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*ovesick98
writes:EVery guy i have a crush on ends up finding out and becomming creeped out. Am i really creepy to guys?
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (24 March 2011):
You're born in '98, right? So you're 13? Maybe you're just ahead of the game - 13 year-old boys often aren't ready to date.
A good friend of mine (and an ex for that very reason) is my age (17) and he's just starting to figure out how relationships should be. Maybe the guys you pick aren't ready in general. Maybe they are, but you come on too strong and that's what they're not ready for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): I think your username kind of gives us a hint as to why they might be creeped out. It kind of tells me that you sit there obsessing and staring at them, crushing on them and never doing anything about it, you sit there kind of sad that you don't have them but you never make the move. Perhaps your crushes on them and behaviour that way is a little overbearing.
You see when a teenage guy finds out a girl has a crush on him it can be a little uncomfortable, because you notice the staring, any time you pass them you see them looking at you. You hear from friends and class mates about it all the time, you hear the things they say and how much they talk about you then you feel a little creeped out if that girl never does anything about it just sits and stares.
Put yourself in their position OP, you find out this guy has a crush on you, you're not really interested in him, so any time you see him you have that in the back of your mind, so you see him staring. Even sitting in class and you can't see him directly you know he likes you so you can feel his eyes on you all the time.
They're not creeped out by you as a person OP, they're just creeped out by your crush and the fact you don't act on that crush. It's easily solved though, instead of crushing on a guy go over to him and get to know him, make a move and ask him out.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 I don't think they are "creeped out ". They may be simply not interested or not attracted, hey it happens,love- or lust- is not always requited and even Hollywood stars get rejected .
They may be annoyed or embarassed IF you act stalkerish, or you keep making puppy eyes at them when it's not the case , or stuff like that.Next time, send out elegantly your " I like you " vibes and if they don't respond properly, just move on. At your age, you have a lifetime of possible choices in front of you !
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): Maybe they get turned away by you coming on too strong? I don't know just a guess. Guys like a little chase, not for you to be too easy to get hold of if you get what I mean? Just play it cool, wait till you know he feels the same way before you reveal all, maybe you are too honest too quick?
Don't lose hope the dating game takes time, you're still young! :)
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reader, HeartBlossom +, writes (24 March 2011):
 There's no way to tell what inspired the reactions those guys had. Maybe they did kind of like you but something got in the way, such as mean comments from their friends. Or the guys you've had crushes on and the guys who've had crushes on you may just be different people. It gets better after grade school, as people grow up and worry less about stupid things. The boys who do like you will eventually speak up. Meanwhile, just focus on making yourself happy and healthy.
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reader, Odds +, writes (24 March 2011):
 You'll have to give us some more information. Can you list any specific complaints? Perhaps things you've done that you suspect may come across as creepy?
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