Boyfriend wont spend mothers day with me - am I overreacting?
Q. This time last year my grandmother died and it is mothers day weekend as everyone knows and my mum is working all day today and tomorrow. My boyfriend knows how upset i am, i was crying yesterday because I am just feeling quite lonely. At Christmas ...
A. 17 March 2012: I'm confused here! Did you ask him to come to a family meal at Christmas or did your mother ask you to ask him? Because I can understand he wants an invite from your mother. Also he may not like eating in front of people he doesn't know (I know I ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or give my ex another chance?
Q. Hello, My question isn't a dire circumstance as most questions on this site often are. It is just a confusing situation. About a month ago I was in school in Indiana, I began dating and met a wonderful man (lets call him Dan). He has a job, he ha...
A. 15 March 2012: Thanks for the follows up.
Good on you! (Sometimes we really do see ex's through rose tinted glasses...!) Haha!
Maybe it was fate that brought you back to your hometown/ex just to confirm the reason you split up in the first place!?
;-)
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My current boyfriend wants me to delete FB pictures of my ex and I! Should I do this or not?
Q. My boyfriend feels uncomfortable seeing videos and just a handful of pics on my Facebook page of my ex boyfriend, it's vids and pictures of him and a few if my friends hanging out and normal pictures of me and him.. He's asked me previous times to ...
A. 12 March 2012: That's quite a hard question, because I can see both yours and your boyfs point! Are you still in contact with the ex? (I mean does he need to still be on your fb?) Does your boyf have pics of ex's on his fb? It sounds like your boyf is fe... (read in full...)
We are really happy but his attitude towards money is driving me mad!
Q. Hi, i have a problem. I am living with my boyfriend and i love him so much. we are really happy in all areas, the one and only area that i am not happy is with his attitude towards money. EVERY month without fail, he runs out of money, he cant, or ...
A. 12 March 2012: He's being selfish (he has enough money to go out with the boys).
Can't you just work out how much the bills are including food and both put money into a joint account to cover this? Then what's left or both your wages is for you both to spend on... (read in full...)
Back together with my boyfriend again but found out he lied about being on his own, he was actually in a relationship with his ex!
Q. my boyfriend split up with me in November and said this was because he didn't want a relationship after this we didn't speak until January when he said he wanted another go at things and he said he knew 100% that this is what he wanted and he'd been ...
A. 12 March 2012: Sounds like he split with you to get back with his ex, and it obviously didn't work out. Maybe being with her made him realise that did want you...? But I'm guessing he more than likely got dumped by her and thought he'd see if you were still ... (read in full...)
He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
Q. Hi, I have just come out of a relationship and my man told me he wanted to be friends as he just isn't in the right head space for a relationship. He then said he wanted to get to know me more sexually. I asked if that meant friends with benefits, ...
A. 12 March 2012: You've done nothing wrong. He did.
He shouldn't have got into a relationship with you in the first place if he wasn't sure it was what he wanted...(he should have mentioned straight away if he wasn't looking for something serious, then you woul... (read in full...)
How can I get closure when she won't give it to me?
Q. Hi All, Long story short, a woman I was dating for about 8 months and whom I supported financially and emotionally turned out to be using me and was seeing and sleeping with another man (who was separated but not divorced from his wife). I was crus...
A. 11 March 2012: Good luck, acceptance that you won't get closure from her is the start to moving on and time really does heal most wounds.
xx... (read in full...)
How can I get closure when she won't give it to me?
Q. Hi All, Long story short, a woman I was dating for about 8 months and whom I supported financially and emotionally turned out to be using me and was seeing and sleeping with another man (who was separated but not divorced from his wife). I was crus...
A. 11 March 2012: Yes, I have (but not quite to the extremes you've experienced), and I'm sure hundreds of people have... I know what you mean about closure, but SHE IS NOT GOING TO GIVE IT TO YOU... Therefore, you just have to learn to accept it, and give you... (read in full...)
B/f is emotionally abusive to me when drunk then later apologizes. Is it time to go?
Q. I have been with my bf for 8 years. We have a mortgage together. For many years he has been abusive to me while he is drunk. He calls me names and picks on me about personal things that I have confided in him over time. I recently had a spell of ...
A. 11 March 2012: People that are married with kids split up for less...Where there's a will there's a way...(OUT!)
You have put up with this for 8 years? Why? Do you think you deserve his behaviour?
What would you say to your best friend if she confided in you ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or give my ex another chance?
