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writes:hey! ok,well iv just split up from my first girlfriend. we dated for 6months. i really liked her but we wanted different things so we split up. we're still really good friends but now i don't know if im gay or not? i thought she was gorgeous but now my feelings have changed, but i don't seem to find any other girls attractive and i definitely don't find any guys attractive. what's wrong with me? am i really gay? im so confused!!
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 You are not gay until you act on it and that is usually through initmacy and sex. You have the world and your life before you. Dont worry about being in a relationship. Get your dream job. Travel follow your talents and passions.
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reader, hugs2muchgal +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Well, more likely than not, you are not gay. You say guys don't attract you, so that answers that.You might not be attracted to anyone because you haven't met the right person or because you just ended a relationship. Sometimes people go through stages where they fancy no one, and other stages where there can be many people they are attracted to.Nothing is wrong with you. Just relax and enjoy the fact that you're single. Eventually a girl will come along who you find yourself liking, and you will no longer have this "problem".There is nothing to worry about so just relax and focus on things other than romance for awhile. Best of luck.-Hugs
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reader, Beckto +, writes (11 July 2007):
 There's no rush to define yourself!! You will know you're gay if you are one day soon. If you're not, you will know that too. But, it's absolutly ok to not know and to not know for a while! Just relax and don't let the fact that you're not attracted to anyone right now get to you.
You could be the type that is bored by "pretty" girls. You may find later that you really like the smart, interesting, worldly girls. Or, you may find later that you like certain types of guys! You may even feel that you're bi-sexual for a while!
Either way, there's no rush to decide. You are you, and life will give you amazing experiences and many chances to figure this out. Be patient.
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