This nasty co-worker is spreading rumors about me all because I didn't invite her to my wedding!
Q. I'm getting married to my soul-mate February 1st 2011 (started dating February 1st 2006; about nine months after we both graduated from college both with Master's degrees). And there's really just one thing in relation to our wedding that is ...
A. 12 December 2010: Just tell her she's not invited and tell her to get over it. Does anyone actually believe her rumours??? Tell her she's a childish moron, and then just leave her to thrown her toys out of her pram.
You're not getting married because you're p... (read in full...)
I'm not getting a thrill out of sex!
Q. Hey, thankyou for opening my question =) muchly appriciated. So. im 15 my boyfriend 18 i love him so much, a few week ago we started having sex (first time for me) he was all nice about it and was gentle and everything the first time.. but ...
A. 11 December 2010: I wouldn't worry so much, You are still very inexperienced when it comes to sex, and as time goes on, you and your boyfriend will get round to trying new things, some things you won't like, and some things you will love. It's all about experimenting ... (read in full...)
Why all the fighting over Facebook??
Q. Here's my situation... I met a man online, through a dating site and we hit it off from the first date. Mutual attraction and chemistry, and it just felt so good at the beginning. We decided to get off of the dating site, but he wanted to be fri...
A. 11 December 2010: I think he is definatly playing games with you! Facebook is such a massive part of society everywhere virtually, and can cause serious problems. It's clear that he is insecure and he may be trying to break you down emotionally, but why should y... (read in full...)
Because of his parents, I am always on the outside looking in
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. Its not been an easy relationship, his Mum can't stand me and as a result I've been banned from entering their family home for some time. There is no reason for her hate, she's just a possessive ...
A. 11 December 2010: You're not over reacting. How dare his mum try and control his life!! Your bf is his own person and should be standing up to her. Once she realises that she can't control him, she will just stop trying altogether.
I know there's an element ... (read in full...)
Scent of a woman?
Q. There's a young woman at work, who I always know when she is near because... I can smell her. She smells amazing and the weird thing is, I don't think it's her moisturizer or perfume. I want to approach her and introduce myself, but I think I'll...
A. 11 December 2010: I don't think it's crazy at all, these are probably pheromones that you can smell, which are designed to attract a mate.
Do you only like this woman for her scent? Or are you attracted to her in other ways? If you are attracted to her in other wa... (read in full...)
I've never even owned a fish, how are we going to compromise on owning a dog?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving in together soon. We have always been opposites when it comes to pretty much everything. But now we are having a problem. We cant decide on what type of dog to get. He has ALWAYS wanted a German Shepard. ...
A. 10 December 2010: My ex has a german shepard who is the softest dog ever. He is very intelligent and he is very well trained. Although he does jump up at people, it's never in an aggressive manner, and as one poster said, He is my exes dog, even though he was always ... (read in full...)
Oh no, it's all gone horribly wrong!
Q. This is it, this is the big one, what i have feared for a while now. Background, my ex and i broke up 6 months ago and he was with another girl days after we split. I have had interest from other guys, but nothing ever really came from them. Ju...
A. 10 December 2010: So, i have a small update for you. In the end i told the new guy about the fact that my ex wanted me back, and when i was asleep at his, he actually went through my phone, read all of my messages between me and my ex, and actually rang him and was ... (read in full...)
To tell, or not to tell...that is the question!!!
Q. I need some advice and would like to know what people think i should do. A couple of weeks ago i went to an engagement party and the chemistry between the barman and i was incredible. I caught him looking at me in the mirror loads and i was very a...
A. 4 December 2010: No alterior motive or anything like that, i don't want to hurt him, but something like this will. Although he has a gf to keep him occupied, he still says he loves me, but i was getting to the point anyway where i wasn't willing to put up with being ... (read in full...)
Is this a case of good girls finish last?
Q. My boyfriend (and all my exs) have gone on and on about how wonderful my personality is, or how easy it is to just kick back and relax with me and how wonderful I am as a girlfriend. My current one said I made him feel like a king- thats how ...