Q. Hello, My question isn't a dire circumstance as most questions on this site often are. It is just a confusing situation. About a month ago I was in school in Indiana, I began dating and met a wonderful man (lets call him Dan). He has a job, he ha...
A. 10 March 2012: Why do you have to be with either? I mean if you're not happy with Dan, maybe take a break or split, but that doesn't mean you have to get back with your ex!
Maybe you need a little 'single time' to figure out if you want either of them?
... (read in full...)
I never seen the break up coming and now ex texts me 5 months later to tell me about a movie? What gives?!
Q. My ex and I broke up a little over 5 months ago. It was a very painful breakup due to the fact that his decision to end our relationship was compeltly out of the blue. I didn't see it coming, neither did his family, friends or even his co-workers ...
A. 10 March 2012: Well done you for dealing with a horrible break-up with such dignity. You should be proud of yourself. I think he is testing the water so to speak. (He's probably curious/a bit miffed that you never chased him! Wondering what you've been upto... (read in full...)
What is stronger, love or hate?
Q. Hi, I am wondering about a philosophical question, but one that has great impact on me personally. I am wondering, what is stronger, love or hate? I wonder about this because I have felt hate for a woman that has been very strong. She used m...
A. 9 March 2012: That's the spirit. Think positive, onwards and upwards!
Maybe someone hurt her badly in the past and that's why she is as she is now? Who knows?!
Anyway, I do believe what goes around comes around... ;-)
(You're not with her now, becaus... (read in full...)
What is stronger, love or hate?
Q. Hi, I am wondering about a philosophical question, but one that has great impact on me personally. I am wondering, what is stronger, love or hate? I wonder about this because I have felt hate for a woman that has been very strong. She used m...
A. 8 March 2012: How long ago did this person hurt you?
It's not 'wrong' to initially feel hate towards someone that hurt you, is just destructive! It serves no purpose, and it doesn't change what that person is or has done. It just makes you bitter and angr... (read in full...)
What is stronger, love or hate?
Q. Hi, I am wondering about a philosophical question, but one that has great impact on me personally. I am wondering, what is stronger, love or hate? I wonder about this because I have felt hate for a woman that has been very strong. She used m...
A. 7 March 2012: Great question! You know what they say...there's a fine line between love and hate! Some people find it easier to forgive and forget (or at least to move on) than others. My view is you probably don't find it so easy. I think both are str... (read in full...)
I want him back but he has somebody new
Q. I really miss my ex we were together for almost a year and have been broken up for a little over a month he is seeing someone what do i do just wait for an opportunity he isn't speaking to me at all right now. The break up was his idea. And i want ...
A. 6 March 2012: In a way it's a good thing you are not speaking, because if you were it would only be prolonging the hurt. (Being in contact so soon after a break-up does not help in the long run...trust me on that, been there done it, got the t-shirt!)
All y... (read in full...)
I tell my b/f that I trust him but I really don't. He cheated!
Q. my bf cheated on me 6 months ago with his best girl mate who he promised me it nothing ever like that between them. he told me half an hour after it happened and said it happened for literally half a minute, when he realized what he was doing he ...
A. 2 March 2012: Well when you decided not to dump him, you effectively told him you forgave him and were willing to forget it...You obviously haven't. Did you discuss it? Did you ask everything you needed to about it? (I mean no holds barred conversation?) ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think that some people just aren’t meant to find love?
Q. Hey guys, words of advice would be greatly appreciated. Does anyone here have a problem with confidence. I mean confidence more to do with meeting new people and getting into relationships. I’ve never had a girlfriend, never kissed anyone and ...
A. 2 March 2012: Firstly, there is nothing to be ashamed about at being a virgin at your age, in fact it's kinda nice that you are wanting to love someone first (it makes a change for a younger guy! lol) Yeah looks matter to some degree (not gonna lie!), but perso... (read in full...)
Job interview coming up and I've torn the clothes I needed to wear
Q. Heads up, this is not a relationship question but it is Urgent! I have a induction afternnon for a job at a local garden center (Homebase for those of us in the UK)and I just ripped my black trousers. I have no idea what to wear now, no time to ...
A. 1 March 2012: Well could you go to a charity shop in time and pick up a really cheap pair of trousers? Failing that, what about that stuff you iron in to 'hem' trousers, wonder web or something? Iron it on the inside? Or could you sellotape it from the inside? ... (read in full...)
How should I cut her out of my life without falling out?
