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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi..me and my gf are together for 7mths now.one day when she was at my place, she saw my ex's pics..i said she used to be hot.i didnt know she was gonna feel insecure about it..then after so long..she got insecure and started using what i said b4 agaisnt me...and everything i did good was wrong...she made me feel so down...but i really love her so much..what should i do..please help...
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Not a stupid boy, just not yet a man. Learn from this experience, it will make you wiser. I'm still learning at 44, but listen to what your woman is saying. If she's feeling insecure, try to make her feel more secure.It's better to keep the past in the past, and tell her that you have done that very thing. If was a flippant remark that gave you an ego boost at her expense, now you've hurt her feeling and you that's the last thing you wanted to do. Let it go, when she brings it up, briefly apologize once again, and let her go on. Don't argue with her, confront her, or belittle her, it will only make her feel more insecure. Be a man, let it go.
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reader, hugs2muchgal +, writes (13 July 2007):
 Never say an ex is hot. Ever.
I personally don't care when my boyfriend talks about hot girls BUT if he passes a certain point, by being too interested I'm hurt.
What you did wasn't a big deal to a man, but to a woman, she feels as though you said your ex was hotter than her, and you'd rather have sex with your ex. Stupid I know but us women are really strange.
Apologize and tell your girlfriend how even though you said your ex was hot, she is beautiful. She is better than your ex, afterall, there is a reason you're with her and not the ex. Talk her up and she should warm back up to you in no time.
Best of luck and you can always message me for more help.
-Hugs
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reader, DV1 +, writes (13 July 2007):
 You broke rule number one: don't talk about your ex with your current girlfriend...
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reader, JessAgonyAunt  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 Heya, tell her how you feel, tell her she is the hottest girl you no way hotter than any of you X's, try making it up to her by taking her out and tell her she looks sexy in what she is wearing, JUST COMPLIMENT HER ALOTGOOD LUCK JESS XXXX
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