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writes:i'm 15 and there's a guy i really love. we have talked about having sex lots of times but i don't know i'm ready or not. can you help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, charli 1603  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 the fact that your are in doubt yourself says that your not ready yet. and there's nothing wrong with that. dont let anyone pressure you into anything. when you can honestly say to yourself, yeah, lets go for it. thats when you have the emotional state of mind to have sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): if you really needed to ask this question then you obviously aren't ready, also you are under age. so wait.
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reader, hugs2muchgal +, writes (24 November 2007):
 I agree with the other aunts. If you are questioning the idea of having sex at all, you're not ready. Asking us for help is your mind's way of getting the answer it craves--which is that you're not ready.
The stress--emotional and physical--that come with sex is enormous, and you are still young. Worrying about getting caught, getting pregnant, will it hurt, will you be good, will your relationship change will all affect you. And not in a good way.
Enjoy your relationship, enjoy the things you do together, but wait until you are 100% sure that sex is the right decision. Enjoy being a teenager and don't let anyone force you into something you are unprepared for.
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reader, love-him +, writes (24 November 2007):
 Hii, r u going out with this guy, and if so then you both need to sit down, and make sure you are both happy about it, and you probs should make sure you like this guy more than like, for example, love. The fact that you are asking other people wether you are ready, suggests, that you actualy aren't ready.. Wait abit, unlees you are sure.. Keep safe, I hope i helped, feel free to mail me about anything x
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reader, this_years_love  +, writes (24 November 2007):
 hey hun.
try to really think about the doubts you are having about sex...why did you feel you needed to ask us in the first place? is it because of morals? the risks of STD and pregnancy? the other person involvede?
there ARE reasons you are doubting your readiness to take on such a HUGE responsibility, so try to really dig deep and figure out what they are and why you are having them. Next week, month, year, 5 years afterwards will you still be happy with the decision you make? with the person you chose to have sex with first? why or why not do you think you will or won't be happy? try to think about both sides of the argument!
15 wasn't all that long ago for me so believe me when i say i understand that you probably want to take on more responsibility and be an adult...but PLEASE keep in mind that being mature/adult like has very little to do with having sex-and more to do with having the maturity to really analyze the whole situation, the pros, cons, reprocussions and so forth, and then make a decision based on that. this is the best thing you can do for yourself-not just about sex but in any situation.
please do what's best for you five years from now and not just whats easiest today or the next day
best of luck
message me if you have any questions
xx
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reader, hello1 +, writes (24 November 2007):
 If you have to ask, I don't think your ready yet. What Dr John said is true
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (24 November 2007):
 Sex is not something you just start into just because you THINK you are ready. There are many things to consider.
First, are you ready to have a child at your age?
Regardless of what you do about birth control there is always the possiblity of an accident.
Then, if you do become pregnant are you in a position to care for a baby or will you take that innocent little baby's life because of YOUR indescretions.
Are you ready to have your childhood taken away from you because you need to care for that of another child?
Are you ready to go to the doctor for regular pelvic exams because you have become sexually active?
My daughter is 22 years old and has still not had sex with her fiance` and says she will not until they are married.
Don't think you have to give up sex just because he wants it or you think others will think of you as strange or whatever.
You are still young. Don't cut your childhood short because you will never be able to get it back.
Many times I have heard those, both male and female, express the fact that they wish they had waited.
You can always start a sexual relationship but you will never again be an adolescent.
Just go and be a kid a little longer. I am glad I did. Doc
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