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writes:I just found out that I am pregnant. I am a fresh 26, in the middle of earning a Master's Degree, working full time, and currently with the man I will marry. I am surprised, we have spoken about having children - in a few years, not in a few months. My body reaction was okay with finding out the news. My mind was saying to go to Planned Parenthood as soon as possible.Am I in shock? Denial? Or is my biological clock telling me that it's okay yet my mind is telling me to pursue a more stable career/education/marriage? I'm not really sure what to do next, classes start next week and I am in the midst of a huge project with work and my boyfriend is experiencing a bout of unemployment and trying desperately to get back into the field (he's a lawyer). What are these mixed signals in my mind and body? Which do I listen to? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): Listen to body. If you don't, you will regret it. Tell him, and discuss whether or not you want to put it up for adoption. But if you are confused, I foresee a lifetime of doubt and misery of what could have been if you go through with an abortion. If he is a lawyer and you are working on a masters, in the long run jobs shouldn't be an issue.
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reader, malibubabes30  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 there isnt alot anyone can say im afraid! just to give you advice on your options and how you feel about things, was you happy when you saw your positive pregnancy result? 26 is a nice ripe age to have a baby, i dont htink you would regret it if you had the baby! i think you would regret it if you didn't! having a termination will affect you emotionaly and will probably play on your mind all the time, you will think your going crazy! and you don't want to live your life thinking "what if". i have no intention of making you feel bad and im sorry if what i have said makes you feel upset, this is a confusing time for you, i know as i have been in a similar situation! but i couldn't go through with a termination and i am so happy that i didnt, as my daughter is now 10, she's wonderful! only you can make your mind up! no matter what we say on here, it's your decision, would life really be that bad if you had your baby? or would it be a wonderful experience, the best experience(theres nothing else in the world that compares to carrying your baby, seeing it on the scans, finding out if it's a boy or a girl, planning what to name him/her, then holding him/her in your arms for the first time, feeding him/her, the feeling is over whelming. but if you want to keep going with your career then keep going, but remember, this is a miracle, lots of people cant concieve at all, and that is how special this is! you are nto getting any younger, and you may have trouble concieving later on in life ! Think about it, talk to your boyfriend to and see what he says, tell him how you feel, get everything out in the open! this is part of both you that you both created :)
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (8 January 2010):
 Listen to your heart. I am a faithful person, and believe spirit will not give me something that was not intended for me. I have 3 children, and I am 27! Crazy, right? I am not very wealthy, but my house is full of love, and we live very comfertably. I go to school, and do many things that new moms fear they will never do or finish because of a baby. Babies are only babies for a short while, and before you know it, they are in school and you are left wondering what to do with yourself. Your new baby will not interfere with your goals in life if find a way to manage your time in a way that allows you to attend school and enjoy mothering at the same time. You have the power to manifest anything you want, so if you are in love with your boyfriend, and are happy with making a baby with him, then embrace it. Enjoy your pregnancy, be smart, strong, and happy! Babies are a wonderful gift:)
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reader, Jager +, writes (8 January 2010):
you haven't mentioned if you have considered not having the baby. So as you haven't mentioned it i guess you've not considered it as an option this makes me think you have already made your decision.
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