its self where you are "fighting" what i think you mean is arguing. There is no need at all to try and create arguments be greatful that its bliss because in any relationship that ... (read in full...)
I scared him and now he thinks I'm clingy! How do I fix this?
Q. Ive slept with my friend a few times now and things were progressing until I got drunk at a pub and scared him... I know he likes me... Is there anyway I can fix this? Ever since we have had sex, the friendship has changed... which I knew it would, ...
A. 28 December 2009: I doubt he only wants sex because he hasn't been in a relationship before. i think you know full well what you got to do. Back off quit the drink for a bit let him come to you reply to every other text not every text.
its a really big deal tha... (read in full...)
Why does my husband think showing me his flaccid penis is a turn on?
Q. Married 6 years and very happy. My husband is 15 years older than me but eveyone who knows would say I am the mature party in our relationship. We have a toddler and our sex life is gearing back up now that nights are less interrupted and back to ...
A. 28 December 2009: ok so this is your husband and i can understand that you've been together for 6 years but you discribe him as a naked unfit immature older guy. Perhaps he has a problem getting it up and wants some help. Or maybe he is just messing about. If you ... (read in full...)
How do I confront him without it turning into a major fight?
Q. I have been going out with my current bf for just a little over 2 years. He has just gone back for two weeks during the holidays to visit family and he assures me that he is not going to meet any female. We have had problems in the past about ...
A. 28 December 2009: he's dont nothing wrong yet. These photos could be of him with a family member. You might be being inscure however if you think he is cheating and you can prove he is lying then get rid of him love... (read in full...)
Unsure about bringing another man into the marriage?
Q. I am confused as I said before I am married , and my husband has asked me several times about bringing another man into our bed. We even have named my dildo, at this point I am fine with the dildo in my mouth, or pussy while my husbands penis is i...
A. 28 December 2009: to be honest i dont not think that a marriage is the type of relationship for a threesome. If he has these idea's then he is obviously bisexual and you might want to question who this other person might be as he may be seeing somreone else and just ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy and just wanna know how to do the whole kissing process.
Q. Okay you guys so, me and my bf have been dating for 3 months now and we haven't kissed or anything. So tommorrow is the last day of school and i really want to do it but idk like how to you know get him close enough to kiss him. And also I've never ...
A. 21 May 2009: Hey ok so there are a few ways you can get him close enough. First you can trick him. Tell him you want to tell him something secret like a whisper.
Second you simply be a little obvious. make sure there are few or no people near you. Then loo... (read in full...)
Who has it worse: the one being cheated on, or the one doing the cheating?
Q. Do you think that if you are the cheater and are full of remorse and regret for what you have done and love and adore your spouse dearly, could it possibly feel worse than being the one who has been cheated on? Before you ask, we were going through ...
A. 14 March 2009: What is your idea of cheating if not physically. And to answer your question, Yes i believe so. Dont let it get in your way... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is depressed and won't see anyone about it!
Q. what should i do to help my boyfriend i think he is depressed and he wont see a shrink he says he hates himself in everyway and one time he left a party early and walk home which was miles away because (and this is what he sed) everyone else was so ...
A. 14 March 2009: You need to talk to someone on his behalf. It will help in the long run. Plus he will than you in the long run... (read in full...)
Are people ever just joking about threesome offers like this?
Q. Do people really joke about threesome invitations? I don’t want to over react over nothing. Im sorry for how long the question is. I am 19. I am still a virgin mostly by choice. I have a long time close friend “bob” that has sort of a girlfr...
A. 14 March 2009: seen as the first reply didnt get through im going to try again.
It sound like you gave the right answer for you at the time. IF it comes up again then you can chose to give the same answer again. However i think that you should not worry un... (read in full...)
Will he think I'm cheap for sleeping with him? Was that all he wanted?
