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writes:Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. We met in 7th grade but didn't start dating until a month before freshman year started. We're both nearly half way through our senior year now.We lost our virginities to each other on junior prom night and have been going crazy with sex ever since. But we've been safe! I've been on the pill since the beginning of junior year and we always use condoms.Trouble is... I had a UTI about two months ago and was using antibiotics to get rid of it. I did not know that the birth control pill was ineffective during that period of time. And my parents don't know I'm not a virgin anymore, so they never told me. Also, the condom broke...Well, I'm two months pregnant now and I have to tell someone soon or I'm going to lose my mind! I know my mom will understand because she had me at age 17; my dad was 18. But they won't like that I've made THEIR mistake.Also, I don't know what my boyfriend will think. Sure, we've been together for 3.5 years but I've come to notice that guys these days... really suck. My boyfriend only JUST turned 18 and we had plans to go to the same university together next year.I turn 18 in March next year and if my calculations are correct, I'll be a mother in June or July. Right after I graduate high school.Please... I don't know what to do...
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reader, Sunnyxx  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 I totally feel for you here. I'm not pregnant (as far as I know?) but apart from that, our situations are very similar. My doc didn't tell me that the pill would be affected by antibiotics, thankfully one of my friends knew. So now me and my BF of 4 years use 2 forms of birth control.
As hard as it is, you'll just have to come out with it. Your parents might be annoyed at first, but they still love you and they'll help you through this. There might be tears at first, but things will work themselves out in the end.
You'll also have to work out if this is the right time in your life for further education, and if you don't want to dump the baby on your parents you ought to consider being a mature student in a few years.
As for the boyfriend, he's been with you for 3 and a half years, so relax a bit. What will happen will happen now, it's out of your hands. So just tell him and be ready for if he needs a couple of days to himself after such big news.
I wish you all the best, and hope good things come your way. Good luck xx
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (27 November 2010):
 You just have to be honest with both your boyfriend, and your parents. If they love you, they will support you through this, and help you make the right decisions.As far as i'm aware, if i am ever prescribed antibiotics from the doctor, they do mention about the fact that the pill will not work, and advise me to use extra prtection for at least 7 days after the last antibiotic. But at least you have this piece on information now, pass it onto any of your female friends who are sexually active, the more people know, the better.I wish you all the best :)
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 The sooner you let your parents and bf know about the pregnancy, the BETTER. Goodluck
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reader, Battista +, writes (27 November 2010):
You're nearly 18, you're old enough to be having sex and therefore deal with the consequences of it.
What's the difficulty with telling your bf? Just sit him down and tell him, especially if you have been going out for several years. Yes it's big news but there's no point in beating around the bush. Just get it over with.
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