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*ionnlagh
writes:There's a young woman at work, who I always know when she is near because... I can smell her. She smells amazing and the weird thing is, I don't think it's her moisturizer or perfume.I want to approach her and introduce myself, but I think I'll just come off weird. But man she smells amazing; homely and warm is how I would describe her scent, not sweet or perfumey at all. I feel like a freak just mentioning it, but it's true.Could it be her sweat? Is there such a thing as a natural attraction to how someone smells? I don't know what I should do in this odd situation really... Advice?Enjoy from a distance like a strange person seems to be the safest option at this point huh? (ps. I knew of one other women who smelt the same...crazy me huh)
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reader, jedi_knight  +, writes (2 July 2012):
i am in the same dilemma right now. initially thought it was her perfume, so what i did i bought one and gave it to my gf ( yes i am already in a relationship but crazy about this another lady),but the result was different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): It's not weird, nor is it pheremones. I just recently met a man who continously tells me I smell like "Windmill Cookies." He is wildly drawn to me and my scent. I am certain it is not perfume because I don't wear it often. And my perfume is musky, not sweet. I was amused at first, then flattered. It reminds him of a happy time in his youth and much like your description, he says being around me and my smell is "warm, and comforting."
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reader, Fionnlagh +, writes (11 December 2010):
Fionnlagh is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you, everyone. I don't feel so strange anymore. I'll see her on my Tuesday shift, so here's hoping I get in a friendly 'hello' to her.
Getting to know the girl first is definitely the most appropriate approach for sure. Personally I would be stoked to hear something as odd from someone new, but I understand that not everyone is the same as me. So I'm glad I asked, I'm not embarrassed by this and the answers and opinions you all have are really great. Thanks again and keep them coming please?
Would/does this smell attraction go both ways? I'm wondering if I have a pheromone smell too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): It's very possible that her pheremones agree with you. If so, welcome to a unique group of men who are often more successful at detecting female pheremones and often similarly successful with women.
At University I was part of a study of pheremones where we had men and women come in once a week to smell a range of very concentrated components of pheremones - male and female. Women were much more sensitive to all pheremones, positive or negative to them, but especially receptive to male pheremones they detected as positive to them, at some times of month for them (we tracked women's period/ovulation dates too). Some men reacted to very few pheremones (could smell hardly anything) while some men were super sensitive to pheremones. A small percentage preferred only same sex as them pheremones. Some men reacted very negatively to female pheremones they did not like. We also tracked number of days all had intercourse each month. Men with good 'nose' for pheremones had more sex than other men. Most women's pheremone scent in real life is not pronounced enough to be consciously smelt, or until the man is up very close nose to skin. A man may not even realise the very feint smell, to him, is why he is so attracted to a particular woman.
If it is her pheremones then do remember her pheremones are not all of who she is. Though clearly physical attraction is heightened if you are attracted to her pheremones. Women's pheremones scent can be raised and more pronounced at different times of the month for her. But it sounds like her pheremones agree with you 24/7 365 days of the year. Making her unique to you. Just be a gentleman in her presence, even if she does excite you. If she is already in a relationship you will need to find another lady. Treasure your unique skill.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 I don't think it's crazy at all, these are probably pheromones that you can smell, which are designed to attract a mate.
Do you only like this woman for her scent? Or are you attracted to her in other ways? If you are attracted to her in other ways, then by all means, introduce yourself. In fact, just introduce yourself anyway, if you want to get to know her then go for it!!!
You don't really have anything to lose by talking to her and you never know, it could be the start of something great as friends or maybe a relationship.
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Ah - so it's not just me then? I think I know just what you mean, Fionnlagh.
Several years ago, I had a relationship with this woman who had an aroma of newly cut hay, mixed with a hint of spiciness. Mmmmmmm..... I can still recall that amazingly sexual aroma. Dont know where it came from but I will also say - don't know if this is relevant - but her sex scent (alright, her pussy aroma) was also quite strong, but beautifully so. Used to drive me crazy and she knew it as we discussed it on many occasions.
As for advice, I would certainly NOT mention aromas at this early stage, just simply ask her out one evening for a meal, a drink and a chat. Wouldn't hurt to tell her that she smells wonderful though.
Good luck.
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reader, Darlie  +, writes (11 December 2010):
My ex used to say he was attracted to my scent--my natural scent--and said he thought it was because of pheremones(check spelling, lol) but yeah, some people do smell really good, and different people smell differently wearing the same cologne or perfume.Body chemistry, I think.Nothing freaky about it...it just is. LOL I do think the combination of look and scent is what we're all inclined to notice above others. An ugly man wearing the same cologne as a good looking man will get overlooked.Same with women.
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reader, KarlaMarie +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Its not Crazy, its natrual to be attracted to the smell of someone, espchilly when it is a good smell... theres all sorts of ways that attract people but dont let the smell of someone over rule everything else about this woman, if you say something to her, dont go up to her and say "your smell is amazing" .. get to know her and see what she is like as a person, you never no you guys may get along really well.
theres more to the beauty of somebody and the scent of somebody... its what the person is like that really matters.
it may be her perfume, or it may even be a shower gel or hand cream that you can smell... who knows!!.
just get to know her as a person and if shes not your cup of tea... theres plently more ladys out there who smell good!! :) x
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