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I'm a 17-year-old girl with an oddly complicated relationship past for my age. I had to learn a lot very quickly. I want to share the lessons I've learned from a troubled history to help other people. Living what I've lived, I grew up fast. I'm very blessed, so don't think I'm complaining--just explaining.
Since I'm young and probably naiive, I try not to butt in on older people's business, but if I do, I usually feel pretty strongly about it.
I love this site because it can help anyone and everyone. All the aunties are so accessible; they're real people. I'm here to do my part!
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I really want him back. He said he just felt like doing what he did. What do I say and do to make this happen?
Q. So i spent this whole day with this guy,, we'll call him M. He is a year younger than me but a little taller than me,, he's emo and a moody sod. we spent a whole day together and found that we liked each other, he started flirting like mad,, saying ...
A. 5 July 2011: Dude, you told him you loved him after one day? That's...not love.
Guys are often very territorial. It makes him uncomfortable that you have experience with other guys. He doesn't want to be worrying about how he compares to your prior part... (read in full...)
How do I make the most of our time together, without letting my strong attraction to her get in the way of enjoying what we have?
Q. Hello, I wonder if anyone can help. I met a wonderful girl in university with who I have the most amazing friendship, and I consider to be by far the best friend I have ever had. For better or worse though, I am very attracted to her. I di...
A. 5 July 2011: I can't offer much advice, just support that you aren't alone. I am a girl dealing with depression and the "special person" who helps me through is my best friend. We tried dating once a few years ago, but I was more attached than he was, so he ... (read in full...)
Am I really creepy to guys?
Q. EVery guy i have a crush on ends up finding out and becomming creeped out. Am i really creepy to guys?...
A. 24 March 2011: You're born in '98, right? So you're 13? Maybe you're just ahead of the game - 13 year-old boys often aren't ready to date.
A good friend of mine (and an ex for that very reason) is my age (17) and he's just starting to figure out how rela... (read in full...)
Are there second chances at love?
Q. First off, I want to apologize for the length of this question. I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in December because he decided he wanted to be with someone else. I was in a depression for close to 2 months and anytime I tried moving on,...
A. 24 March 2011: Age 18-22 can be truly formative years in one's life, especially if one goes to college. Speaking from what I learned from my parents, don't marry before that. People change so much in those years. Just enjoy the relationship and get serious ... (read in full...)
Fiance wears inappropriate clothing. Is she trying to attract other guys?
Q. Girls: My Fiance, wears clothes that are not appropriate, showing her cleavage, very tight pants, lots of perfume, make-up and hairstyle everytime!!! i feel insecure, what do you think girls, is she trying to impress other guys?...
A. 21 March 2011: Women like to feel pretty.
My boyfriend sometimes gets pissed when I wear something a little sexier than usual because he says I'm giving myself to the whole world, and that bothers him because I'm his.
Don't be like that. No girl likes that. Wo... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to stop me before orgasming?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two months, things regularly get heated, yet I haven't slept with him yet. The thing is, when I toss him off he always stops be by saying 'stop' or pulling my hand away, just before orgasming. I think he's scare...
A. 4 October 2010: If you don't know why he stops you, ask him. He might be self-conscious he might be worried about the mess, he might be worried about the noise. It's hard to say. Talk to him about it!
It may take him a while to be ready for that, that's perf... (read in full...)
Will it grow anymore?
Q. I am a 15 year old male with a 6 1/2 inch penis with a girth of almost 6 inches. Will my penis grow anymore? P.S. I would apreciate it if answerers dont give me the "your to young to be thinking about sex" answer. Im just curious and I want matur...
A. 4 October 2010: Most guys aren't done growing at 15. I'm not going to promise that you aren't an exception, but the odds are in your favor. (not to suggest that 6.5 isn't good)
--GG... (read in full...)
My parents limit the time that my b/f and I can talk on the phone together
Q. Dear Aunties, My parents limit the hours I may text/talk to my boyfriend. my mom won't let me have my phone past 10 on weekdays and 11 on weekends. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year, and I love him. I know I'm only 16 and I know no...
