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I've been here since the beginning of April 2009. And even though I'm new here, It's been a pleasure to come across the diversity of people and knowing that we are not alone in relationship issues.
I'm a writer. Unpublished, but I'm looking into the Liberal Arts field. I believe art defines freedom of the soul.
I'm brutally honest. I will say what I think in giving advice.
I do my best to come online as much as I can and give advice the best I can.
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I think my boyfriend isn't interested anymore!
Q. iam in a relation with my boyfriend for 3 month and we had a very good relation actually he loves me from last year in school and now he isnt calling me or saying nice words (he usually does) i think he doesnt love me anymore he dosent let me feel ...
A. 15 June 2010: The first months of a relationship are called the "honeymoon phase". When that phase is done, the romance usually fades down, but it's up to the couple to work on spicing things up. It could be that something is going on in his personal life. A... (read in full...)
Is the honeymoon over? How can I bring it back?
Q. hi. me and my boyfriend have been together 3 months. its a very loving and close relationship, infact we both agree it feels like we've been together 3 years rather than 3months. anyway, the past week has been difficult. i know it cant all be perf...
A. 15 June 2010: It's common and utterly normal that you are quite upset about the honeymoon phase being over. Having said that, it's always after the honeymoon phase where couples are put to the test. Can they handle not being "lovey dovey" or being like how t... (read in full...)
"Some Cupids kill with arrows some with traps."
Q. "Some Cupids kill with arrows some with traps." I have been in a rocky relationship with my boyfriend for the last two years. We are currently having problems with communication. I feel pressured to make interesting conversation because he wants to ...
A. 21 May 2010: Does your boyfriend have his own priorities and hobbies?
If not, it's time you push him to some. Do it positively, of course. Both of you, do different activities, so the conversations can vary once more.
Good luck to you!... (read in full...)
Why did my shy crushes mom keep looking at me?
Q. Just last night, my crushes mom was over to pick her son up. My parents were also there (for most of the time, just my mom) and they were chatting with her. For time to time, I noticed her mom looking over at me the same way her daughter does. For ...
A. 8 May 2010: It seems like, possibly, your crush could have the same feelings for you and her mother knows about this.
Her mother is probably staring at you because she sees you as the perfect gentleman for her daughter.
This all adds up. Try making a mov... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to "pop the question" on the night of our friends' wedding?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years now. We've known each other for about 3.75 years. One of my best friends is getting married to one of my gf's best friends in August and yes, we're both in the wedding party. I know my ...
A. 6 May 2010: Congratulations!!!
To be honest, wait a week. Let the newlyweds have their big moment and the limelight put on them. Propose to her after a week and she'll be calling her best friend with great news!!!
Good luck to you!!... (read in full...)
Our daughter went missing whilst oversea's 4 years ago. How do I let go?
Q. Everything I'm about to tell you is true. Four years ago, we had a horrific tragedy occur in the family. We lost our 19 year old daughter to human trafficking. She was a very bright girl; got A's in all her classes and even graduated third ...
A. 29 April 2010: Oh my goodness. This truly is an awful, awful loss. I am SO sorry.
Have you tried moving with your daughter to the place? You do need time to refresh about everything that has happened and start all over again.
If not, tell your youngest. B... (read in full...)
LDR advice, I love him so much but he makes me feel guilty just for asking him to talk to me. Help?
Q. Ok so I started dating my boyfriend 6 months ago and we fell MADLY in love, either of us had ever felt such intense feelings before and we were incredibly happy. Then a month and a half later I gave my virginity to him, then a week later he ...
A. 29 April 2010: I was in a four year LDR. In 6 months of my relationship with him, he moved to a city eight hours away from me, but we kept the contact.
Long distance relationships always go through this at some point. After a year with this man, he barely t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is obsessed with me!
