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writes: My ex keeps trying it on with me whenever I go to her house even though I have a new girlfriend and I'm afraid one day I might give into temptation. I'm 20, my ex is 19 and my new gf is 18. I have a 10 month old son with my ex which is why I go to her house often, as every Saturday is when I get to see my son. Things ended really badly with my ex as we broke up when she was 8 months pregnant. I ended up going off the rails and went to prison for 6 months for GBH. When I came out I was told I wan't allowed to see my son until my house arrest ended. I met a new girl in the meantime who I really, really like and was proper supportive of me throughout.At first my ex didn't want me having anything to do with my son even though I got myself a job and was willing to pay maintenance so I took her to court and managed to get access, which was for two hours every Saturday at her house on my own. I was dreading the first visit because I thought there would be tension with my ex but we actually got on quite well, too well in fact and she ended up trying to kiss me at the end of it, but I told her I had a new gf and just left.She's been bombarding me with texts ever since and the next week I went she tried it on again, but I was stern and told her I was only there to see my son. She kept saying I want her and its only a matter of time before I realise it. After the visit, which was yesterday she said she has a surprise for me next week which I dread to think of.I like my new girlfriend so much and a convinced I'll never cheat on her but I've made mistakes in the past so who's to say I wont again? If I choose not to go I'll miss out on seeing my son which of course I don't wanna do and I can't change the arrangement we have cos its been decided by the courts and is in place for at least another 3 months. I've got a feeling she's gonna whip out the lingerie next week, what can I do to put her straight?
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 You just have to keep making it clear that you have a new girlfriend, and that the only reason you are in her company is so you can be a father to your son! Keep telling her until she gets the message.Does your new girlfriend know about what she tries to do? If not, maybe you should consider telling her what your ex has done, and your reaction to it. At least you're proving to her that you're being honest, and that you respect her enough to not be keeping secrets.Continue to resist your ex, i'm sure your new girlfriend will be supportive. If she continues and the situation escalates, be strong and tell her no.
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