A. 10 May 2010: Alright, thank you. I misunderstood you or something. I'm sorry for the freak-out.
I don't want to talk to him at all hours of the night, I want to have my phone with me. Though I've learned that ultimate terms are bad, ALL of my close friends have... (read in full...)
My parents limit the time that my b/f and I can talk on the phone together
Q. Dear Aunties, My parents limit the hours I may text/talk to my boyfriend. my mom won't let me have my phone past 10 on weekdays and 11 on weekends. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year, and I love him. I know I'm only 16 and I know no...
A. 10 May 2010: I don't know if I'm reading you wrong, Celtic_tiger, but I was admittedly taken aback by what you said. I'm a kid. I've said that over and over. I called myself "little"--I even went so far as "sophomoric"! There was no adult pretension.
You said... (read in full...)
My parents limit the time that my b/f and I can talk on the phone together
Q. Dear Aunties, My parents limit the hours I may text/talk to my boyfriend. my mom won't let me have my phone past 10 on weekdays and 11 on weekends. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year, and I love him. I know I'm only 16 and I know no...
A. 9 May 2010: I appreciate all the advice. I can't say I agree, but in all likelihood, that's just me being a stubborn teenager, so I'll accept what you've said.
I would, however, like to address CindyCares. With one of my exes, I did have a codependence issu... (read in full...)
B/f wants phone sex and I don't know how!
Q. Hey guys. well iv never had sex but my boyfriend has before and me and him have only made out and stuff like that. Well he wants to try having phone sex, im fine with that. The problem is i have never done that before so i dont really know what to ...
A. 9 May 2010: My suggestion would be this: 1. Say, in explicit detail, everything you two would do during sex. Don't skimp on dirty details, guys love that. 2. If you get turned on, let him know. 3. At first, if you don't want to masturbate for him, don'... (read in full...)
Me and my girlfriend are both 15 years old and we BOTH want to have sex. But how do we know if we're both ready?
Q. I need help on a desicion. Me and my girlfriend are both 15 years old and we have been together for about 3 months. But we've known each other for a little less then a year. I asked her just recently if she wanted to have sex with me over the...
A. 28 April 2010: I'm 16, I've been with my bf over a year, and I know what you're going through. Quite honestly, sex cone to mind really early on in relationships, sometimes even before it's desired. By the time you're truly considering it, there are most often ... (read in full...)
What do men think of make up?
Q. Hey, just wondering what people's opinions are of make up in general? As a girl, I know that make up is important to a lot of women when it comes to their appearance but I'm not so sure when men think of it. Answers from all, male and female, ...
A. 13 April 2010: Hi! Well, I think the answer to your question is that there is no answer. Everybody has different opinions. For example, my ex used to ask that I not wear makeup at all. I didn't mind. He just didn't like me looking fake because he says I'm beautifu... (read in full...)
I'm worried about kissing for the first time!
Q. what is the best and easiest way to gain confidence in kissing because i've never been kissed before and i've asked people who i know that have kissed but all they say is to just do it. THAT DOESNT EXPLAIN HOW TO DO IT!!! so i worry about litt...
A. 7 April 2010: So basically her mom told you that you matter to her daughter. That's sweet, and it reinforces the point that she won't care if it goes wrong. My first kiss was absolutely terrible, about half the people I've talked to would say the same, and that ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about kissing for the first time!
Q. what is the best and easiest way to gain confidence in kissing because i've never been kissed before and i've asked people who i know that have kissed but all they say is to just do it. THAT DOESNT EXPLAIN HOW TO DO IT!!! so i worry about litt...
A. 6 April 2010: I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you really will just know. I asked these same questions myself.
The best place for hands is if you hold hers, that way she knows where your hands are. If that feels weird, the small of her back, pull... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with him but will he stick by me if I get pregnant?