A. 4 December 2010: I used to be in the same position with my ex, i wouldn't get anything, not for birthdays, christmas, anniversary or even valentines!! At the most he'd borrow money to take me for dinner somewhere. I gave him everything, and it was all for nothing.
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I think he's been living a double life!
Q. Hi all, it seems my boyfriend of 10 months has been seeing his ex all the time hes been with me. Ive always had my suspicions of her and i know they were still friends. I decided this week to sit outside his house as i knew he was out and see who ...
A. 4 December 2010: You say you're not gonna contact him, well don't contact him.......EVER AGAIN!!!
Leave him alone to destroy some other poor girl if that's what he wants to do. There are other guys out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve!... (read in full...)
Should I let ex know where I'm going?
Q. Well my ex and I just recently broken up and I've decided that I need to go NC. She's already in a new relationship with somebody else and it's only been a week. Hearing this news has been very tough. But I realize that going NC is the best solution ...
A. 29 November 2010: I agree, your plans are none of her business anymore. If she tries challenging you further down the line then tell her that it was nothing to do with her the moment she stamped all over you by getting with another guy! She hasn't got a leg to stand ... (read in full...)
Should I keep fighting, even though he's with another?
Q. After almost a year of dating my ex broke up with me. His reasons were he did not love me anymore...keep in mind i want to marry this person so of course i was crushed. 3 weeks later he jumps in a realtionship with a little immature girl who is a...
A. 28 November 2010: I know exactly what you mean, i am in this exact same situation, only mine has been going on longer. My ex says that he loves me and he's really confused, saying his head doesn't know what it wants, but he continues to stay with this girl which ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like me yet we came close to having sex
Q. I need some advice on how to get ovr this guy I really like. He says he doesn't like me, yet we have made out before and was very close to sex. I am tired of feeling hurt around him. I see him at school everday, but next semester he is moving. ...
A. 28 November 2010: I agree, there's no point in causing yourself more heartache if he's just going to be leaving. He says he doesn't like you, which is rotten to know, but there will be plenty of other people as you grow up who will like you back.
Be strong, ... (read in full...)
Due to antibiotics, birth bill was inneffective, NOW I'm 2 months pregnant!!! How do I tell him?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. We met in 7th grade but didn't start dating until a month before freshman year started. We're both nearly half way through our senior year now. We lost our virginities to each other on ju...
A. 27 November 2010: You just have to be honest with both your boyfriend, and your parents. If they love you, they will support you through this, and help you make the right decisions. As far as i'm aware, if i am ever prescribed antibiotics from the doctor, they do ... (read in full...)
Who and what does he think he is he has a big ego and thinks he has me right where he wants me.
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship with a guy for about 3yrs but things are not going as good as they should be,and so i told him i wanted to end things. what has shocked me is his remarks to me saying this.first he said I could never say good bye...
A. 22 November 2010: I'm going to tell you the 3 most important words for you to follow right now...
"prove him wrong"
say good bye to him, forget him, and get rid of his number! He clearly doesn't have any respect and if you completely cut him off he'll realise th... (read in full...)
Ho can I make my boyfriend last longer when giving oral sex?
Q. I usually suck my bf's penis almost everyday.My boyfriend's penis is almost 8" long.When i suck it he make out his cum within 1 minutes.How can i suck his penis for more time?...
A. 22 November 2010: You need to slow down yourself. When he tells you he is getting close to finishing, stop and move onto kissing his stomach or back for a while, then when the urge for him to cum has faded, go back to his penis.
Suck slowly, and mix it up a bit by... (read in full...)
My husband just disappeared but is all over her facebook page!
Q. 21 years married 24 years together, two kids, I was happy I thought I had the best husband, he was so good to me then the unexpected happened 3 1/2 years ago he had an affair, from the internet, I was unable to forget....I fougnt with him ...
A. 22 November 2010: Shows how much he cares about you and your children!!! You and your children deserve so much better! It's hard when you still love someone, but he is clearly messing you around and lying to you and your children. You shouldn't have to put up with ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend isn't that into me because he wants a threesome
Q. Hi, I recently lost my virginity to my gay boyfriend. It was quite an awkward experience... It lasted for around 3 hours and I didn't get aroused much, because we spent all night drinking coffee and cola and watching movies. So I hope that he ...
