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writes:Ok so I started dating my boyfriend 6 months ago and we fell MADLY in love, either of us had ever felt such intense feelings before and we were incredibly happy. Then a month and a half later I gave my virginity to him, then a week later he travelled back to his moms house (his mom lives a 28hr drive away, his dad lives 25mins from me). While at his moms he decides to stay and go to university there. Needless to say I was crushed, but I got through it and flew down to him on my reading week to see him a month and a half after he left. Everything was going well, until about a month after I visited him. Normally we would talk on msn and go on skype for hours everynight but suddenly he didn't have the time, he was 'too busy'. (He's not too busy, he doesn't even have a full course load). So I went through weeks of practically BEGGING him to talk to me, show me some attention etc. And he knew what he was doing to me but he still didn't, he would just blame me for 'wrecking his mood'. So now after a month and a half of this he's done school. And he told me he's going to spend a week with his mom/family/friends then drive back to me for the summer and that during that week he would make sure to talk to me more often. But suddenly he's decided to stay for THREE weeks and he BARELY says a word to me (just a few texts). I don't know what to do, I love him so much but he's treating me like shit. And he makes me feel guilty for just asking for him to talk to me. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): Leave his ass if he ain't showing you No interest there's probably another female he's interested in my BF would never leave me hanging like that he's out of his mind he obviously doesn't miss you... sorry hunny but move on he needs to get Dumped! Good luck and you can do better!
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reader, Isa123  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 I was in a four year LDR. In 6 months of my relationship with him, he moved to a city eight hours away from me, but we kept the contact.
Long distance relationships always go through this at some point. After a year with this man, he barely talked to me, and it was difficult to get him to do so.
My advice is, keep yourself busy. Make him miss you and text you. Get away from the urge to talk to him first. I know it's difficult.
If this doesn't work, as him straight up what's going on. Obviously long distance relationships need to work with quite the contact.
Good luck sweetie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): he's just stringing you along darling. I know its hard to lose ur bf. But there will be plenty more out there that will treat you the exact way u want to be treated. I say leave him. Of he doesnt want to put in the 50% effort then y should you put in the 100% effort??? I wish u the best of luck with ur situaltion
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reader, KaileyLove +, writes (29 April 2010):
 You've GOT to take charge!
If he really loves you then he wouldn't be treating you this way.
If I was in that situation I'd make sure that he knew that I was having a good time without him. It might not be the best advice, but it helped me. I had a long-distance relationship and my boyfriend was always busy hanging out with his friends... I was stuck at home, wishing I could talk to him. BUT the next time he wanted to talk I said, "Sorry, I'm going to a party later, tomorrow I'm going out to the mall with a bunch of friends, and the next day I'm going to the beach. Oh, wait, sorry I'm booked all week. Too bad... we could've talked last night but you were busy."
Let's just say he started making more time for me after that.
I wish you luck. Fingers crossed. :)
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