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writes:the guy i been with for the last four months comes to my house ever weekend and sleeps over he gets along with my family really good and enjoys being here, he makes me smile and treats me good but one day we were talking about our feelings he said do not fall for me because i don't want you to get hurt... what does he mean by that ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Digiman  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 Hey anonymous, I'm really glad you posted this question, because my GF has been telling me similar things: She "loves me now and that's enough" (wtf), she's "only living in the present"... She even said "If I don't feel your love, I may just have to find stronger love somewhere else..." ALL KINDS of SH*T that makes me think she isn't really serious about us! Also I found out today that she's chatting it up guys on the local social networking site here in Tokyo. I'm sick of this woman...I've given her 110% of my attention, love, respect, wisdom...and she won't even take the train out of her way to comes visit ME for a change (instead of me going to her!)...I'm sick of being treated like crap...I'm people's advice here: I'm dumping this chick!Anyway, good luck with your decision (hint: dump the guy!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): i think you should break up with him because the way
he said to you was just big excuse so that you'll let him go easily.
if your bf loves you,he would not say these things to you
because men are selfish being.
it hurts but don't worry,he's not only guy in this world
there're plenty of guys better than him
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): He is being straight forward with you and also giving himself a license to do whatever he pleases, because in his mind 'he has warned you'. He is still looking elsewhere for something better (in his mind).
You might thank him for being so honest and then ask him to hit the road...he is obviously not that into you or he knows he is not emotionally available and forewarning you that he will hit the road, perhaps soon, perhaps later, but he has made it very clear that he will not be falling in love with you. Guys know almost immediately if a woman is able to possess their heart or not, you will not be the love of his life :(
I am sorry if you already have feelings for him, but you need to let this one go...the further the better!
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (20 January 2010):
I pretty much agree with all the prior posters.
When I heard a similar line, I was naiive enogh to think that this warning was just because he had been hurt, he was afraid of falling. No, that's backwards psychology that a girl might use.
Guys say what they mean. He means "don't fall for me".
Good luck
--GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): It means he doesn't care about you as anything but a friend and is worried your friendship will be broken once you fall for him. It could be he has a past history of friends falling for him, and although I know you could get offended by him saying this, but I don't think he believes you like him (yet). If he thought you were already in love with him he would have said something else. It could sound stuck up, but he might have picked up on little things you do or say that to him means you could fall for him, which he wants to avoid happening.
Bottom line is: this guy is unavailable to you.
If you have already fallen for him, or think you will, tell him that if this is how he feels about matters, you and him shouldn't be hanging out that much together. Simply remove yourself from him if any romantic feelings arise.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 cause he might do something to hurt you. Maybe just a warning? Im not sure, i would probably question him about what he meant, to find the truth x
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