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writes:Hi, Aunties!I'm in a great relationship with one of the best guys in the world. I'm beyond lucky to have him, and I love him very much. At only 16, I know that I'm going to be told I know nothing of love... And that's probably true, but I'm very confident I feel it. I digress--this is just background for my question. I'm 5'6" and weigh around 155 pounds. I have very little self confidence because of that fat jokes that have always been made about me. I've always thought that I was kind of pretty--nothing special--but not an eye-sore, I guess. My bf told me often that Im beautiful, but I don't like him to say it because I kind find it in mysf to believe him.After a while I talked to him and asked him not to say it. Although he assured me that he absolutely believes it, I asked him to stop saying it. It's been a while, and I think it upsets him that he can't say it. What should I do for us both to be comfortable?I'm on a varsity sports team and am an absolute health-food freak. Because I don't like my weight or body, things just seem more complicated. Does anyone have any recommendations on how to lose weight in addition to what I do? What am I doing wrong? It seems like I just have a stocky frame, and I have 34DD breasts, and I'm comfortable enough with that, but I don't watch TV, I engage in strenuous workouts 5-6 days a week, and I'm a vegetarian health-nut (though I do have a chocolate weakness...). I don't understand my weight loss failure!My boyfriend is 6' and 140 pounds. He's a track runner, and he says he loves my body the way it is... But I find that nearly impossible to believe!Thank you so much for reading and for the help!--GG
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reader, dorothy2342 +, writes (13 March 2010):
 It's very easy. Just tell him it makes you happy to know that he thinks you are beautiful. Then say, thank you for loving me enough to say so. Then compliment him and give him a big kiss. You are just letting him know you appreciate his love and affection. Good luck.
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (12 March 2010):
GoGreen126 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank all of you so much! I really appreciate that you took the time to help me.
I have never let him tell me I'm beautiful, and some of you said I should. How should I approach this?
--GG
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reader, isis82 +, writes (11 March 2010):
I was in the exact same situation as you when I was younger. I always struggled with my weight and it seemed nothing would work. I was a vegetarian from age 10 till I was 27. When I was 26, a nutritionist friend put me on a high protein diet. I couldn't believe how easily I lost the weight and how much better I felt physically. I decided to try to start eating meat again. It wasn't an easy decision, but I knew it was best for me and I haven't struggled with my weight since. It may not be the best decision for you, but start by getting more protein in your diet and cutting out the carbs and if you're like me, you'll feel the difference almost immediately. I know that no amount of anyone telling you how beautiful you really are will make you believe it, that has to come from within you!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 March 2010):
If your boyfriend tells you that he thinks you're beautiful; he means it. He wouldn't be with you if he thought otherwise!
However, what you eat is the biggest key to weight loss, more so than exercise. Many people can work themselves to death, but because they're eating the wrong foods, they hardly lose anything.
What you need to do is eat more protein and eliminate sugar intake. Of course it's a given that you also need to burn more calories than you consume; however, if you're eating sugary fruits, starches, and breads/pastas, you're not going to lose anything. If you don't want to eat meat, then stick to veggies that have a higher protein content or have little carbohydrates. Bascially, anything that tastes good, isn't really good for weight loss. Green veggies are usually good (broccoli, spinach, avacados) and if you want fruits, stick to berries and apricots. Remember that fat doesn't make you fat, it's the sugars you comsume that your body converts into fat. What I mean is "low fat" and "light" products take the fat out, which usually makes them not taste so good, so to up the taste factor, they add sugar. Good luck!
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 Your obsessed with self image, if your boyfriend is telling you these things its because he loves you.
When someone really loves you it doesnt matter what you look like, they accept you for the person you are no matter what.
If you want to loose weight then only do it for yourself and no one else. Your boyfriend sounds like a caring guy and does love you.
The only way to loose weight is eat less and move more, but eat sensibly a balanced diet (including fats) and a 30 minute brisk walk 4 days a week.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (11 March 2010):
 the only think you have to do is to drink water a lot before meals. You can also try pills for weightloss-there are really good one's you can ask your doctor. You just have a slow metabolism nothing else.
Just btw You are so lucky that he loves you and he find's you beatiful because you are you just don't realize it. Belive me 5,6 and 155 is great my girlfriends weight ( she 2 inch taller)
He won't care if you don't lose weight . But if you need to do it, do it for your self so you're comfortable with your self
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reader, dorothy2342 +, writes (11 March 2010):
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That is true for you both. To him you are beautiful, do not deny him that, learn to see yourself from his eyes. He has a runners body, he sounds very thin to me, not my taste at all, but he is yours, like you are his. You are too critical of yourself. You are exercising and eating healthy, my only suggestion is drop the sweets and wait until your body matures. Beauty is so much more than outward appearence, love you for the whole person you are, not the teany part that you see in the mirror. Let him tell you that you are beautiful, do not deny him or yourself that pecious display of love. I believe you can experience love at any age, young or old and I believe you can feel it for more than one person in your life. If you loose a person you love, time will heal you heartache and you can find someone else to love in your life. One thing I have learned in my life is to be happy with the blessings we have and don't make yourself unhappy over the things you don't. Be thankful for what you have, no one is perfect, love yourself for who you are. God bless you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 You need to watch what you put inside your mouth . Perhaps , you may have to cut down those portions and eat less so that your body will burn up those fats. Drink more water instead.
It will take time and you will need to be more patient. Losing 2 lbs a week is the recommended weight loss.
Learn to love yourself and your body.
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reader, lovexlikewinter7 +, writes (11 March 2010):
sounds to me that you're doing everything right.
and you cant really ask that much of your body when you're doing everything right.
you really just need to make yourself happy before you can make him happy. and obviously if he thinks theres nothing wrong with you, there isnt.
try looking into a nutritionist or a trainer to help you reach your weight loss goals.
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