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writes:okay, so I have this one friend that I love like a little sister. She comes to me a lot with her issues because I'm two years older than her. So, about 5 months ago she got her first boyfriend. I was naturally happy for her when times were good and cried with her when they got bad. I have never had a problem with being there to help with her boy drama, cause I usually drama free. I have no problem with talking about her and guys, but it seems to be the only thing now. how can I get this to change? Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (20 November 2010):
 If she asks for your advice/help with her boy troubles, then help her. I know that this gets really annoying when it's the only thing you talk about, so don't let it be the only thing you talk about.
Inform her that you two are friends and you aren't just an information booth. Change the subject. Say I don't know what to tell her. Or tell her to come to this site and she can ask peoples opinions in here about what she should do. Then you two can talk about all the answers you get.
By the way, I think it's awesome that you've been such a great friend to her, most people don't do that these days.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (20 November 2010):
 every-time she brings up the subject just roll your eyes back breath hard and say aha and listen soon enough she will realize that it annoys you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): I had a friend like that once and i found the best thing to do was everytime she brought this guy up (yet again) i just replied with one word answers "yeah" "no" etc... she soon caught on that i was getting pretty tired of hearing about him. Either that or just change the subject.
If this is her first boyfriend then all this is going to be new and exciting for her so even though i know it can get irritating just try and hold your tounge.
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reader, raiders +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Just change the subject. She will get the hint and eventually stop.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Maybe just ask her if she'd like to hang out more, go for lunch, go the cinema and initiate conversation that isn't about guys...
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reader, muffy +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Well dear,you should be happy with yourself for being such a good friend to her.If you want to talk about other things with her then tell her.Don't be mean about it,but be gentle.If she asks for your help on guys,give it to her.Then you ask her for advice on a completely different topic and you guys will be talking about something else.I hope everything goes well.If you need anything just let me know.
Love and kisses,
Muffy33
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