Q. I feel like one of my good friends does not make an effort to be my friend and Im thinking about burning bridges with her. Weve been friends a while now, about 7 years. To be fair to her, she does work full time and have 2 kids to bring up and is ...
A. 1 March 2012: I second Aunty BimBim, have done it myself (you just get fed up of being the one to do all the first contact...)
Just don't bother texting/calling her (if she is a real friend and is really bothered, she will do it and her share in the future) ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex post a photo of his ex from 2 years ago on facebook?
Q. I split up with my LDR boyfriend because he wouldn't commit to me and he was messing me around. I told him he had to let me move on if he wasnt prepared to commit, but we could remain friends. He was horrible back to me so I deleted his number and ...
A. 4 December 2011: I agree with the other two aunts. He has probably done it to piss you off...don't let it work... Remember when you're feeling down, he couldn't offer you what you wanted, stay strong. I would do what person 12345 said and write out your me... (read in full...)
I hate my girlfriend's new haircut
Q. My girlfriend got a new hairdo the other week and I hate it, but I don't have the guts to tell her. When she said she was going for a haircut I thought she meant just a light trim like she always had but little did I know she would be coming home ...
A. 11 November 2011: If you feel you 'have' to tell her, I would be diplomatic about it and say something like 'Your new haircut is nice, but I really liked the way it was before, You're old style really did it for me'
Does a haircut really make you no longer attracte... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid that once he saw me naked he was turned off.
Q. I met a guy and last night he stayed over for the first time. We had a couple of glasses of wine and we began to get frisky. However, when we got down to business he had a semi erection and couldnt get a full erection all night. Does this mean he ...
A. 11 November 2011: Maybe the wine was his problem? Or nerves?
I have had this problem with a man on the first night too, (though the next time was much better!!!! ;-) (and he did indeed fancy me!) lol
First times with people are sometimes awkward, give it... (read in full...)
Why am I feeling these things? What shall I do about him?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months yesterday. Everyone congratulated us when they heard the news but I am not very excited over it. I'm not sure why because we get on very well, and I have been wanting to go further with him almost since ...
A. 10 October 2011: If you're not comfortable being 'lovely dovey' for example in company I think you just have to tell him (politely!) and emphasise it's no reflection on your feelings for him, it's just how you are.
I once went out with someone who was forever ... (read in full...)
How can I ask to stay over without being rude?
Q. I've been invited to a night out in November for my friend's birthday.She recently moved in with her boyfriend in a city that i havent been to that much so i'm not used to the area and its about 40 minutes away from where i live.i might have to ...
A. 10 October 2011: If you're not comfortable asking directly, maybe hint and say you would love to come but are worried about travelling home late alone and you're not sure you can afford a hotel...?
It may have just slipped her mind how you will get home or she m... (read in full...)
How can I become a more trusting person?
Q. So short story, I've been screwed over by so many guys so many times that I am constantly suspicious and freaking out. I am in a relationship currently and my boyfriend knew before we started dating about all my baggage. He has been completely ...
A. 19 September 2011: What a lovely positive update!!
I am really pleased for you! You are still young, so no need to rush into getting married and having kids just yet though ;-)
Just enjoy each others company, and you deserve someone who treats you so well, rem... (read in full...)
Confidence issues. Can I stop having off days?
Q. Hi everyone, I wondered if you can tell me what's wrong with me (if anything is) I'm having some issues with confidence. I've always had an issue with confidence to some extent, but over the past few months I've tried to change. Some days I feel ...
A. 19 September 2011: I've been in your shoes too. (Don't feel bad about feeling like this, you will get there in the end, we all do - not sure how, but we do! List her bad points when you're feeling nostalgic about her! hahaha!
All I can suggested/know from experien... (read in full...)
How honest to be when breaking up?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for over a month now, I met him on the rebound from a disastrous 6 month relationship and wasn't sure about getting involved in the first place but I kind of got carried away as we were having so much fun together. We get ...
A. 17 September 2011: Don't say 'It's not you...It's me...!' That has to be the worst thing to hear ever! I think you do need some time to be yourself and by yourself. I would be as honest as you can (sparingly honest) as I think from what you've said about your... (read in full...)
Confidence issues. Can I stop having off days?
Q. Hi everyone, I wondered if you can tell me what's wrong with me (if anything is) I'm having some issues with confidence. I've always had an issue with confidence to some extent, but over the past few months I've tried to change. Some days I feel ...
