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writes:Right I really need help! I just turned 18 and I really want to lose my virginity but I don't/ never have had a boyfriend... I'm not sure why and alot of people think I'm lying when I say I'm a virgin (mainy becuase of my huge 34J boobs) but Its true and untill a few months ago I hadn't even kissed a boy. I'm quite shy and even tho I'm a little chubby I'm ny obest and I am pretty.So the boy that I kissed claims to like me... But it's quite from his actions he doesn't act like it... but I still feel I should give him my virginity:1) he lives in a diffrent city so anything that happens would stay between us, nobody knows him so there would be no gossip to sprend2) he's 23 so alot more experinced and actally knows what he's doing aposed to another 18/19 year old that might not3) I actally like him and even thought he doesn't feel the excate same way he does have feelings for me and I'd rather do it with him without the emotions then do it with someone I feel I love and have them break my heart.I knw this seems a bit rash but alot of people lose it to a one night stand... Somebody they didn't even know but this is well thought out and will be planned and he knows I'm a virgin and he said at the time he's not looking to break people in unless I'm ready so he never tried to force me...Also I really want to break my hyem before I have sex as I don't want to be in alot of pain or even having to tell him to stop lol X
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): Why prove them right? They are obviuosly jealous of the boobs. Don't let people stereotype you into what they think you should be. Stay a nice girl. And if you lose your virginity like that, you are throwing away a little piece of you that will be gone forever. Don't do it or you will most definitely regret it later.
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reader, GoGreen126  +, writes (15 March 2010):
In many cultures for long periods of time, virginity had real, concrete worth. A non-virgin woman couldn't be married, etc, etc. This probably comes from the lasting idea of ownership and possession. What guy wants to have a committed relationship with a girl whose past glares him in the face? Would you really walk up to your future partner and say, "hi, when I was 18, I was sick of being a virgin, so I had sex with some guy"?
As much as it's downplayed in our society, I'd bet that most guys worth having do value your virginity. Taking virginity is an honor, not a chore.
I'm only a kid, but I know where I stand on this one. Lots of people say that those with promise rings just don't know what it's like to be in the moment. That's a lie. Absolutely. Maybe people like that just can't figure out why we'd make the decisions we've made.
Anecdote: I'm only 16, but I've been in relationships with 2 guys that were... My whole world. Yes, in the very cliche way. I'll never forget my first love... My long-time best friend that broke my heart in 5 short months, after I had liked him for 3.5 years... Loved him. He respected my rules, and no matter how much we wanted it, we stopped ourselves well before we got to sex.
My current bf and I have a far more passionate relationship. Love in a different form. Were always pushing my rules to the limit, but I really do believe that it's for the better that we put off sex. I don't want to be "that teenage girl". Do you?
Sorry that this has been so long. I just think that you should wait for the right guy. You're beautiful. You're hot. Wait for the guy that sees that and far beyond.
Good luck,
Feel free to message me,
--GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): Big deal. Get it over with if you want. but at the same time, you are only a virgin once. ANd men always love a woman they took their virginity from more than if they didn't if they loved you to start off with. We studied that fact in psychology.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): girl don do it...dont tell urself that..if u go back and read what u said u know he not the one!its too special to let it go like that simple!
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (14 March 2010):
You are literally about to jump off a high rise building with your idea. Why are you desperate to get rid of your virginity to someone who does not even love you? So what if people say you don't look like a virgin? That's their own opinion. You don't have to prove anything to them; that's their own problem with their overused sexual organs. They should not take out their lack of self-control on you. I would advise you to meet a guy who will be in a real relationship with you and who is in love with you. The sex is far better with someone you truly love and who feels the same way. You cannot avoid a real loving relationship because you fear getting hurt. Life is about taking chances including a chance on love too. Since you have never had a real boyfriend why not try dating on some of the virgins dating websites (just google). You don't have to be with someone experienced, that's a myth. It will all come to ya naturally when you meet someone who is crazy about you!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 March 2010):
Don't let yourself be used. Find a guy who wants you and cares for you. You will really regret it if you lose your virginity to someone to whom you mean nothing. You really will. There is no rush. Lose it the the right person who wants you and cares for you. And just because he's 23 doesn't mean he knows what he's doing. Every woman is different and her needs are different.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 I don't mean to be mean, but he sounds like he's using you.
You say you know that it seems rash, and I think it would be impulsive and very rash to act on this urge to lose your virginity. It's normal to have urge, but you have to be strong. Hormones can often cloud our judgement, causing us to do things on impulse which we regret later.
Virginity isn't something to get rid of, like a disease. It's something that should be saved... there's a time and a place to have sex. You should wait for someone who mutually loves you.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (14 March 2010):
 To be honest you seem to be running out to lose your virginity and dont care who its with. If thats all you want, make sure you arent going to regret it.
If its any help I never lost my virginity until I was 21, and it wasn't due to lack of opertunity. I wanted to be comfortable and ready.
So think it over.
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