Q. My girlfriend is obsessed with me! We're both 18 and both in out first proper relationship. We've been going out for nearly 3 months now and she's turned into such a bunny boiler it's actually scaring me. Seriously, we're apart for 5 minutes and she ...
A. 29 April 2010: Ouch. The clingy type.
My mother's close friend is like this. She expects a close contact, gets upset if no calls or texts are returned, and forget her friends.
Approach with caution. Women like this are hard to talk to. But in order to calm... (read in full...)
Give me some advice on how to trust again!
Q. hey all this is kind of long so thanks for taking the time to read it if you can. Been with my partner for a year now. i love him so much as he does me. there is just one thing that is ruining us, and that is my trust issues, i got hurt badly by...
A. 26 April 2010: It's time to take a break from your boyfriend. You obviously have some personal issues you need to let go before you ruin your relationship.
My advice to you is take time for yourself. Give him space. And as much as you want to yell at him for ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my boyfriend's best friend!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have two kids we have been falling out for 2 or 3 years. i met his friend 7 years ago to and instantly fell head over heels. then him and my boyfriend got into it and quit talking for a long time. they ...
A. 26 April 2010: These feelings are obviously eating away inside of you. This is a "what if" moment you could possibly look back to many years from now if you never did anything. But it sounds more like a risk than taking a chance... Either way, right now he'... (read in full...)
I guess she thinks that I only want to have sex with her but I don't!
Q. Ok I've asked this question before but I don't get many answers so I'm asking again. I'm sort of in love with this girl. She is one of my best friends and in many ways she is my best friend. I mean she is the only one that supports me when I say I'm ...
A. 26 April 2010: Opposites attract. They really do.
It's not like she's *always* going to be dating lazy, skate boys. She will one day open her eyes and see who was there all along.
She has fears because of past relationships. If she believes you only want it... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me not to go ahead and sleep with other women when she says it's ok?
Q. I don't know what to make of this. I have only had sex with one woman. She and I are together and we plan on getting married. Although we haven't set a date we are serious. She has had sex with seven other guys before. She keeps telling me ...
A. 26 April 2010: She'd rather have you do it now than later when you two are even more serious in the relationship.
You don't want to. Simple. She has to trust your word that you won't get curious in a later date and end up getting curious with another woman.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me but now he doesn't want me to see other guys
Q. i been datin this guy for 8 months,he broke up with me last sunday and i begged him and cried sayin i didnt want anyone else. i now know this was a mistake as i have been reading that begging pushes them away but anyways he talks 2 me some at schoo...
A. 26 April 2010: If you want him back after chasing him, don't contact him. As much as you want to, do something to take your mind out of it and keep your adrenaline pumping. Do exercise. Listen to music loudly. Whatever keeps your mind out of it and from contacting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me but now he doesn't want me to see other guys
Q. i been datin this guy for 8 months,he broke up with me last sunday and i begged him and cried sayin i didnt want anyone else. i now know this was a mistake as i have been reading that begging pushes them away but anyways he talks 2 me some at schoo...
A. 25 April 2010: Okay, your ex boyfriend is like a spoiled child. He may have found new toys, but he doesn't want people playing with his old ones.
You love him. And that brings you to do whatever it takes to make him happy. But now he finds you easy and just lea... (read in full...)
Bisexual boyfriend has cheated twice but I can't leave!
Q. So my bi-boyfriend, the man I have loved for the longest time, the man I have sacrificed so much of my time and have given my entire self to, has just revealed to me that he cheated on me twice: once when we just got to gether, and the second with ...
A. 23 April 2010: Oh goodness... =(
Cheating hurts, I know it does. However, if your man wants you to believe and trust in him, he has to prove himself for it.
It makes things tougher because you two are living together, but why not take a break from him? You th... (read in full...)
Should I call off my wedding to a man who finds me unattractive?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we're engaged and getting married this summer but lately he's been acting weird towards me he complains about my weight he tells me that I'm not attractive anymore, the sex is awesome, he wants it all ...
