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writes:My question is embarrassing and its about a sex fetish. I tried looking it up on google and i got all kinds of porn ads n than i tried to find a sex fetish forum but couldn't find one so i found dearcupid.com. i hope my question doesn't offend anyone n i hope people answer with seriousness n an open mind. With that said im a guy who likes to dress up in women's clothes and panties and hump pillows. Ive been doing this since i was 11 or so. Even the thought of it arouses me. Im bisexual but mostly interested in women. I only do this fetish while aroused n masturbating alone. After i climax i am no longer interested in dressing in womens clothing n i feel ashamed n embarrassed, but the next time i get horny i forget about that shame n jump right back into the behavior. When i watch porn i enjoy watching a female riding a man n i think maybe that has something to do with it. Im so lost as to why i still do this and im afraid someone will find out n it will make people judge me. Please help if u have this fetish or any info on why guys do this. Thanks
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reader, HappyPlace  +, writes (22 April 2013):
 I'm sorry OP but I would ask you to go to therapy and get help. Go meditate, go clear your mind. You've already said you feel guilty afterwards so STOP doing the very thing that makes you feel guilty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u everyone for ur answers n ur understanding. I do buy my own articles of clothing by mail order n its not like ido it everytime i masturbate im into all kinds of fetish n fantasys but sometimes i just enjoy regular masturbation too. Im not sure im completely ready to open up to others in person about it though i think the idea of finding a woman who gets turned on by my fetish sounds hot. Lol i dunno ijust know there are alot of people who might not understand it n make me feel wrong for doing it. Thank u guys 4 ur help n kindness.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 April 2013):
 NO judgement OP... you do it because you are human and different things arouse different people.
Most people have a preferred masturbation routine. Same hand, same speed, same lube/lotion etc... no biggie in my book
as long as you buy your own panties and stuff I see no issue
and i hope you find a lady who is accepting of it... my hubby has a whole drawer of dainty pretty things that he wore when we first started dating that I would be find with him wearing but he's gained weight and isn't feeling very sexy lately...
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (17 April 2013):
I think its pretty normal for boys and young guys to get horny with womens clothing, particularly underwear. Not having a sister i was particularly fascinated and when pubescent took every opportunity when visiting with girl cousins or daughters of my parents friends, to fuel my imagination even more. There is absolutely nothing wrong OP but dont you think its time to move to the next level and meet other people and enjoy how much fun it is seeing the clothes on them, and taking them off?
Maybe continuing to feed this pastime is distracting from taking opportunities to get out and be more social. Good luck.
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reader, HeresBoo  +, writes (17 April 2013):
 I can understand your predicament with the shame afterwards but then forgetting it again when you are horny, as I think we can all do that a little.In terms of the actual fetish you have I have heard of the two separately but not together before so congratulations at least on teaching me something new :)I don't see your fetish as bad because it is not harmful in any way. As long as you wash your pillows etc, it is your own private business and if it turns you on so be it. I'm sure the pillows and women's clothing won't be emotionally scarred :)If you wish to learn more about your particular case I would HIGHLY recommend you see a sex therapist as they are trained and will most likely have some solid answers for you, whereas this website is really the opinions of caring people who want to help, unless there happens to be a sex therapist who answers on here :)Other than that, I wouldn't parade it about as its not a known fetish and I doubt a highly accepted one but I don't see any harm in you continuing to do it in your own private time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2013): Why not? It gives you pleasure, makes you horny and you're not hurting anyone so why feel guilty?
OP we all have our quirks, I mean I'm not ashamed to admit (although don't openly discuss) that sometimes on a rare occasion I like to have a sniff of my fiancées panties when she's not around. It's such an unbelievable turn on for me because they smell like her, they smell like sex. I've never grabbed a pair that didn't belong to a woman I was seeing, but when I'm putting on a wash, I see no harm in having a quick sniff. I love the scent of a woman so why not?
Who am I hurting? What bad am I doing by doing that? None. I don't feel guilty nor weird, not even for one second.
OP you don't need to go on a forum that specifically deals with your fetish by the way, all fetishes are the same. Whether you're a panty sniffer, a feet lover, or just like the feel of wearing women's undercrackers to get the juices flowing there's is nothing sick, nothing weird and nothing wrong with it.
I mean come on, everything other than missionary position is "weird". What's normal about having a penis in your mouth or sticking your tongue up someone's ass? Nothing, but they can be a hell of a lot of fun to do right?
Why do you do it? The same reason as anyone likes to do anything sexual, it's a turn on that gives you a lot of pleasure, so just embrace it and enjoy it. But yeah, do keep it private for the most part, or even go online and find some fetish forums of people willing to enact fantasies over skype and stuff. OP embrace the things that give you happiness, don't feel guilty for doing something that excites you. It's not like you're mentally ill or something, this is just a fun fetish.
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