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writes:I'm confused about what to do with my girlfriend.We have been together for approximately 4 months. It has been a wonderful experience, but in so many ways I'm not sure if I'm content. Many would consider her very attractive but certain features of hers do not appeal to me. When I go out I still constantly feel the need to check out other women and have the urge to have sex with those I find more attractive than her. Also I do not really enjoy kissing her as our techniques don't really fit; and the taste isn't always at par. There are times where I want nothing but to be with her; but the other half of the time I'm not sure why I'm in the relationship with her. She has a great sense of humour, is intelligent and I enjoy most aspects of her personality, but there are times where I feel like I'm getting bored and the connection just isn't there. Any advice?
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reader, rambini  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 split up with her, a person is not a series of traits, they are a whole package of traits, and if you aren't attracted to all of them then you cant cherry pick the ones you like. for whatever reason there is obviously no chemistry in this relationship, so you would be best off ending it before you do something stupid and cheat and people get hurt. maybe you can salvage a friendship from it?
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reader, Isa123  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 Are you thinking about the negatives too much?
Most of the time when a person starts to get bored is because of it. But if connection isn't there and you feel the need to be with other women, then it looks like there just isn't something there and this relationship may not work out.
But if you are wanting to save your relationship, take a vacation with her. What first attracted you to her? Why did you two start dating? Think about it all. Take time just to be with HER and get to know HER more.
Good luck to you.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 April 2010):
 I'm in a cut-n-dry kind of mood tonight, so I'm going to skip all the extra stuff and get down to the bare bones of your question. I think that you should break up with your girlfriend. You are young and it seems like getting yourself fully invested in this relationship will simply take way too much effort and force.
It seems that you like her personality, but you're just not ATTRACTED to her. You don't have "chemistry". And hey, that's fine - that happens. I think that ultimately, you and she will both find people that you're happier with.
Good luck, sweetness.
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