A. 23 April 2010: For women, looks is highly important to us. As sad as that may be or how much we try to deny it, we want to look good for our men.
You definitely need to work through some issues here. Ask him what else he doesn't like about you and such. He has n... (read in full...)
What's going on with my girlfriend?
Q. What is going on with my girlfriend? We've been dating for over a year and everything has been going really great. She has been very sweet and everything. However a few weeks ago she went away on a volunteer trip with a group of girls for her coll...
A. 21 April 2010: What exactly was her trip?
It could be the overload of stress. Maybe an issue with friends, family, etc. Maybe the work is just getting to her head and she's not dealing with this stress very well.
I don't know. It sounds to me the trip she too... (read in full...)
Is his 'busy at work' an excuse?
Q. For 4 months I chatted to a man over the internet, things had been going really great. Then all of a sudden he stops emailing, texting and calling…completely. 2 weeks went by and I had had not seen him online at all which I thought was rather str...
A. 21 April 2010: At least he's keeping contact. If he didn't want anything to do with you, then he would have stopped contacting you. Period.
His work is very demanding. Sounds to me you are worrying a little too much. If you want to ease your stress, maybe as... (read in full...)
Is the relationship over; what should I do?
Q. I have been with my fiance now for 5 years we just recently got engaged, I understand I am really young, I am almost 21; but I am really mature. I go to college full time, work part time, and I have had a struggling past through growing up. My ...
A. 21 April 2010: Five years is a serious amount. You both have a life together in the future: marriage, house, kids. A break isn't a break up, but my best assumption is that he wants you to manage without him. You two are getting married soon. So it mean... (read in full...)
She's curious about a girlfriend
Q. recently i have noticed a string of changes between me and my girlfriend. on sunday evening, she opened up and told me while she is in love with me, there is another person who she shares feelings for. i am male, the other person is female. s...
A. 21 April 2010: Oh dear. Your girlfriend is quite confused right now. She's going through some heavy stuff in her mind right now. Situations like this often have two scenarios: she's confused and just needs to get her mind back on track, or she truly is l... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was molested by his sister
Q. I have known my boyfriend for a total of 5 years, 8 months out of which we have been together. We were very fond of each other as friends and are now in a great, loving relationship. Four months ago, he confided in me about something extrem...
A. 21 April 2010: It's bothered him for many years. He finally confessed it up to you, the person most dear to him.
This is a huge piece of information to take. I understand that you loathe his sister for what she has done to him. You love him, so it's only und... (read in full...)
Am I a sick person???
Q. When I was around 12 years old I remember humping my little sister's legs a few times. She is 6 years younger than me, I remember one time she asked me to do it (she thought it was a game), realizing what I was doing was wrong and feeling ashamed I ...
A. 21 April 2010: You were just being curious.
It would have started to become a problem if it was on a daily basis and went on for quite a while. And if you didn't care about her feelings.
Did it traumatize her? To know that, how is she acting now? Is she a se... (read in full...)
How do I get past the fact that he had a life before me, so that I can enjoy what I have with him now?
Q. This has been bothering me for a while now and I don't know how to deal with it. Sorry for the long post but your opinions are appreciated. I first met my BF in June last year. When we met I was also talking to this other guy. After a few date...
A. 19 April 2010: You're not alone. Obsession with the exes happen. I'm a victim of it.
It's awful, I know. You keep comparing yourself to them. And you feel like you're no longer in your relationship but just always thinking about those girls.
Sweetie, the ... (read in full...)
Should I write him to tell what I left out when we broke up?
Q. Long story short:dated this guy John who was a good guyfriend and it did not work out so we broke up,We are on non-speaking terms,I tried to be friendly and asked him to coffee but he turned me down. We were enagaged for 13 hours after he turned me ...
