Should I end this relationship?
Q. I'm dating a guy for the past 3mths and he's a sweetheart, he tells me that he loves me, but he still has his profile on numerous dating websites, I find this disrespectful and I'm seriously thinking of ending this relationship. Can you please ...
A. 24 June 2009: Don't jump to conclusions here, firstly is he still logging into his account? some of these dating websites take 3 months before you can end your subscription.
Also did you meet him on a dating site? maybe he is checking to see if your still lo... (read in full...)
I have been out of the dating scene for so long I have no idea if he even likes me!
Q. Hello I have been out of the dating scene for a while now, mainly due to work and education commitments, so I recently signed up to a dating site. Now, I never thought I would ever do this sort of thing, so for me, it is quite a scary step. I am...
A. 23 April 2009: Hi, I wouldn't worry too much if it was your first date and he didn't make a move. I don't make moves on any of my first dates, apart from a hug. It shows that he respects you and doesn't want to use you for sex.
If you are to follow the magic da... (read in full...)
My ex bf wants to be friends with me
Q. My ex bf wants to be friends with me. I dont know if its a good idea or not. I broke up with him because he was abusive. I still care for him alot, infact I still love him, but I dont know if I can be frineds with him. I dont feel I can trust him,...
A. 13 March 2009: I think you need to cut him out of your life, your clearly scared of him and he probably knows this. He will never change all the time you keep forgiving him and letting him back into your life. If you start meeting other guys, do you really think... (read in full...)
I realise they are only friends but am I the only one who finds this a bit weird?
Q. hiya, yesterday my boyfriend came to see me from Manchester. We have a long distance relationshop as I live in London. We were going to spend most of the day, playing with each other and generally being a bit naughty. However every few minutes, one ...
A. 13 March 2009: I would of been really upset if I was in your shoes, texting someone else while being intimate with you isn't something anyone should be doing. I really wouldn't trust him, your in a long distance relationship with him, he travelled all th... (read in full...)
What does it mean find love when you least expect it?
Q. what does it mean find love when you least expect it? how does that work? but there are guys who have loads girlfriends who don't have to find love when least expect it like wise for some girls,i don,t understand, do guys only fancy tall good...
A. 13 March 2009: It means you aren't actually looking for anyone, when suddenly someone special enters your life. I've found it harder to meet anyone if i'm actually trying my hardest to get a girlfriend, if that makes sense. I met someone two weeks ago, and j... (read in full...)
Possible for 2 people who have feelings for each other to just be friends?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. and all of a sudden, the guy i dated before him starts talking to me again and admits he still has feelings for me. i have to admit, we never got our closure, so there's a part of me that's always ...
A. 13 March 2009: I wouldn't have anything to do with him, he is in a happy relationship, but decided to contact you again and admit he still has feelings? He will just make your life complicated and maybe ruin things with your current partner.... (read in full...)
Help? Is this too soon?
Q. OK, I have mustered up the courage to type an email asking the girl I like to join me for a walk and possibly a meal. I am nervous about sending it though. We have only met 4 times, and only 2 of those were times we had arranged to meet and spen...
A. 13 March 2009: Sorry to hear that, as coldplay once sung "how can you blow it if you don't even try". Atleast you went for it and won't regret what might of happened.... (read in full...)
One date and I don't understand his actions
Q. I met a guy online two weeks ago and he recently asked me out. He planned the whole thing so well and made such an effort and even wanted to pick me up (I decided to meet him there for safety reasons). I mentioned to him once that I collect certain ...
A. 10 March 2009: That was the first time you saw him face to face right? most first dates shouldn't last too long anyway, especially if they are blind dates when you've only seen a picture of them, so I wouldn't worry too much about it being too short.
He ju... (read in full...)
Tired of using hands, what else can I use?
Q. Hey iam 19 and as most guys I enjoy masturbation but iam sick of using my hands I want to use something new but I dnt know wat to use does anyone here kno wat I could use...
A. 6 March 2009: I wouldn't try anything like an apple pie or other food items. You can find a wide range of sex toy's on the internet, which range from around £10 upto £200 and they come in a plain box so nobody will know, thats what i've heard anyway.... (read in full...)
Is this just a wind up or does she genuinely like me?