A. 22 November 2010: I think he needs to slow down a bit!!! You have only just lost your virginity (and i assume that by the fact that you are his first bf/date/kiss that he has just lost his too) i think you need to spend some time exploring each other sexually before ... (read in full...)
I was teasing and he took it seriously and now I don't know what is going on!
Q. Okay so to start off, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months anyway today we we're hanging out and I was giving him a blowjob and I stopped and kidding around said ya know you're so mean, I always do this for you blah blah blah, BUT I was totally ...
A. 22 November 2010: just give him time to chill out for a while, he'll come round.
Oh, and lay off the joking around for a while if he has that reaction!!!... (read in full...)
Manager at my new job is causing trouble. How can I handle this?
Q. Hello Cupids. Recently I've just got hired at a local walmart, and Ive been there about a month. Ive gotten really sick with the stomach flu and have called in today a day i know i wasnt working they called telling me Im a no show, I really w...
A. 21 November 2010: You need to speak to your manager about her behavior. You don't deserve to be spoken to like that, you need to do something about it!
ell your manager about what she says to you, and how it makes you feel, then this woman will be punished accordin... (read in full...)
Why does sex still always hurt?
Q. Whenever I do it with my boyfriend I hurt and bleed. There's always enough foreplay that I am well-lubricated, but it always hurts. Any ideas?...
A. 21 November 2010: Have you just recently lost your virginity? If you have then maybe it has something to do with that. Maybe your boyfriend is just simply being too rough (some men like it that way)
I suggest you go and see your doctor, they may be able to help you... (read in full...)
I had to be with family on our 1 year anniversary and girlfriend is mad
Q. Hello everyone. Thanks for checking out my question. I really appreciate it. Well firstly, my girlfriend is mad and disappointed at me. And I know it's my fault. So here's the situation. Couple of days ago, it was our 1 year anniversary. I made...
A. 20 November 2010: Wow, she's demanding! I actually think it's impossible to write 200 pages of A4 in less than 12 hours. If that's all she's asking for and you feel that this is the only way to get her to speak to you properly, then just do the best you can with ... (read in full...)
She never shuts up about him!
Q. okay, so I have this one friend that I love like a little sister. She comes to me a lot with her issues because I'm two years older than her. So, about 5 months ago she got her first boyfriend. I was naturally happy for her when times were good ...
A. 19 November 2010: Maybe just ask her if she'd like to hang out more, go for lunch, go the cinema and initiate conversation that isn't about guys...... (read in full...)
Why on earth is he still with his girlfriend?
Q. So, here i am again...still as confused as ever. My ex and I split up 5 months ago after being in a 3.5 year relationship. within a few days he was seeing someone else, as she had been sniffing round for a long time. It hurt me alot when they got ...
A. 18 November 2010: Thank you to everyone for your answers.
Yes i am tired of feeling miserable about the whole situation, but that doesn't mean that i'm not out with friends and enjoying my life. I am, and i feel good doing it, although i do still love my ex, i'm ... (read in full...)
We don't want to go all the way, so what else is there besides plain old oral sex?
Q. My bf's birthday is coming up and i want to do something special for him... Both of us are virgins...we both agreed to wait for the wedding night; however i wanna get a bit dirty with him without ...u know...losing my virginity...so w...
A. 17 November 2010: Dirtball covered alot there, I'd go with one of those, maybe eat dinner off of each other lol, just be careful because the gravy can get everywhere!... (read in full...)
I think my now ex-boyfriend has pawned my only valuable item! What should I do?
Q. hi you've seen my last question about the guy i need to dump. the title: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-tried-dumping-him-twice-but-he-doesnt.html you need to see what happened cause at the end i have another question. sorry its a bit long. ...
A. 17 November 2010: Unfortunately you are just going to have to cut your loses on this now. You did it, you told him it was over and you got your possessions out of the house. Sometimes we have to leave things behind. It's not a nice feeling, knowing that he more than ... (read in full...)
