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writes:I'm separated for 3 years now. I ran into my high school sweetheart a few weeks ago and made a lunch date. At our lunch we discussed everything. I told her about my cheater wife and she told me about her bad marriage. Long story short, she asked me for sex. Oh I want her, but, she's still married and living under the same roof. Her husband is a drunk, a drug abuser and has some serious health issues . They haven't had sex in at least 9 years. She said she cheated with her neighbor a few times 5 years ago but he stopped when he found a girlfriend and moved away. She said she needs a man and is tired of masturbation. She said she wants a very discrete friendship with me. She doesn't want anyone to know we even talk. I asked her what her husband would think if he found out. She said she didn't know and why would anyone know unless either one of us talked about it. I feel a bit weird, sex with a married woman and sex with a woman I had sex with as my girlfriend years ago. I also don't know how this guy would feel, but he's totally neglected her needs for way too long. She's going to leave him after their kid finishes high school if his health problems don't kill him. If I didn't know her I would not consider this at all. We were very close in the past, I never had a reason to not trust her but since her marriage has been like this and I have no women in my life this is very tempting. However I don't want to go back to a relationship with her when she does leave her husband, and told her that. She said I was looking too far into the future. I know this is cheating, but how do you look at it, where do you draw the line with sexual needs that are completely neglected by her husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2013): Not every woman who says she is being ignored is really being ignored. Maybe the reason her husband hasn't had sex with her in so long is because she cheats on him, and is emotionally distant. I was far from perfect, but I was a pretty darn good husband (no cheating, drugs, alcohol, violence, etc). I found the texts from my cheating ex-wife, and she basically made me out to be a horrible guy who ignored her, and didn't deserve her. This woman thinks she's being sneaky, but you're taking your life in your hands if you screw around with another man's wife. The truth usually comes out. The guy my ex cheated with lives really far away now, which is good for both of us. Almost every day for 3 years, I have imagined doing things to him that would make a Marine cringe. Besides, do you really want a woman who has absolutely no problem with infidelity? Tell her to lose your number, take a cold shower, and go to counseling.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 June 2013):
 We define cheating as ANYTHING you don't, won't or can't tell your spouse.
since she wont' tell, it's CHEATING in my book.
and it's not your responsibility to care for her needs.
The fact that she thinks you would be willing to do this indicates that she's selfish and inconsiderate of others.
All you hear is her side of it, not his. If he has such severe health issues that he may die before his kids graduate high school, then he's probably too ill to be an active sex partner.
I'd run in the other direction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): She is still legally married, lack of sex or no, and you have been cheated on. Do you really want to help this woman cheat on her husband? Why doesn't she get a damn divorce? Seriously.
Obviously her and her husband aren't doing well at all.
Tell her to get a divorce and you'll go from there.
Wow. Really and you're how old?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 June 2013):
 While my lower brain sez, "YES!!!!.... she's ripe, she's desperate and you're horny... so go for it." ....
...my UPPER brain sez that HeresBoo is correct... and that great s*x that you'll enjoy will be not-so-hot, after all.....
Good luck...
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reader, HeresBoo  +, writes (23 June 2013):
 It's not water or money or shelter that she NEEDS. She does not need you to step in and have sex with her. You probably know this and have been pushing it to the back of your mind because of desire.She is married. Her child will be affected if he/she finds out and cheating is a horrible, destructive thing. You know this! It has happened to you! Do not get involved with her until she is single.Don't become a part of the problem.
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