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writes:Is it possible to be with someone romantically that i have been just friends with for years and have it actually work out? Reply to this Question
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (3 February 2010):
I can't say if it will work out, but for me, it was worth the pain.
I dated my best friend of a lone time for a comparatively short time, and I really loved him, but he didn't feel as strongly. It's 9 months later and I sometimes still cry myself to sleep, but it was the happiest I have ever been.
I agree with the line, "it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." The pain of losing my first love will ebb, "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." Our friendship survived the breakup, but it won't ever be the same. That is what I truly mourn.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): yea it can work, but sometimes they say not in for the long hual its great to date your bestfriend go have fun and enjoy doing things. But often times it will feel like you already know a lot about that person or at least more then you would someone you just met and started dating. So you kinda skip the whole getting to know eachother thing because you feel that you already do know them.
And this is in important part of a relationship, its often times hard to tell what they REALLY like what they dislike all of those things because they in depth about a person even things about his personality you might not know because you havent been in a relationship you have only been friends with him so somethings could surface because people act different while in a relationship then when they are just friends.
I would say it can work out but not really long term friendship is a great way to start out and then date because you sort of a have a mutual trust for eachother but people change behavior while in a relationship and i think the hardest part about going out with a friend is most times someone is more a lot more serious then the other. In terms of wanting in to work out, wanting to get to the know the person, etc. So i never found it to be a good idea if u've been friends for a while because if you end up hurt you not only lose a relationship but a friendship as well if your not careful.
Goodluck, it cant hurt to try, but keep the above in mind.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 Yes, certianly! Thats how all the greatest love stories begin. With a good solid friendship. love is best when your in love with your best friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): yes if your good friends you will probably stay like that in a relationship
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (2 February 2010):
yes it is very possible i think the longer you have known the person the more likley it is that the relationship will work out talk to the person and find out if they feel the same as you do good luck
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