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*rans Am Man
writes:Ok I've asked this question before but I don't get many answers so I'm asking again. I'm sort of in love with this girl. She is one of my best friends and in many ways she is my best friend. I mean she is the only one that supports me when I say I'm going to do something. You see her and her brother, her cousin, and I all hang out together. We kind of have our own group with a website and youtube videos and channel. [Moderator note: details were removed due to privacy concerns. Please do not include those again.] anyway we see each other every weekend and to be honest with you I think I treat her better any one. You see her brother and cousin are always calling her a whore. I was recently hanging out with her at her grandma's house and I got mad at her and she cried for a while. I was just surprised that I have that much of an affect on her. It's not the first time I've noticed this kind of thing. One day I wasn't allowed to stay at her grandma's house with her and she cried about that, because I couldn't come over. Then one day she asked me to sty there with her and I told her I wasn't sure and the I just went ahead over and she wasn't there yet but as soon she got there she got excited and came over and hugged me. It's just she dates a different kind of guy than me. She dates lazy skater type guys. You see I'm a country boy, I know I could treat her way better than anyone else could. I'm just the complete opposite of the guys she dates. I know for a fact that the guys she dates only want sex. Her brother told me that the only guy he would want to date her is me. Her cousin thinks the exact opposite, she thinks that the only guy she wouldn't want to date her is me. I guess she thinks that I only want to have sex with her but I don't I can understand why she would think that, I'm 17 and she's 14. Please people help me. I need help with this situation
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (28 April 2010):
Trans Am Man is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your advice, I just might do that
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reader, raiders +, writes (27 April 2010):
 You should try following through don't shut the door completely with out looking. If you only focus on this girl and your world revolves around her you are not giving yourself the opportunity to be happy. Move on, date, go out meet new girls and soon you will find yourself interested in someone else, someone that you will love and she will return the feeling by loving you back. Good Luck!
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (27 April 2010):
Trans Am Man is verified as being by the original poster of the questionRaiders, thank you for your advice, you always give me good advice and I value your advice very much. I haven't tried to date other girls in a while. I can be kind of a procrastinator. I have asked lots of other girls out and most of them have said yes, but then I usually break off contact after that, I don't know why, but I just never follow through on these dates.
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reader, raiders +, writes (26 April 2010):
Opposites do attract but it seems she has put you in the friend list and its going to be very hard for you to break from it. Trans Am Man have you tried to date other girls maybe you should, you should try to move on since this girl is obviously not interested in a relationship with you, I write this because I have commented on your other post and notice you are not getting anywhere with this girl you like so much. You should look else where you keep on focusing on the same girl and might not see when another one walks in the door.
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reader, Isa123 +, writes (26 April 2010):
 Opposites attract. They really do.
It's not like she's *always* going to be dating lazy, skate boys. She will one day open her eyes and see who was there all along.
She has fears because of past relationships. If she believes you only want it for the sex when you truly don't, then prove it to her. Give her space when she asks, respect her boundaries, but don't try too hard. Just simply be yourself. Treat her the same way you usually do, and before you know it, her fears will slowly ease.
As long as you are also close to her family, things should be okay. Respect boundaries, be yourself, and love her as much as you can.
Good luck to you.
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