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30-35,
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writes:i met my best friend 7 yrs ago when I was just 16 . The moment I saw her was all over her. Every day since we have hung out. We have went on several dates over the years that amount to nothing. I am totally in love with her and she know its. I don't try to hide my feelings for her at all. Yet she keeps dating jerks all the time. After each bad date or break up im the one she cries to and I pick up all the pieces. She tells me she loves me and often sends me signs that she wants more then it just dies off again. Physically we have messed around several times before but never to the point of intercourse. Last weekend when she was drunk she got in bed with me (we are now roommates) and got undressed and asked me to make love to her, I didn't because I would never take advantage of her in a situation like that. (believe me guys it was very hard to refuse). She is beautiful , sweet and truly the girl of my dreams. So how can i get her to want me as more then a friend and she gets mad if i date other girls and always finds something bad to say about all of them.
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reader, stewart +, writes (12 March 2009):
stewart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I took your advice, she asked me to watch a movie with her last night and I said that I had a date (even though i was really going to the mall alone) WHen I came back she asked how my date went and when I said great she got pissed. When I confronted her about it she walked in her room. I few minutes later she came out in tears and said "Youre perfect, I cant find anything wrong with you. So I keep thinking you cant be real, some how that you will hurt me more then any other guy" I walked up to her kissed her and said "no way". It may have taken me 7 yrs but I think I finally may have gotten her attention. And damn the sex was great!
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reader, Jager  +, writes (12 March 2009):
oh for f**k sake!
I have been in simmilar situations but this is blaintnly obvoius. Its simply and easy. You dont have partners you both date other people to try and get a reaction from the other.
She finds it a little difficult to get confident enough to make the first move because she is fed up of waiting for you to make the move. So gets drunk and get naked and begs you to make love to her. MATE! thats a hint.
So enough rubbish. Maybe you didnt because you didnt think you could due to her being drunk taking advantage whatever. But you know what she wants you know what you want. she knows what you want. You both want each other.
you living together you dont date other people because she dont want you to. and she dates other guys because she wants a reaction from you.
Go to her now. Kiss her and if at all possible take her to bed tell her not to say anything ask her to trust you. If it blows up. Sack it
Just stop messing about and wasting time. Because she might find someone else while your f**king around waiting
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reader, sinatrak +, writes (12 March 2009):
I went through a very similar situation. And I know this really sucks because it did for me, but you have to work up the courage and have this conversation that you just posted with her. You have to tell her how you feel about the dating scene, I think it really is a all or nothing thing, you can't let it go on like this because it will just hurt you in the end. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): I understand you cause i've been through the same (with a boy) and it's hard, i also respect you because wow!! you didn't do it when she told you to and i know you were dying to. It's good that you don't put pressure on her, but she's like getting used to have you available all the time. So go out on more dates and the moment she tells you about how she desn't like your date, ask her who would she like for you, there's gotta be an answer to that question, and if she really loves you and doesn't wanna lose you she'll take it as an advice that you too can't be in this situation any more. Stop messing around with her and the next time she tryes to kiss/anything you, stop her and tell her you don't kiss your friends any more, will she be more than a friend? i hope so cause you seem really nice and really in love with her so don't worry -from what i see, you're ment to be together, some day it'll happen, i swear. Of couse if you dare, say it in her face, you too need to sit down and have a talk about what kind of relationship you have.
Hope it helps and good luck!!
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reader, laurac +, writes (12 March 2009):
It seems like she may just want to keep you around just incase..... If after all this time she doesnt seems to treat u with respect move on .
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