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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have two kids we have been falling out for 2 or 3 years. i met his friend 7 years ago to and instantly fell head over heels. then him and my boyfriend got into it and quit talking for a long time. they started talking again about 4 months ago and all those feelings came back. they were never gone though i thought about him all the time i tryed to get my boyfriend to talk to him all those years so i could be around him. now hes at are house all the time and i work for him. the feelings are just getting stronger and stronger. he is married and his wife has been cheating on him and sneaking around. shes done it a few times to him. now there seperated and she said she hated him the other day and i started crying cause hes a great guy. and its just all the feelings. now my question is should i tell him how i feel or try to get out of him what he feels. he said he couldnt be with his friends girl evan if we werent togeather. i ned help tell me what to do here
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reader, raiders +, writes (26 April 2010):
 I think you shouldn't mess with him, you will be the rebound girl. I think you should work in fixing your relationship with your boyfriend. Let your crush be a crush and don't act on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): I can't say what to do about your man's friend. Apparently, he has his own issues to work out.
As far as you and your man are concerned, I think you guys need to split up. I know there are kids involved, but its no good to any of you if your heart isn't with your partner. Think about it. It's selfish to stay with someone out of obligation. You might be keeping your partner from finding real love, too. Perhaps counseling would benefit the both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): i think that maybe you should think about how betrayed your boyfriend of 7 years would be if he knew how you felt! you would be hurting alot of people if you got with your boyfriends best friend. i think you owe it to your boyfriend, your children and yourself to forget about these feelings. what if you approached his best friend to ask how he felt and he didnt feel the same way?? he might be loyal to his best mate and tell him the things you've said.
i just think you should try and get over these feelings and try improving your current relationship.
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reader, Isa123 +, writes (26 April 2010):
 These feelings are obviously eating away inside of you.This is a "what if" moment you could possibly look back to many years from now if you never did anything. But it sounds more like a risk than taking a chance...Either way, right now he's going through serious relationship issues of his own. He's down and broken, and you don't want to be treated like the rebound girl. And worse, he may not even feel the same way you do about him. My advice, is focus on your own relationship. Before you make a huge decision, be extremely sure that you love his best friend more than you love your own boyfriend. What keeps attracting you to your boyfriend anyway?Good luck sweetie.
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