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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:recently i have noticed a string of changes between me and my girlfriend.on sunday evening, she opened up and told me while she is in love with me, there is another person who she shares feelings for. i am male, the other person is female. she says she doesn't want to mess things up with me, but she also has a strong curiosity -as she puts it- as to how this other girl would treat her.it frightens me. i love my girlfriend so much, but she's been so different. we don't talk as much. she doesn't seem to excited to spend time with me. she is even started to ignore my calls.also, she has been making dates to 'hang out' as 'friends' with this other girl... and it kills me on the inside.she says she's keeping it just friends, but what am i supposed to think when they hang out at 9pm, or spend the whole day texting eachother without so much as even messaging me on facebook?what do i do?i don't want to lose my girlfriend...
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reader, Isa123 +, writes (21 April 2010):
 Oh dear. Your girlfriend is quite confused right now. She's going through some heavy stuff in her mind right now.Situations like this often have two scenarios: she's confused and just needs to get her mind back on track, or she truly is lesbian and is falling in love with another girl.My advice is, don't become clingy on her. This has happened with me and my ex. I was confused but he gave me the space I needed to get my mind back. LET HER KNOW YOU LOVE HER. It may add on the confusion, but at least she knows that she must choose carefully.Now, there are boundaries. Don't be too upset if she ignores you or such. But don't ignore her yourself. If she hangs out with the girl or talks to her on Facebook, do the same thing yourself. Now, she can either realize she's straight, lesbian, or bi. It takes quite a while for people to find out. Be patient.Good luck to you.
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