Q. There's a girl at work and I think she likes me but I'm just not sure. I won't deny that she's absolutley gorgeous. She's always smiling at me, winking at me and giving me little waves. When she's hanging around with other girls at work and I walk ...
A. 4 March 2009: Ask her out, are you a man or a mouse? I expect they only start giggling because they all know she likes you. If she doesn't like you, then you will know that shes just being a cow and isn't worth it anyway.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I didn't know she was married... what's more, she's my bosses wife!!!
Q. I recently started seeing a woman I met while I was out and about. It has developed in to a sexual relationship and I discovered yesterday that she is my bosses wife! I didn't know she was married let alone my bosses wife! I've called it off but I'm ...
A. 4 March 2009: Don't tell him!! I doubt she is going to tell her husband she has been sleeping around. He can't exactly fire you either if he does find out, the worst thing he can do is make your job a living nightmare. Also I doubt you want to be responsible for ... (read in full...)
My ex has got back in touch saying he wants to be really good friends with me... Why???
Q. My ex boyfriend never did care about me. He lied, went behind my back seeing other girls, complained to his friends about me - about how he did't want to be with me. After more than one year of not being in a relationship and treating me rather ...
A. 4 March 2009: Same old story sadly :( he isn't getting any, so thought he would try his luck with you again. They all promiss they are a changed man, which normally lasts for a month if your lucky, then they revert back to how they was before.
I would tell him... (read in full...)
Break up...I'm really not feeling much
Q. i just went through a breakup last night, i didn't cry until this morning and i didnt cry for long, its not like i didnt care i really love this person, but now alls i feel is hate. is this normal?...
A. 4 March 2009: I think you go through a wide range of emotions. I've felt really upset at the start, then it turned to anger after I thought about what my ex had done, its all part of the recovery process.... (read in full...)
Guy 1? guy 2?
Q. I seem to have got into a bit of a sticky situation. This may sound odd but I already know what I need to do. It's just not what I want to do.. Me and Boyfriend of a year and a half broke up in November 08. He was the love of my life, and yes I ...
A. 3 March 2009: Did guy 1 end things with you the first time round, or was it a joint decision? Could you ever trust guy 1 not to hurt you again in the future? you said it yourself, the break up nearly destroyed you.
Guy 2 was there for you and helped you out ... (read in full...)
I have a new g/f but my ex made me become so paranoid!
Q. Since I broke up with my ex back in December, i've changed as a person and I could do with some advice. I got really close to my ex and things were going great, when one evening she tells me her ex wants her back and things ended. I've since met...
A. 3 March 2009: Ok maybe it is a bit soon to call her my girlfriend, but I wasn't too sure what to write instead. Also my ex didn't leave me, I left her because I wasn't prepared to be messed around.
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Should I leave it for him to call me?
Q. ive met a new guy (online) and we've now had 5 dates in the past 2 weeks. He lives about 30 miles away. We get on really well, lots of laughs and banter and alot of chemistry. He texts me messages to say I make him smile alot etc. I have told ...
A. 2 March 2009: Well if you've had 5 dates in only 2 weeks and he lives 30 miles away, i'm guessing he does really like you. I like to take it in turns when texting or calling someone, it shows that you both think about each other and its not one sided. Sometimes... (read in full...)
Am I protecting myself by not getting too emotional with my ex or is this how it is when two people split and get back together?
Q. My girlfreind split with me last year out of the blue. We were so in love with each other that when she left, both of us were heartbroke. We carried on texting each other for comfort. Then after a few months we started going out at nights just a...
A. 27 February 2009: I think its more of a trust issue, she hurt you the first time round and broke the trust between both of you. Now your worried the same thing will happen again, so your finding hard to commit yourself fully, because deep down perhaps you don't trust ... (read in full...)
What do women 'really' want?
Q. I've come to the realisation that when women talk about they want in men, the words cannot be trusted 100% - sure they may be some truth in what they say but not entirely or either not at all. Actions and behaviour prove the opposite. Women ten...
A. 26 February 2009: Thats the problem a lot of guys have Annalisa, we aren't what you call bad boys, how would you even describe what a bad boy is? someone who will mess you around and break your heart? or someone who spends half his life behind bars but treats you ... (read in full...)
Help? Is this too soon?
