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writes:Okay so my ex broke up with me. He knows my work schedule and where I work so he brings another girl to my job I work in a make up store most guys don't go in they usually go shopping or wait outside. I was off that day he brought a girl but I usually work Saturdays so he brings he makes sure my coworkers see him and then he stopped going to the church we went to together then he randomly brings her it's like I don't call him I don't text him i left him alone I feel like he's trying to bother me and hurt me more . He broke up with me so that hurt enough but to bring her to my job and church. I don't understand what more can he do to me I left him alone after we broke up and I'll never call or text him again it makes no sense as to why he is bothering me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013): Well honestly I think he broke it off because he had another girlfriend on the side well you see he's 19 and in the military I'm 20 and not in the military. So I think he had a girlfriend on base and one off base because there would be days when I wouldn't hear from him and then one day he went as far as getting me flowers but saying I wasn't at work when I was so he said he gave the flowers to his friend because he had a date but I think he have them to her. But he was honestly the immature one through out the whole relationship. It's like what does he want from me??seriouly he hurt me enough already from the break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013): Nothing like rubbing salt into the wound.
He wants to hurt you more by showing you that he has another girlfriend now. There is no other reason for his behavior.
There is not much you can do except smile and be nice to him and his girlfriend. Don't let him get the upper hand. Show him that it doesn't bother you. He wants to get a reaction out of you.
If you show up at church a few times with a new boyfriend, taller or with a lot more muscle, I pretty much can predict that he would back off and probably go to another church. Something to think about--even if it is a pretend boyfriend.
Hang in there. It will get better. He will get tired of playing this head game and move on.
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reader, HeresBoo  +, writes (21 May 2013):
 As for church, I would simply push that aside and be happy that he may just be introducing someone to faith.
But, as for your work situation, if the behaviour continues and becomes stalking or harassing then do something about it. At the moment you can't rally do anything as he is just being annoying.
The best thing you can do is not avoid him and smile, wave and be loving and sweet to both him and his new girlfriend. That way, if he is seeking to hurt you, he won't find satisfaction and will give up.
All the best :) remember to follow up!
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (21 May 2013):
 He is an A$$, i suggest you act extra sweet and treat them like any other client.Dont give any hint that he is hurting as you will be giving him the satisfaction.
He is behaving very immature and of course trying to provoke a reaction out of you. Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013): I feel bad for you, what he is doing is really unfair. He sounds immature and deliberately hurtful. My guess would be is that he isn't over you. What was the reason for the break up? I think this is a key part of the story.
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