Q. hey people i split up with my boyfriend of one year 3 weeks ago on my terms as we argued all of the time and he wasnt very nice to me. Im quite happy about it. 2 weeks ago, i went out and met a ver attractive boy. We kissed and he asked for ...
A. 14 March 2009: You should not leave it like this. Contact him if it comes up talk about it tell him its not a problem. Believe me its better if he knows that its not a problem for you. I think there might be something between the two of you and its not a bad th... (read in full...)
I love him but he's got a g/f and I wouldn't want to break them up
Q. So theres this guy (lets call him fred) iv known fred for 3 years now, and we've only just got really close, and since december (tis now march) iv been having feelings for him, the strongest feelings iv ever felt, i thought id been in love once but ...
A. 13 March 2009: first you need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him and tell him the last thing you want is him to break up with his girl friend. Tell him your content with just being friends as longs as thats all he wants. Tell him unless he want y... (read in full...)
How am I going to know if the guy is gay or not?
Q. thanks everybody who have contributed in answering my questions. again even though i can not change the nature of bein a gay and a mascline guy, how do i know that those mascline guys that are bein attracted to me are gay or not? how do i a...
A. 13 March 2009: have you thought about internet dating... (read in full...)
My ex bf wants to be friends with me
Q. My ex bf wants to be friends with me. I dont know if its a good idea or not. I broke up with him because he was abusive. I still care for him alot, infact I still love him, but I dont know if I can be frineds with him. I dont feel I can trust him,...
A. 13 March 2009: i read the first 3 lines of your story before i made up my mind. You should not be friends as you are still in love with him. You need to clean break from this guy untill you are over him. That means you have stopped loving him. Second he abus... (read in full...)
How to make him feel more secure about sex life
Q. My boyfriend of almost 4 years proposed to me last Christmas and we have been planning the wedding which will be happening this summer. Everything has been great, but we are both Christian and well, I havent really expressed myself sexually. He is a ...
A. 12 March 2009: right first off im not christian so if i upset you then sorry thats why. I would imagine the no sex before married thing can be interpreted differently. Two ways i would think it could be interpreted.
1. No sexual intercourse everything else goe... (read in full...)
How to cope with breakup when living together?
Q. I am going through a very rough time dealing with a break up. I've been with this girl for 3 years. She is the love of my life. I could imagine being with her forever. There is something so special about her that I can't imagine finding in another ...
A. 12 March 2009: pack a bag get your passport and leave. Make sure everything is paid on the house for the next month. Leave the City at least if not the country. Not for good just 4 weeks. Leave her by her self. In that time do not contact her.
Tell her where yo... (read in full...)
Creative ideas for asking him out?
Q. I need some creative date ideas for asking someone out, sounds easy right? One problem, he works 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. I mean yes I admire the dedication and all but it makes stealing a couple hours of his time a little more difficult. I ...
A. 12 March 2009: Hey.
Right this really isn't going to work to well. Your first bet is to plan for the next bank holiday. Do something totally not work related and i would say try and get everything done in one date.
That way you can plan the next date as a s... (read in full...)
Can trust be prepared in a short time?
Q. My fiance has lied to me before. The first time, I went away out of town on business and she secretly met up with her Ex after midnight near her house. I was texting her throughout that night and wondering why she didn't reply. So when I came back ...
A. 12 March 2009: First you want to talk about trust?
Quote: "but when i looked in her inbox"
Whats that about, your going through her phone. Obviously it ain't just her that cant be trusted.
You can trust her as much as she can trust you. Why are you i... (read in full...)
Want her to want me more than just a friend
Q. i met my best friend 7 yrs ago when I was just 16 . The moment I saw her was all over her. Every day since we have hung out. We have went on several dates over the years that amount to nothing. I am totally in love with her and she know its. I don't ...
A. 12 March 2009: oh for f**k sake!
I have been in simmilar situations but this is blaintnly obvoius. Its simply and easy. You dont have partners you both date other people to try and get a reaction from the other.
She finds it a little difficult to get... (read in full...)
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