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writes: what is the best and easiest way to gain confidence in kissing because i've never been kissed before and i've asked people who i know that have kissed but all they say is to just do it. THAT DOESNT EXPLAIN HOW TO DO IT!!! so i worry about little details like where to put my hand for our first kiss and what should be said before it happens if anything. her mom ended up talking to me about it (not awkward at all?) and gave me a few things she thinks her daughter likes.so if this sounds like you let me know and give me whatever advice you can. i will read everything recieved. thanks,
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reader, i.love.you  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Alrighty then, I'll explain to you exactly what happened the first time a guy kissed me.
We were in the cinemas and the whole time, everything was building up and up and up to it, I was cuddling and he was shy but cuddling me back. The film ended and I got up to leave but he asked me to sit back down, and before I even got my butt on the seat he grabbed my face (really sweetly and gently) and kissed me (with tongues) and you'll be really surprised that she will automatically put her hands on your neck or your chest.
Don't worry if it's a bit awkward because I couldn't think straight because my heart was pounding so hard in my chest - I will always remember that kiss but even though I put my hands in all the wrong place and we giggled afterwards it was a good experience even if we ended it badly.
P.S. When people say that you will just know what to do - you will, it's amazing how much is already programmed into your body.
Hope this helps :)
Regards,
Jade.
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reader, Neanthia  +, writes (10 April 2010):
 My first kiss wasn't picture perfect either. Maybe it's because I'm from a weird very expressive family that I've grown up kissing my family on the cheek. I don't know if you have and I don't want to find out. But for me, that's how easy it was except I kissed him on the lips. Just lean towards em, tilt your head and press your lips against theirs. Be gentle and see how she responds. As for where your hand's should go, maybe around her waist or pull her close to you with you hands on her back. For a first kiss I'd keep your tongue in your own mouth. However, watch her for signals each person has different preferences, but once you start kissing don't keep worrying just go with it. Its basically the only thing you can do. Go with the flow. Hope this helps dude.
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (7 April 2010):
So basically her mom told you that you matter to her daughter. That's sweet, and it reinforces the point that she won't care if it goes wrong. My first kiss was absolutely terrible, about half the people I've talked to would say the same, and that makes absolutely no difference. My first kiss was awkward, but I've kissed other guys and I've gone back to the same guy with whom I had my first kiss. We've been together a year.
What does this matter? Sorry, I got distracted and rambled. Nonetheless, first kisses aren't the end of the world. You can even be flirty about asking to practice. It's fun, don't take it too seriously!!!!
=D
--GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you,all three of you. GG- her mom said that she likes stuff like when im nervous and shaky andthat it turns her on. she said it makes her feel important because i really do care about what she'll say afterwards
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): im 15 and i have kissed anyone at all. i just cant seem to find the right guy to do it with. all my friends pressure me to just go off and kiss some randomer," oh sure go and kiss him it doesnt matter what you think of him just do it you will never see him again" but im always tryin to tell them that i want my first kiss to be with a guy that likes me for who i am. so make sure the guy you first kiss is someone you really like. dont worry about where your hand should be just go with the flow, what ever feels right.
Good luck.
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reader, manperson101 +, writes (6 April 2010):
Aww lovely... get drunk helped me haha! but as you're in the US thats not so easy! Stop worrying so much about it. She'll be worried too, just pick the right moment.
Where to put you're hands and stuff... well thats just up to you, where you feel comfortable. I would say if you're standing then you can't go wrong with around her waist, for sitting down, maybe one hand lower back and one upper. Its that simple mate! (she'll probably go for hands on your neck, face and hair so maybe avoid that so you don't get in her way)
You really can't explain kissing techniques, so just go with the flow; although i would say tipping your head to the right is normally standard procedure. Try to avoid bumping noses or teeth as thats a bit awkward!
Good luck... just relax and go with it!
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (6 April 2010):
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you really will just know. I asked these same questions myself.
The best place for hands is if you hold hers, that way she knows where your hands are. If that feels weird, the small of her back, pulling her towards you works too.
At first, don't try anything more than just pressing your lips to hers. Do it softly. Don't try anything with your tongue yet, it'll be awkward.
Hug her first and after. Hugs are great.
Don't try this from sitting if you're nervous, try it standing. It'll feel mire right. In general, guys don't have to worry about erections as much as they do. Girls either don't notice or care... Or they're happy about it!
What other advice can I give you?...hmm...
I think that's it. What did her mother say?
Message me with questions,
Best of luck,
--GG
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