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writes:My boyfriend of almost 4 years proposed to me last Christmas and we have been planning the wedding which will be happening this summer. Everything has been great, but we are both Christian and well, I havent really expressed myself sexually. He is a very passionate guy, a couple of years younger than me, and (based on what he said) although he loves me and will always do, he fears that, since I've been very timid and scared of going too far while in our bf/gf relationship, he wont enjoy our sexual life as much as he hopes he will once we get married. I have told him that it will be better because we will both feel completely right to give everything (craziness,passion, love, fun) to each other....but I guess its hard to not fear it at this point. What can I do meanwhile to spice up our relationship and make him feel a little bit more secure about our future sex life? Thanks a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009):
Just tell him that people don't make it a habit of locking up their houses & cars & vaults because they're empty.
He's a virgin too, right? Well does that mean he's a prude? An outside observer might wonder that about HIM too, but that doesn't mean it's true.
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reader, Jager  +, writes (12 March 2009):
right first off im not christian so if i upset you then sorry thats why. I would imagine the no sex before married thing can be interpreted differently. Two ways i would think it could be interpreted.
1. No sexual intercourse everything else goes.
2. No sex means anything sexual at all is a no no.
if its number 1 then its rather obvious oral sex anal sex masterbation goes. So everything but sex is fine.
If its number 2 then your stuck.
I dont understand why if your getting married for sure you cant have sex. But thats why its your faith and not mine
I would think that if i was following a faith and had a question like this i would talk to someone who knows more than myself about the faith.
so in your case this would be your church. Go to coffession or something talk to one of your church people and word it carefully and you might just get your answer.
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