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writes:Long story short, I've been seeing girl A. 11 years ago (in high school), I dated a girl B who happens to be close family friends with girl A. That relationship with girl B didn't mean much to me. I was younger and had no idea what a relationship was back then. Girl B is married now anyway. I don't think girl A knows about my past "relationship" with her family friend (girl B). Should I tell her about this past "relationship" with Girl B? Reply to this Question
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reader, anotherblahblahblah  +, writes (23 January 2011):
if they are close then she already knows.
it might pay. especially if they play drinking games together. nothing worse then a fun night ending in a drunken domestic because a sly drunken remark slipped.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe've been dating for two months now. Everything is going perfectly. I have not told her. Not sure if I want to at this point because I don't want to ruin what we have.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 April 2010):
I don't think it really matters, since it happened 11 years ago.
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reader, Isa123 +, writes (18 April 2010):
 It's become a rule to never talk about the "exes" in a relationship.
It most likely doesn't matter if it's been eleven years from now and the relationship meant nothing to you. But be careful, Girl B could tell Girl A about if before you do (if you plan to). It could ruin the relationship between them as well.
So my best advice is to tell her yes. But don't get too much into the subject. Just let Girl A know she means much more to you.
Good luck!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 I don't think it matters much because it was such a long time ago, but if you feel like she needs to know, then tell her.
But, think first how she will take it. Although it might not matter now, and logically it doesn't, she might react to it. You know her and you know how she might react, so use that to decide whether to tell her or not.
Perhaps you have a need to be honest with her and that's why you want to tell her. You could even say that to her...tell her that the only reason you're sharing the info is because you want her to know everything about you, and not because this matters. If she's with you for the right reasons and truly feels for you, it won't matter one bit that you tell her about this.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 You don't have to but if you feel strongly about it,then tell her.
It happened 11 years ago and it should not matter now.
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