A. 19 April 2010: Sweetie, this is huge. It could explain so, so much to him.
Being pregnant then having a miscarriage is a huge deal. You must let your ex know what happened. Sure, it's a huge thing, but it'll ease his mind (somewhat) and settle things down bet... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I wanted to talk about what's on his phone
Q. hey. well im 18yrs of age and i've been having a lot of obstacles in my past realtionships. well today my boyfriend and i broke up again all because i wanted to talk about something i seen yesterday in his phone. i wasnt going to fuss or fight about ...
A. 19 April 2010: Oh dear.
First off, he does NOT deserve your trust. He cheated on you and does not deserve for you to give him any benefit of the doubt. If you snooped, it was for a reason.
But he obviously hasn't learned his lesson. If you truly want to be... (read in full...)
Still thinking of my ex, can't get him out of my head
Q. hi i really need help i havnt talked to my ex in 2 years went through a really rough break up since then ive gt a new partner and a 1 year old son my partners a great guy and a brilliant dad but i dont feel i love him anymore i want to but i cant ...
A. 19 April 2010: Be careful sweetie, your husband may end up being suspicious of all of this.
This was two years ago, more than likely your ex is over the break up. But it all depends what happened between you and your ex. I would imagine it was very special ... (read in full...)
I've been accused of stalking in the past and I wasn't!
Q. I need some help I've been accused of stalking for about 4years 2 years in middle school and 2 years in high school I swear I have never stalked anyone but it seems like it's every girl I talk to( example: hey how are you, or I don't use hand g...
A. 19 April 2010: Stalking is a serious accusation. It needs evidence, and most importantly, past offenses.
It looks to me that you've had quite the experience. Maybe it isn't your intention, but do you continuously talk to these women? What they thought was just... (read in full...)
In love with ex-coworker's fiancée
Q. Hello, my name is Tyler and here's my story…it’s pretty long so bear with me. About this time last year I started working at a company with few other employees…one to be exact it was just me this other gentleman and our boss so naturally I became ...
A. 19 April 2010: Ouch. To be honest, it sounds to me she's stringing you along. She has two children. One from a different man. It's going to be obvious that these men will come in your life with her (if you two end up together) because of the children. So there's ... (read in full...)
He says we should live separately so not to be in each other's faces
Q. After my ex and i broke up, he kept texting me that he wanted me back,i told him that we have to work on a few things first and he agreed! so he came over last night and said that we should live separately giving each other space that way we would ...
A. 19 April 2010: Think about this for a moment: What happened in your relationship and why did you two end?
It's great you two are no longer living together so you two can have your own space. But remember this: he is going to want time with the guys. But if he sp... (read in full...)
Do people really believe in horoscopes?
Q. Do people actually believe in horoscopes? I'm looking for somewhere where I can get a horoscope reading which is actually accurate? Thanks :) X...
A. 19 April 2010: Horoscopes work for 1/12 of the world. Because they keep is vague and specific without being TOO specific. What is the average person who looks at horoscopes? Someone with internet access, car, job, etc. Those people experience average problems... (read in full...)
Snooping in fiancee's facebook account made me discover he cheated!
Q. I recently did a bad thing and snooped in my fiance's facebook account. I read a message in there that said that he had sex with a girl whilst on a boys weekend away. This happened a week after we met (we'd only been on one date) and we weren't ...
A. 19 April 2010: First off, why did you snoop? There must have been something in your heart or in your gut telling you that he is hiding something. And the feeling was strong enough for you to snoop around. Tell me, how has he been acting? Did he lead you to ... (read in full...)
Would this be classed as cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years, with him living abroad for the last two and a half. It had been really tough him being away and we have been through some real up and downs but now he is coming back and we are closer than ever and ...
A. 18 April 2010: It wasn't your intention. You didn't mean to cheat. You immediately took action after you realized what was happening. You stayed loyal to your boyfriend.
As for telling your boyfriend. Do YOU think it's necessary? Can you live with (out) the guil... (read in full...)
