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writes:I really miss my ex we were together for almost a year and have been broken up for a little over a month he is seeing someone what do i do just wait for an opportunity he isn't speaking to me at all right now. The break up was his idea. And i want him back what should i do?
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reader, landomando +, writes (7 March 2012):
This pretty much exactly what i am going through. My ex broke up with me after dating for a year. She is now currently dating another guy after we were broken up for a month. I thought that was messed up. I havnt talked to her at all. I was the one who stopped all communication with her, phone, email, blocked her on facebook... exc.. everything. Ive seen her a couple times since then and well i do feel sad,but i really laugh.. Its pathetic. and it just shows how easy she is. How she will fall for anyone. Much like your boyfriend. All the times we had and she said she loved me wanted to be with me exc was just a joke. It was misleading. and well I am glad I am not with her.
You dont want this guy back. someone that can throw away everything and move on like you were nothing, like you meant nothing is not someone you deserve. There are a billion trillion guys out there. You deserve someone who will treat you right. and not through you under the bus like you are nothing..
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (7 March 2012):
 Maybe he broke up with you, so he could be with her. My advice it so move on sweetie. He's not looking back, and neither should you.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (7 March 2012):
 You may want him back, but he doesn't want to get back together. In fact, he doesn't want you at all. He dumped you, so that he can pursue other women. You're old enough to know when someone doesn't want you, they don't want you. To reiterate:
1. He dumped you
2. He is dating anther woman
3. He is not in contact with you
It has only been a little over a month since he broke up with you. No one is expecting you to get over your relationship; no one magically gets over a love interest that quickly if they were in love. It's normal for you to be sad, to want him back, just realize this: he doesn't want you. Don't feed any optimistic thoughts. Don't entertain the get- him- back- schemes, or think that he will come back to you because he loves you. It's just going to prolong the natural healing process. Do you want to feel better sooner or waste more time being miserable?
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reader, Fate100percent  +, writes (6 March 2012):
In a way it's a good thing you are not speaking, because if you were it would only be prolonging the hurt. (Being in contact so soon after a break-up does not help in the long run...trust me on that, been there done it, got the t-shirt!)
All you can do is give him space to realise he misses you (or not... whatever the case maybe)
His new relationship is probably a 'rebound' but I know that probably doesn't make it any easier!
To be blunt, you can't make someone want to be with you, they HAVE to want it themselves. Maybe a little time apart will either confirm he does or doesn't want you. (and if they don't want to be with you, remember it's their loss, you are a good person, they just weren't right for you)
In the meantime, spend time with people that love you and make you feel good and spend as little time on your own thinking about him as possible. (In other words, try and keep your diary full of seeing people and doing fun things)
If you must, tell him you want to try again, but don't put your life on hold for him (he hasn't for you has he?)
It's hard being 'rejected', it knocks your confidence, but sometimes things just aren't meant to be,(it's nothing that you can change/could've done differently etc), it just errmmm IS!(Not mean't to be and there is no definite reason that they give you!
Chin up :-) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): Why would you want a man back that can break up with you so he can be with another woman?
How is that attractive?
what reason[s] did he give for the break up?
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