A. 17 September 2011: I think you've just answered your own questions there...! The break-up of a relationship is hard, it knocks your confidence (and I don't care what anyone says), it doesn't matter if its short term, you've still invested time/love/trust ... (read in full...)
Should I believe in the fortune teller?
Q. Hello everyone here in Dearcupid, I had something which is hard for me and make a decision. I went to met a fortune teller yesterday because i some people said he is famous at seeing people destiny, and he say a lot of bad about my future, he said ...
A. 17 September 2011: Most 'fortune tellers' are just happy to take your money, and spin you a load of bull shit!! (and they are normally trained in body language, so you may not realise you are giving anything away to them but you are!)
A friend of a friend who read... (read in full...)
My sexting friend has made it clear he's going to have sex with other girls until we meet up!
Q. I recently started talking to a guy i used to go to school with and we been flirting and sex-txting back and forth. He says he really likes me but however he lives quite a bit away. We have talked about meeting up again and seeing how we get on but ...
A. 17 September 2011: Well he has been honest with you at least!! (And yeah he is single at the moment, so he can do whatever he wants with whomever he wants I suppose...'
But is this the kind of guy (obsessed with 'going out and meeting girls for sex') what you real... (read in full...)
How can I become a more trusting person?
Q. So short story, I've been screwed over by so many guys so many times that I am constantly suspicious and freaking out. I am in a relationship currently and my boyfriend knew before we started dating about all my baggage. He has been completely ...
A. 17 September 2011: Well you're not the only one. But perhaps imagine, say your boyfriend compared you to his exes? you have given him no reason to doubt you, you've never cheated etc, but he still questions you? Reads your emails/ text messages etc... How would... (read in full...)
Confidence issues. Can I stop having off days?
Q. Hi everyone, I wondered if you can tell me what's wrong with me (if anything is) I'm having some issues with confidence. I've always had an issue with confidence to some extent, but over the past few months I've tried to change. Some days I feel ...
A. 16 September 2011: I don't know, but providing you don't have a hormone imbalance (which I'm guessing a doc could check via a blood test) I think you are pretty 'normal' (so to speak!!) We all have good and bad days! (Has anything happened in your life that you could ... (read in full...)
It's all about ME
Q. So, I'm guessing articles should be a bit like a colum in a newspaper so here goes. I'm having a ME day soon, this involves no boyfriends, no girlfriends, no family, no work Just ME now I'm thinking everyone should have one of these once ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hahaha, everyone deserves a ME day!! (I'm single, and still have them!!)
I know it is a bit naughty, but I work most weekends, and my mum expects me to go for Sunday dinner every Sunday I can...(and mostly I oblige!) But sometimes I tell a lil fi... (read in full...)
My Affair of the heart has ended. How do I get over my lover? I've been married 7 years/
Q. I had an affair of the heart. I'm married and have been with my wife for 7 years, and we have a son. There is nothing wrong with our marriage in general, nothing I'm unhappy about. Anyway in February a woman came into my life. She works for t...
A. 9 September 2011: Thanks for the follow up. I am pleased for you :) hope it all goes well, and best of luck. x... (read in full...)
My ex has forgotten when my birthday is. Do I have a right to be peeved or am I making a big deal of nothing?
Q. My ex and me were together for just under six months. It's been several months now since we broke up. We've tried to be friends since then but it has been difficult for me because she ended it and then got a new boyfriend soon after. Anyway, t...
A. 9 September 2011: Good luck for your date on Tuesday :) hope you have a great time.
Also think about changing your number so the ex can't contact you anymore?! x... (read in full...)
I'm married and can't get over a crush!
Q. Help! I am married and can't get over a crush. The guy is married too and is not as good looking/hunky as my husband. I think I fell for his wit and sense of humour. I did enjoy flirting with him. I don't know why I am feeling this way. I've ...
A. 9 September 2011: Well at least you haven't acted on it, so that's a good sign! (and it is normal to still be attracted to the opposite sex whether you're married or in a relationship, we are all only human after all, as long as you don't do anything more!)
Good ... (read in full...)
How to deal when ex's life is so much better without you in their lives
Q. Hello all I need some help. My ex and I have been broken up for a year now and the road to recovery has been drastically different between the two of us. Ever since she ended things with me, she has a new boyfriend a few days after ending things ...
A. 9 September 2011: Well what sort of things do you like to do?
Do you like sport? Would you be interested in joining a gym, football team, swimming club etc?
Or you do like languages? Learning stuff at a night class? Photography etc?
Do you like animals, ... (read in full...)
