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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:This is really long but I think I need some professional help.I have never had much confidence but when I started my new job a few years back it was meant as a new start and I felt really positive, however, after a few weeks things weren't going well, I loved the work but the girls I worked with were nasty and bullies, I didn't want to leave and stuck it out, a new guy started in another part of the building a few months later and I liked him from the first time we met, he was confident, smart etc. and he really helped me out and I don't think I would have stuck it out without him, we have known each other for about a year and a half and when we first me he had a girlfriend he has been single for about a year and now has a bit of a rep as a player (always has I think) but about six months ago we kissed, he doesn't want a relationship with me, just a bit of 'fun' I thought no way at first but because I am well me (never had a boyfriend, never been kissed etc. no friends) I thought why not for once just have some 'fun', it doesn't seem to bother him just kissing and touching (we haven't had sex my choice he wants to) now and again but I want more and I am just pretending that I am cool with it and in a way I am because like I said never been with a guy in anyway before now but I feel cheap and gutted that he doesn't want to date me or care for me. My day feels incomplete if I don't see him but he only talks when it suits. I must say that no one at work knows that we have kissed etc. even although it has happended twice at work. He told me last week that he has a new job and will be leaving next month and I am gutted although I am happy in my job I am really going to miss his support, he says he will keep in touch, don't think so though because he doesn't keep in touch just now like I said only when he is around.I have tried going out more to meet people, I have joined clubs but nothing. I have tried not to confide in him and am trying to avoid him but it just hurts me. He wants to pick me up for work on Friday and I know we would probably have a kiss and I want to because I like him but I have said no to a lift and he has asked me why. HELP
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reader, Jager +, writes (7 January 2010):
oh you poor dear. I think this guy sounds like he doesn't know what he wants he dont want a relationship but wants to get with you. well if you dont want that be strong and ditch him. as for friends and such like keep socialising and stop looking for a man. Trying to hard could make it to difficult. good luck
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