I've tried dumping him twice but he doesn't get the memo!
Q. hi i need to break up with my boyfriend, because he is controling and overbearing. the proplem is i dont know how i tried too twice already and it went knowhere we got back together. so how should i put it to him, he always would just get mad and ...
A. 16 November 2010: You just need to tell him straight... You are controlling, overbearing and i don't want to be with you anymore. Yes it seems overly harsh, but he'll never get it if you pussy foot around it.
Be honest with him and tell it like it is! Good luck, it... (read in full...)
How hard is it to get over your first love?
Q. How hard is it to get over your first and true love of 3.5 years. We are heading down the road to a breakup and i keep getting scared that i will never love the same again. I then keep thinking of all the good memories which is so painful. How long ...
A. 16 November 2010: There isn't an exact time limit on something like this, it takes aslong as it takes for you to be able to accept the break up and move on. Put it this way, i broke up with my ex 5 months ago, but it doesn't hurt as much as it did on day one (We were ... (read in full...)
Anyone else worried about schools' sex education??
Q. I am very worried about teens sex education. I am from the UK and our sex education is very good. Girls only get pregnant because they want to or because contraception fails or they are just too stupid to use contraception. Some of the questions ...
A. 15 November 2010: I've worked as a TA for a number of years now. In most secondary schools i've been in, they do cover sex education in PSHE lessons, including other life skills and lessons, like drug abuse and personal hygeine etc.
The sex ed lessons i sat in w... (read in full...)
I like my new girlfriend so much and a convinced I'll never cheat on her but I've made mistakes in the past so who's to say I wont again?
Q. My ex keeps trying it on with me whenever I go to her house even though I have a new girlfriend and I'm afraid one day I might give into temptation. I'm 20, my ex is 19 and my new gf is 18. I have a 10 month old son with my ex which is why I go to ...
A. 15 November 2010: You just have to keep making it clear that you have a new girlfriend, and that the only reason you are in her company is so you can be a father to your son! Keep telling her until she gets the message. Does your new girlfriend know about what ... (read in full...)
What's the name of that one sexual position?
Q. Hey, I was wondering is there a sex position were the girl lays down on her back but has one leg over the guys shoulder? Does any one know the name of it? I wanna tell my bf it but i dont know if he will know what im talking about. Thanks....
A. 11 November 2010: All these positions have many different names. Can you not just explain it to your bf like you have explained it to us???
By the way, cracking positions, better if both legs are up over the guys shoulders ;) ha ha...... (read in full...)
Why can't she just see how gorgeous she is?
Q. Here's a bit of back story on the situation. We started dating about two years ago, and at the time she had a lot of self-esteem issues. She was about 135 lbs and constantly thought she needed to lose weight. But I actually adored her womanly ...
A. 8 November 2010: Lets face it ladies, there has always been at least one time than we've looked at ourselves in the mirror and said "urgh, I need to lose a few pounds!" We've all done it.
Your girlfriend knows that you think she is beautiful, but there is nothing ... (read in full...)
Had sex with 2 different guys... who could be the father or could I be pregnant?
Q. Had sex with 2 different guys... who could be the father or could I be pregnant. I was on the depo shot for six months and once i was off i had heavy bleeding for a month none stop. Finally i my period regularize and my period stopped 5 days l...
A. 7 November 2010: Let me give you one massive piece of advice that i keep telling myself if i ever get involved with a guy, it'a a phrase that i adopted when i was travelling around australia and has stuck with me ever since...
It's really easy to remember aswell..... (read in full...)
Do guys accept small breasted girls?
Q. I am a very petite girl with small breasts size cup A. My boyfriend told me he love me for who I am and always kiss and fondle with my small breasts but I feel so sad for him as I think that he loves bigger breasts. I start to feel ashame of ...
A. 7 November 2010: Your bf accepts you for who you are, and that is a very beautiful thing. So many girls are under the impression that guys love big boobs, whether they are real or fake...but this isn't the case. As long as your bf loves you excatly how you are (and ... (read in full...)
Had sex with 2 different guys... who could be the father or could I be pregnant?