Q. Is it wrong to want a baby with your boyfriend? I'm fifteen and he's turning fifteen May 31, 2010...We were on the phone last night and he was saying he wouldn't break up with me and he would stay and raise the baby...do you think I should believe ...
A. 6 April 2010: It's perfectly normal for a teenage girl to want a baby. That does not mean, however, that you should go out and get pregnant! I know what it's like to want a child VERY much, but don't act on that desire. You're 15. You have so much to look for... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he ever say the big L word??
Q. Heyyy cupid! Okay so here's my issue I just can't stop thinking about. I have fallen head over heels for this boy who is a year older than me and we are both so into eachother. I am a sophomore and he's a junior. We have been dating for more tha...
A. 31 March 2010: I think he felt like it was too soon for you to really mean it, so he didn't have to either. He got sex in the deal, too--all the better. My guess would be that he's "using" you, as you'd define it, but he would never think of it like that.
If I we... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so irrationally heartbroken when not with my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Aunties, I have yet another question: I'm very much in love with my boyfriend. I was curious as to why I always feel so irrationally heartbroken when he goes back to his house. I know I miss him, but it's a ripping feeling in my chest and some...
A. 23 March 2010: My bf is 15, I'm 16.
We are not having sex--we aren't ready. As hard a commitment as it is, I believe sex is reserved for marriage, and my bf is very supportive of that.
We live about 15 minutes apart and go to the same school.
Because o... (read in full...)
Should I feel odd about the cyber sex that I had?
Q. Well I am not quite sure what I am asking... a few weeks ago I ended up having cyber sex with a girl I have known online for a few months. It wasn't really planned, but we had admittedly found ourselves very attracted to each other. We tal...
A. 18 March 2010: I know the weird feeling. Cyber/phone sex is VERY strange. Some people like the idea, and some don't. Personally, I find them to be nice because my boyfriend and I know we aren't ready for sex. We are always discussing how to better cause pleasure ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but I love my boyfriend..what should I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend been having some relationship problems for 5 months. we brake up and make up. i love him,he says he loves me too. he doesnt show it. he doesnt wanna hang out with me in daylight anymore. everytime we do its like movies or over ...
A. 16 March 2010: I know what it's like to be treated badly by a guy I loved. It's absolutely heart-wrenching and terrible. Being free from that, is great after a while though. I'd say that if you're boyfriend is threatening to leave you and is not acting right, ... (read in full...)
Is this true?
Q. My girlfriend's mum told me... a woman sleeps with a man, has an orgasm and thinks shes in love. The man just thinks he had a wonderful night. Is that true?? ...
A. 16 March 2010: Women's bodies release certain hormones during sex that give a sense of attachment. This hormone is oxytocin, the same hormone involved in bonding a mother to her child during childbirth and nursing.
Men's bodies do not have a parallel hormone to o... (read in full...)
He says premarital sex is wrong and we need to wait...is he gay??
Q. Hello. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I have been telling myself he is just a late bloomer and inexperienced. He had sex for the first time in college and then found religion. He is a born again christian and since then he says ...
A. 16 March 2010: I'm 16, so I don't know how much I can help, but I'm going to try.
I've grown up born-again Christian. It's all I've ever known. The sexual limitations that it draws are pretty severe--trust me. Even though the rules explained in the bible seem real... (read in full...)
Should I let him take my virginity?
Q. Right I really need help! I just turned 18 and I really want to lose my virginity but I don't/ never have had a boyfriend... I'm not sure why and alot of people think I'm lying when I say I'm a virgin (mainy becuase of my huge 34J boobs) b...
A. 15 March 2010: In many cultures for long periods of time, virginity had real, concrete worth. A non-virgin woman couldn't be married, etc, etc. This probably comes from the lasting idea of ownership and possession. What guy wants to have a committed relationship ... (read in full...)
I exercise and do sports constantly but can't seem to lose weight!
Q. Hi, Aunties! I'm in a great relationship with one of the best guys in the world. I'm beyond lucky to have him, and I love him very much. At only 16, I know that I'm going to be told I know nothing of love... And that's probably true, but I'm very...
