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writes:I want to have sex badley but I not sure if I should do it my boy friend is 16 and im 12 he calls every night tells me come over i am ready.(Moderator Note: purposefully left without corrections) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): dude im 12 too nd mi best friend has a boyfriend thats like 15 or 16 idk but he got her involved in drugs and got her drunk one night and raped her she wont tell annyone and thinks that it was ok 4 him to do that it only takes one wield night u shouldent have a boyfriend that old nd plus u dunt want to stick ur friends with the job of tkin care of you and keeping ur bf away from you
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): heyy.
umm, i don't think you should have sex with this boy.
i think that he's way to old for you for now. i'm 13 and i'd like to have sex, but i know it's not right. i am too young. soo i hope you make the better choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): dont have it with him have it with me
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): hey hun, im just browsing around the web and found your post, you are too young to have sex and shouldnt even be considering it, i know of people who have been done 4 sexual assult and its not nice to be around, whether u think ur redi or not you are too young and should get rid of the boyfriend who appears to be pressuring u.
im 17 and only have my first boyfriend of 4 months, he wants sex but is happy to wait until im ready, as should yours if he likes you for being you and not sleeping around.
do the right thing. and wait. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): Hey I am just like you except i don't have a boyfriend one of my best friends has lots of sex and my ex-boyfriend (my age) it all up and ready for that stuff i feel that i am ready but too scared i say go for it!!!!From one best girl
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reader, Ra  +, writes (21 July 2007):
Well in my second posting (First one was anonymous)
I forgot to mention the film 13 YES the one who shows the truth.
Go and watch this with your boyfriend and then you decide if you still want to or not.
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reader, hugs2muchgal  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 You're not ready. If you were you wouldn't be posting here. You're 12 for heavens sake! Enjoy being a kid and please...please get rid of your perverted boyfriend. I'm 16 myself and if any guy my age was trying to have sex with a 12 year old like yourself that I knew of...I'd cringe in horror.
I'm not trying to say anything bad about you, just your boyfriend. He is a legal adult and you, a minor. Like everyone else said, you're body is not prepared and emotionally you are too young.
Please don't sleep with your boyfriend. He's using you and he deserves nothing from you or any other girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): im going to tell u this i had my 1st sexual contact at age 12 and i thought that it was the right person but i was wrong and after we did it he ended up breakin up with me and told everyone that i was a whore. but i dont have anything to say about your age diff becuz im 14now and my bf is 18.i love him very much and plan to marry him yes i have had sex with him but he didnt pressure me we both choose to. so i hope that you make the right choice and if you want to talk just message me!! i believe youll do the best thing.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hi babe, i wouldnt advise you to have sex. If the police found out. He would get done for sexual assault, even if you both say yes, a girl of the age of 12 or under, it is called sexual assault. Trust me, ive had friends in your situation. Hope i helped, mail me if you would like to talk x x x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 I agree with the ladies. You shouldn't even consider sex now.
You know, when you want something badly, you don't have any doubts about it. That alone tells me HE is the one who wants the sex badly. But then you say he calls you every night. I say, you're so young, but, won't you please listen to me: don't ever agree to sex if YOU are not sure about wanting it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): Morals aside, you are biologically too young to be having sexual intercourse. Young women who have sex (not multiple partners, but just having sex) are at a greatly increased risk of developing cervical cancer, which can be fatal....this is due to your young age, undeveloped body and immune system, and the hygene of your partner (young boys do not have the best hygenic practices). That aside, you also are at a risk of becoming pregnant and contracting other sexually transmitted diseases, like the herpes virus--that causes painful blisters and sores that are contagious, clymdia that often is symptom free and can cause infertility, and all sorts of other bad stuff, not to mention HIV, which there is no cure for and ends in death at some point.....
Please do not even consider having sex at your age, I would like to see you out of high school, and beyond before you give this precious gift away so easily to some boy. Your boyfriend is one big raging hormone, he is not thinking, he is merely giving into his sexual urges, and he does not care about you, even if he claims he does. In fact, he may very well lose respect for you if you give him sex, and he will most likely lose interest in you if you give in to his demands....this isn't fair, but it is the way males think, especially at this age....he is just trying to get something from you that he can brag about to his mates.....don't do it, please....you will live to regret it, and you won't even enjoy it, what a waste, don't you think? Go outside and play, be a kid, where did all this pressure come from to experiment with sex when you are a child of 12? It is very sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): You're too young, your organism is not prepared, I wouldn't expect encouragement from here. You should also know that when a boy hurries you or exerts pressure on you in this respect such as calling you every night he's not acting at his best. He tells you he is ready but doesn't think of you, that's being selfish. Don't surrender to his insisting. Live your childhood, if he cares he'll wait until your organism is ready. Doing something you'll later regret can have severe repercusions of guilt and bad memories...
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reader, Xeie +, writes (10 July 2007):
 You are not ready. You are very young and so is he despite his mid-teen age. You should really reconcider having sex at this time. Your insecurity about having sex is a clear sign that you are not ready. I really really suggest that you wait a couple more years, until you are emotionally mature and know exactly what you want.
I'm going out on a leg here and suggesting that you not let yourself influence by your boyfriend. At his age, he's more likly to be sexually active and as for you, you're in the blossom of your teen years and still developing as a woman. Please, do what's best. Perhaps have a chat with your mum or school councler if you really are curious. Take care.
-Xeie
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reader, queenS +, writes (10 July 2007):
whoa!! hold on here,babes you are 12 and you want to have sex that is not a very wise thing to do. first of all how long have you being seeing this guy, is he the right one you want to lose your virginity with, does he love you that much. ask yourrself this if he really loves you that much will he be pressurising you to have sex with you, why will he put you in a risk of being pregnant. anyhow shouldn't you first enjoy each other without going all the way, i know it is tempting but don't do something you may regret later because if there are still doubts chances are you will end up hating him. enjoy your youth and just wait until you are sure that you are 100% ready to commit yourself in that way. until you are don't go to your boyfriends house when he calls and maybe try to avoid being alone with him for a long period of time.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (10 July 2007):
 well first of having sex now would be illegal and land your bf on the sex offenders register or even in jail!!!
Your 12 your body isnt ready for sex and your proberly not ready for the consquences of sex I,e pregnacy, STI.
Also as for him telling you that your ready seems like he is using you for sex which is very wrong
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