Q. Had sex with 2 different guys... who could be the father or could I be pregnant. I was on the depo shot for six months and once i was off i had heavy bleeding for a month none stop. Finally i my period regularize and my period stopped 5 days l...
A. 7 November 2010: The only way to know if you are pregnant is to do a pregnancy test. If it's positive, the only way to know who the father is is to do a paternity test.
Do some research on time frames, this could aid you in working out who may have got you preg... (read in full...)
I've had sex with both my boss and her daughter! How do I get out of this?
Q. Hello. This is a very awkward, but sadly very true, story that I need help with. I have recently been having a casual sexual relationship with my 38 year old boss. I'm 20. This may sound bad but bare in mind she was not my boss when I began 'se...
A. 6 November 2010: Have you considered the fact that if you carry things on with the daughter that someday she'll wants you to meet her parents?? Awkward.com!!!! Can you imagine the look on her face when the mother realises that her daughter is seeing a man that she ... (read in full...)
She's giving me an ultimatum... drop my friend or she's leaving me!
Q. So, there was this girl I used to have a fling with. However nothing ever became of it, we started dating different people but she is still one of my best friends. That was two years ago. Currently I'm dating this girl, and have been for a few ...
A. 3 November 2010: Ultimatums suck. You now need to weigh up some pros and cons. As a female i don't think i could ever lay down an ultimatum on someone, it's just not fair.
if your gf is making you choose between her and your best friend, who else will she expect y... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 3 November 2010: PatientlyWaiting1, I am also in this situation. I didn't give up hope on my man, and we still talk, he actually sits and tells me that he just can't be bothered with his gf at the moment coz they keep arguing about stupid things all the time. We do ... (read in full...)
I never thought it would feel so horrible to go along with sex when you don't really feel like it!
Q. Female age 20 here, dating a male age 21. Been dating for over a year now, living together for 8 months. Lost our virginity to each other, relatively healthy and active sex life. Had a bit of a mistake today and I'm having trouble dealing with it ...
A. 3 November 2010: This is definately going to be one of those "easier said than done" things, but try not to let it worry you too much hun. You have your bf there to support you, even if he just sits and passes you tissues whilst you cry on his shoulder.
He ob... (read in full...)
Will he be more likely to contact me if I stop trying to contact him?
Q. I have broken up with my boyfriend,2 weeks ago.He hasn't contacted me although i did email him and text him but no response.Does the "No Contact" rule actually works? I read on a website that if you want your lover back then he has to miss you 1st ...
A. 3 November 2010: Dornraben, thanks for your kind comment :)... (read in full...)
Should I take a minute of joy, for an hour of heartache?
Q. I'm falling love with a woman that's not going to near me in a few months. I can't stop myself from having feelings for her. When she's asleep in my arms my world is her. When she's not near, all I think about is her, everything else has the volume ...
A. 3 November 2010: I feel your pain, i would spend one second being happy with the man i'm in love with even if it meant spending weeks feeling lonely and miserable afterwards without him.
We can't help how we feel though. I hope this woman knows just how much she... (read in full...)
Will he be more likely to contact me if I stop trying to contact him?
Q. I have broken up with my boyfriend,2 weeks ago.He hasn't contacted me although i did email him and text him but no response.Does the "No Contact" rule actually works? I read on a website that if you want your lover back then he has to miss you 1st ...
A. 30 October 2010: Just because a couple break up once or twice, doesn't mean that there is absolutely no hope for reconcilliation!! My ex and i broke up time after time, but our isses were never really addressed until we had been broken up for a couple of months or ... (read in full...)
Will he be more likely to contact me if I stop trying to contact him?
Q. I have broken up with my boyfriend,2 weeks ago.He hasn't contacted me although i did email him and text him but no response.Does the "No Contact" rule actually works? I read on a website that if you want your lover back then he has to miss you 1st ...
A. 29 October 2010: In alot of cases in can work. I know it's hard, i've been through it myself in the past few months (and my ex started seeing someone else days after we broke up!) I did what you did, sent him stupid texts and emails - mainly when i'd been drinking - ... (read in full...)
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