A. 12 March 2010: Thank all of you so much! I really appreciate that you took the time to help me.
I have never let him tell me I'm beautiful, and some of you said I should. How should I approach this?
--GG... (read in full...)
How can I bring up the subject of STI's without offending him???
Q. hello, well im in a bit of a dilemma, im 15 and i like this guy who is 18. im not in love or anything and i have seen him a few times, on which occaisions, he fingered me and i tossed him off. He is the first and only guy up to yet who i have don...
A. 10 March 2010: I'm not going to lecture you, though I do want to... You seem fairly responsible and decided. =/
My advice would be to use your age and inexperience as a tool. Tell him your confused or scared and have him "teach" you what to do--it's sexy, and whil... (read in full...)
Why are men so cruel when it comes to dating us curvier women?
Q. Ok..I previously posted a question...I went on a blind date with a gentlement who I was talking to for 2 weeks..we were constantly on the phone and texting galore..It felt fantastic, he learned about me and I of him... I'm not big, but I'm not a ...
A. 24 February 2010: I feel for you, honey!
Because I'm in high school, guys can be particularly cruel with fat jokes, et cetera. I'm 5'6", size 8-10, and I'm a 34DD. By many people's standards, that's not fat! I'm on a varsity sports team, I train 5+ days per week... (read in full...)
Has shaving given me a rash or have I caught an STD from his pre-cum?
Q. I recently decided to shave my vagina to see how it would work, especially since my bf and I became sexually active. The first time I shaved it was all good, when I shaved it again and rash has started to form and its really itchy. My boyfriend and ...
A. 23 February 2010: Fear not, this is just an effect of shaving that area. It will still happen as you do it more, but eventually you get used to how itchy it is and don't itch it, so it hurts significantly less and gets less inflamed. Use a shaving product ... (read in full...)
My breasts are heavily bruised from his hands, biting, and sucking. Any worries for the future?
Q. Dear Aunties-- Thanks so much in advance for reading. I care very much for my boyfriend of several months. I thought I should start off saying that to clarify that this isn't a casual situation. Whenever I let my boyfriend feel up my breasts, we g...
A. 21 February 2010: Thanks so much for the advice!
I greatly apologize if it came off as though he's abusive. He's really not. He asked several times if it was too hard and I always said no because it felt good. He saw the bruises and felt absolutely terrible. He went... (read in full...)
How do I ask a 12th grader out on a date?
Q. hey how do i get a date with a 12 grader girl i am 14 and there are hot 12 graders that i want to go out with? well what i want to know is how to ask a 12 grader out on a date? ...
A. 11 February 2010: Seniors are no different from you--they're just older. Personally, I don't think a freshman should date a senior because of legal issues (age of consent is 16 in many places, and age of majority is 18). But if you want to do this despite huge ... (read in full...)
How do you work out your pec muscles and get rid of belly fat?
Q. hey! i know this is non related to love or anything but how do u work out your pec muscles? i am male soo and i have like lower bellyfat and i hate it, and i do run about 2miles every week, and i havent seen a change in those areas so help plzz ...
A. 11 February 2010: I forgot to mention--don't weight-train the same muscles less than 48 hours apart. Muscles need time to heal. Abs are an exception, they build differently, so you can work them every day. Do cardio daily, too.
--GG
I'd also say to eat right, b... (read in full...)
How do you work out your pec muscles and get rid of belly fat?
Q. hey! i know this is non related to love or anything but how do u work out your pec muscles? i am male soo and i have like lower bellyfat and i hate it, and i do run about 2miles every week, and i havent seen a change in those areas so help plzz ...
A. 11 February 2010: Boys under 15 aren't supposed to bench because their bodies aren't quite developed enough, in general. Lots of pushups will help for you pecs, though. If you want to bench, be careful about it. There are lots of good pectoral exercises--google it, ... (read in full...)
What motivates a guy to be nice to his ex?
