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writes:Hey, thankyou for opening my question =)muchly appriciated.So. im 15 my boyfriend 18i love him so much, a few week ago we started having sex (first time for me) he was all nice about it and was gentle and everything the first time.. but im not getting a thrill out of it and he doesnt normally last very long.why arnt i getting a thrill?should i be?is something wrong?i dont even orgasim or anything.Please help. i know its wrong that we are together but to me and my family age doesnt matter. Thankyou. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): my dear its a alil early for you to be havin sex its possible your hormones are not reali active because your body is nt ready, it takes the female body quiet awhile to feel pleasure which means longer time than the guys. For the two of you to enjoy it you have to slow down the pace for him at the begining so that he does most of the work and you can get turned on and try not to have sex too often at your age
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): The reason you can't enjoy sex is definitely because of your age sweetie. I'm sorry to say but your boyfriend is young and so are you. Please don't sleep with anyone else after this guy. I know it feels great (trust me...I know!) but when you get older you'll meet guys who will be able to rock your world for HOURS. And once you have sex with one boyfriend, it becomes hard to not have sex with the next one. And before you know it you'll be 18 and slept with too many guys.
I had sex before i was ready at 17. I was dating a guy who was suuuper sexy and he was 18. We only dated for about two months before he ended up cheating on me. I found out he wasn't interested in love like he said he was, he was interested in sex and pleasing himself.
I thought I was ready at 17 and I wasn't. All I'm saying is hold off on sex just a little bit longer. I know you don't think about it now but you will regret it in the future. Especially when you meet that special guy you wish you would have waited for.
Hope I helped.
P.S.-don't have anymore sex!
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 I wouldn't worry so much, You are still very inexperienced when it comes to sex, and as time goes on, you and your boyfriend will get round to trying new things, some things you won't like, and some things you will love. It's all about experimenting and experiencing things with each other.
Just have a little patience, you will get there. Just remember to take precautions...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): You are under age whether you like it or not. Going by what you've said, it just proves why girls should not have sex when they are under age and not mature enough have a physical relationship.
I'm not going to nag but the law is there for a reason and your boyfriend should know better than to be having sex with an under age girl.
You aren't enjoying it because physically and emotionally you are not ready. I would be very cautious about who you tell about this because your boyfriend could end up in jail for statutory rape.
I hope you are using protection. You need to stop with the physical stuff before it gets you in trouble.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Ok, First of all, it doesnt matter what your parents or your family think. In Austrailia the LEGAL age of consent is a minimum of 16, so by you having sex with an 18 year old man underage, HE is commiting a crime - child abuse and rape. LEGALLY you cannot consent.
http://www.avert.org/age-of-consent.htm
Secondly, why do you think they put age limits on things like sex? Its not to spoil your fun, it is to protect children (thats you) because it takes many years to become fully developed both physically AND mentally. You might think you are grown up, and an adult, but you are not.
You are not yet an adult, or fully matured in your mind or body. Essentially you are not ready for sex, and by you not enjoying it, your body is trying to tell you that its not ready, yet you choose to ignore it.
My advice would be to wait a while until you are a bit older.
Your boyfriend also sounds pretty selfish and only out to pleasure himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): Sex should be enjoyable to all the participants.
When they are old enough to participate.
Your age may not matter to you or your family, but it will to the authorities.
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