Afraid to be pregnant
Q. Hello to everyone! I am writing here because I wanted to hear your thoughts on this personal issue. I am a person who loves and adores kids. I always wanted to have children - to be a mom. I couldn't wait till I would be a mother to my children a...
A. 18 April 2010: There will always be dangers. There will always be bad times. But there will also always be good times.
Whether it's the good times or bad, you will still be a mother who loves her children. It is a whole new experience.
So do not be afraid, b... (read in full...)
I'm not completely satisfied with my girlfriend, need advice.
Q. I'm confused about what to do with my girlfriend. We have been together for approximately 4 months. It has been a wonderful experience, but in so many ways I'm not sure if I'm content. Many would consider her very attractive but certain f...
A. 18 April 2010: Are you thinking about the negatives too much?
Most of the time when a person starts to get bored is because of it. But if connection isn't there and you feel the need to be with other women, then it looks like there just isn't something there an... (read in full...)
Is it bad to masturbate so much?
Q. I am 14 years old and i watch porno. i watch the type of porno that is called hentai or animations "mangas" because they usally have stories. everytime i watch it after im done i go and masturbate. i done it a lot lately. at least 3 times a day. is ...
A. 18 April 2010: For your age, of course not! You are only being a normal, curious, teenage boy.
As for cumming pretty easily: When you start feeling like you are about to cum, stop. Let yourself relax for a few minutes then do it again. Do it a few times an... (read in full...)
I'm confused, am I in a serious relationship?
Q. Im meeting a guy for last 15days and we have long conversations everyday. We dated twice and on first day he was holding my hand and was trying get closer to me.Even I enjoyed it but we never speak about any relation or he never said that he likes ...
A. 18 April 2010: The first months of dating are called the "honeymoon phase". You can never stop thinking about him, want to be with him all the time, etc... When I first dated my boyfriend, we decided we wanted to marry after the first week of dating ;). Lol, ... (read in full...)
I'm very addicted to online gaming, how do I get my social life back?
Q. Hey guys so I'm a 15 year old guy and recently my life's been a bit of a mess. I've spent the last few year being an on and off total online gaming addict. I droove away all my friends and spent every bit of spare time playing. I use to be top of my ...
A. 18 April 2010: Have you tried going to your parents for help?
This is something that needs other people involved. You need to not only focus on something else, but also set blocks on your computer. Have your family change your password or block the internet... (read in full...)
School, exams and controlling friends....
Q. i am 16 and doing my GCSEs and i go to one of the top grammer schools in the country and am so stressed because I have become so dumb since i started, i've just been going downhill. My expectations are so high because I used to be top of the class ...
A. 18 April 2010: Ahh yes. Sixteen. The most stereotypical year for a woman...or anyone! I went to an Early College Academy in High School. So yes, extremely high expectations in there. I know exactly how you feel. My first semester there freshmen year I went from... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my previous 'relationship' with her family friend?
Q. Long story short, I've been seeing girl A. 11 years ago (in high school), I dated a girl B who happens to be close family friends with girl A. That relationship with girl B didn't mean much to me. I was younger and had no idea what a relationship ...
A. 18 April 2010: It's become a rule to never talk about the "exes" in a relationship.
It most likely doesn't matter if it's been eleven years from now and the relationship meant nothing to you. But be careful, Girl B could tell Girl A about if before you do (if y... (read in full...)
Do I verbally tell her how I feel, or keep flirting and hope for the best?
Q. i like this girl in my class. we talk everyday and we have became best friends. it started when this other guy in our class started hitting on her. she didn't like him at all and he wouldn't leave her alone. so she asked me if i would sit in between ...
A. 18 April 2010: First off, is she still with her boyfriend?
If so, be very careful. Most Women tend to look for their closest male friend for support. And it may turn out to be rebound.
If not, then you can wait. Wait for her. Be there for her. But sometim... (read in full...)
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