Q. Hi, Aunties! Thanks in advance for reading-- I'm just wondering what motivations a guy might have to be abnormally nice to his ex. He never tends to be as nice or sweet or thoughtful as he's being, except when he pretended to love me. Could it ...
A. 10 February 2010: Ya, that very well may be the case. He's my best friend, but he's never this considerate... And he's being better to all my girl-friends, too. I think he just misses having a gf. Thanks!
--GG... (read in full...)
Can friendship turn to a romantic relationship?
Q. Is it possible to be with someone romantically that i have been just friends with for years and have it actually work out?...
A. 3 February 2010: I can't say if it will work out, but for me, it was worth the pain.
I dated my best friend of a lone time for a comparatively short time, and I really loved him, but he didn't feel as strongly. It's 9 months later and I sometimes still cry myse... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself having an erection when we're together?
Q. Hi, I'm gay/bi/confused and haven't told anyone. I'm kind of in love with my best friend, my heart skips a best when I see him, when he talks I just want to kiss his lips, he makes me horny and is part of every fantasy, wet dream or wank. My p...
A. 1 February 2010: I know advice from a teenage girl isn't what you're looking for, but I thought it'd be right to point out that you're aiming to deceive your best friend. I know it's complicated, and I know you're confused, but maybe being up front would have it's ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm scared to tell my mom I'm pregnant... again!
Q. Please help me, I just turned 16 january 20 and my boyfriend turned 19 dec 16, i got pregnant before and got an abortion 5 months ago and I'm pregnant again. my mom is extra strict and so is my family, once again my bf wants to keep it and I do too ...
A. 1 February 2010: Would you mind my asking if I were to inquire how: a. You keep getting pregnant, b. Didn't learn from the first time, or c. Plan to handle this other than telling someone?
Let's start with a. Do you not have safe sex? Condoms plus the pill are the ... (read in full...)
I can't move on from my first love and it's tainting my relationship
Q. I've been with my bf cumulatively about 8 months while we've been on and off for about a year and a half. My feelings for him are definitely growing and now they are to the point that I do love him. The problem is, I can't tell if it's in a romantic ...
A. 21 January 2010: Thank you so much!
--GG... (read in full...)
What are some useful tips to help becomes friends with your ex when you guys break up?
Q. What are some useful tips to help becomes friends with your ex when you guys break up?...
A. 20 January 2010: I think your relationship before your relationship matters.
Do you see him at school or work? Just act like you there when you talk. Don't try to reach him for other stuff until a bit later.
If you have a question, feel free to message me with det... (read in full...)
Don't fall for me because I don't want you to get hurt... wtf???
Q. the guy i been with for the last four months comes to my house ever weekend and sleeps over he gets along with my family really good and enjoys being here, he makes me smile and treats me good but one day we were talking about our feelings he said ...
A. 20 January 2010: I pretty much agree with all the prior posters.
When I heard a similar line, I was naiive enogh to think that this warning was just because he had been hurt, he was afraid of falling. No, that's backwards psychology that a girl might use.
Guys ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasise about 15-17 year old males?? 13-17 year old only please
Q. so i am a 13 year old girl but i only fantasise about 15-17 year olds is that a problem or not i really need to know bc i dont like people younger than me or around my age they aren't very mature ive never dated some one younger or around my age ...
A. 20 January 2010: Completely normal--don't worry!
I wouldn't really suggest acting on those fantasies, though. Most 15-17 year olds are in high school, whereas you, 13, are probably in middle school. I know that seems like no big deal to you, it didn't to me eith... (read in full...)
I can't move on from my first love and it's tainting my relationship
Q. I've been with my bf cumulatively about 8 months while we've been on and off for about a year and a half. My feelings for him are definitely growing and now they are to the point that I do love him. The problem is, I can't tell if it's in a romantic ...
A. 20 January 2010: Thank you all so much for your insight.
Thethingsthatyoutellyourself, I really appreciate your detailed answer, no worries about the length. I asked for help and you gave it!
I know I need to push him away, you affirmed that for me, but I'm scar... (read in full...)
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