Friends our whole lives, should we try being in a relationship?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for virtually our whole lives. We were both in serious relationships with other people throughout high school that have both ended a year or so back. We used to mess around a few months ago, but just drifted apart fo...
A. 9 September 2011: That is hard to answer. Do you think you can go back to being friends (as the way it was before if you get into a relationship??)
The main thing that stands out to me is 'He doesn't want to upset his ex by making you officially his girlfrie... (read in full...)
Weeks have went by, he said he'd call but he hasn't
Q. hello i am confused. this guy was going to ring me and get to know me but, weeks have gone past but noo reply, its kinda confusing i don't have his number and i am glad i don't. But it is nice to know where you stand if you get me any advic...
A. 9 September 2011: Yep agree with the guys! (unless he lost your number but I'm just giving him the benefit of doubt!)
Maybe he had just broke up with someone and then got back together with them? Or he could've just changed his mind for some reason? Did you meet... (read in full...)
How to deal when ex's life is so much better without you in their lives
Q. Hello all I need some help. My ex and I have been broken up for a year now and the road to recovery has been drastically different between the two of us. Ever since she ended things with me, she has a new boyfriend a few days after ending things ...
A. 9 September 2011: How do you know all these things about your ex? If it is because you are still in contact with her, then it's obviously not helping you? Stop comparing her life with yours, we all do things, have good things happen to us at different times ... (read in full...)
I'm married and can't get over a crush!
Q. Help! I am married and can't get over a crush. The guy is married too and is not as good looking/hunky as my husband. I think I fell for his wit and sense of humour. I did enjoy flirting with him. I don't know why I am feeling this way. I've ...
A. 9 September 2011: I don't know how to tell you to get over a crush, but if you are happily married, think of what you could lose if you took it further? You've been married for 20 years, and I'm imagining that could lead to boredom and when someone else shows you a... (read in full...)
My ex has forgotten when my birthday is. Do I have a right to be peeved or am I making a big deal of nothing?
Q. My ex and me were together for just under six months. It's been several months now since we broke up. We've tried to be friends since then but it has been difficult for me because she ended it and then got a new boyfriend soon after. Anyway, t...
A. 8 September 2011: I agree with what the others have said really, if it is knocking you backwards everytime she contacts you, then you have to either say something like, you've tried to be friends with her, but it's stopping you from moving on, but maybe in the future ... (read in full...)
My ex has forgotten when my birthday is. Do I have a right to be peeved or am I making a big deal of nothing?
Q. My ex and me were together for just under six months. It's been several months now since we broke up. We've tried to be friends since then but it has been difficult for me because she ended it and then got a new boyfriend soon after. Anyway, t...
A. 8 September 2011: I would probably feel the same tbh! lol (But reading it,when someone else says it, you realise its a bit of a waste of an emotion!)
But she could've just been using it as an excuse to text you, (I think woman generally remember stuff like this!) O... (read in full...)
My Affair of the heart has ended. How do I get over my lover? I've been married 7 years/
Q. I had an affair of the heart. I'm married and have been with my wife for 7 years, and we have a son. There is nothing wrong with our marriage in general, nothing I'm unhappy about. Anyway in February a woman came into my life. She works for t...
A. 7 September 2011: Lol, if I listened to the advice I give, I wouldn't have ever had any relationship problems! It's a lot easier to give advice to others but harder when it's your own problems isn't it? ;-) Thank god I haven't got any problems relationship wise at ... (read in full...)
My Affair of the heart has ended. How do I get over my lover? I've been married 7 years/
Q. I had an affair of the heart. I'm married and have been with my wife for 7 years, and we have a son. There is nothing wrong with our marriage in general, nothing I'm unhappy about. Anyway in February a woman came into my life. She works for t...
A. 6 September 2011: You did well today in work with her.
Remember she is also going through the same thing though (I mean trying to deal with getting over you so she is probably also finding it hard to know how to act towards you!!)
And you feel angry/sad/bitter... (read in full...)
My Affair of the heart has ended. How do I get over my lover? I've been married 7 years/
Q. I had an affair of the heart. I'm married and have been with my wife for 7 years, and we have a son. There is nothing wrong with our marriage in general, nothing I'm unhappy about. Anyway in February a woman came into my life. She works for t...
A. 5 September 2011: Until you are fully over each other you can never be just friends... I think you should just be polite to her in work and if she comments you are being cold/in a mood with her etc, just state you are trying to make your marriage work and want to... (read in full...)
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