Q. OK, I have mustered up the courage to type an email asking the girl I like to join me for a walk and possibly a meal. I am nervous about sending it though. We have only met 4 times, and only 2 of those were times we had arranged to meet and spen...
A. 25 February 2009: Go for it, you've already met her a couple of times, so she clearly likes you.... (read in full...)
Lack of confidence....
Q. The problem with me is that I have absolutely no confidence in me! I'm short and lean (5'11 and 58kg), ugly, talks tech 24 hours, jobless (thanks 2 the sharemarkets!) I just cant think I'm good! And those^^ feelings comes in my way when I t...
A. 25 February 2009: You need to like yourself and who you are before anyone else will be interested. If you think your ugly and boring, it will affect the way you act around anyone you find attractive.
Being skinny isn't a problem, a lot of ladies prefer skinny g... (read in full...)
Frienship or more going on?
Q. i have this co worker that i have a thing for. i love his personality and i love how he is alway making me laugh. i know he is shy but can u help me try and figure him out? while we are at work i feel like at times he trys to avoid me and sometime...
A. 25 February 2009: Why don't you just tell him face to face that you have feelings for him? Your only on this planet once, don't regret not telling him how you feel.
I can't see how you will lose him as a friend if you tell him how you feel, sure it might be a bit... (read in full...)
He doesn't get it! I don't feel the same way!
Q. So I met someone online (in an online game), we had talked for almost a month as friends and then we decided to just hang out. Come to find out, he left his girlfriend of 5 years, whom he was living with, for me. I was not happy to hear that, we ...
A. 25 February 2009: You need to get strict with him, tell him if he doesn't accept that you can only be friends, you will have to cut contact with him, so no more cybering or constant texting and calling. If he still keeps trying to cyber you and won't leave you ... (read in full...)
What do we do? Choose the holiday or try our best to get this house?
Q. i need advice on what i should do. myself and my boyfriend have planned to go away in the summer with family for a family members big birthday. it will be so much fun i no as we havent been away in a few years. i have the money here to book it ...
A. 24 February 2009: I would buy the house, sure its nice to go on holiday and have a good time, but you don't have much to show for it when you come back and the house might not be available much longer.... (read in full...)
Should I act like I don't care and keep holding my head high even though he seems not to care?
Q. I recently met a young guy who I liked a lot but as I said he has moved on, last night he was in the shop with her... as I walked in I felt so stupid but managed to smile even though I hate seeing them together. Should I act like I don't care and ...
A. 24 February 2009: Just keep doing what your doing, its better than letting him see your down and upset without him. If they have only been together for 3 weeks and are arguing all the time, I would say that its not the first time they have been together, so your ... (read in full...)
Can you make someone miss you?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question but can you make someone miss you - my friend has this theory and I've tried to tell her it won't work but she's not listening. She broke up with her bf about 4 months ago and she does miss him but I dont t...
A. 20 February 2009: Yeah it would have to be completely for atleast two weeks, he needs to believe that she has moved on and looking for someone else. If he does text her tho, she shouldn't ignore him, just give a short polite reply without getting into a conversation ... (read in full...)
Can you make someone miss you?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question but can you make someone miss you - my friend has this theory and I've tried to tell her it won't work but she's not listening. She broke up with her bf about 4 months ago and she does miss him but I dont t...
A. 20 February 2009: Its not really forced, its more like the realization of how stupid you are to let someone slip out of your life, but if shes still acting like his servant, he will never realize what he could miss.... (read in full...)
What is his game plan??
Q. Help. I met a guy over the internet who lives in NSW. I live in Perth. We seemed to get along really well. He then started sending me pics of his lower private parts and wanted to know what I was wearing etc and wanted intimate pics of me. At first ...
A. 20 February 2009: I myself would walk away, do you really want to be with someone who acts like a child when under a bit of stress? thats if hes even telling the truth. You've been texting him now for 5-6 weeks and hes already upset you, making you ask for help here, ... (read in full...)
Can you make someone miss you?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question but can you make someone miss you - my friend has this theory and I've tried to tell her it won't work but she's not listening. She broke up with her bf about 4 months ago and she does miss him but I dont t...
A. 20 February 2009: I've actually tried this with my ex. I cut all contact hoping she would realise that going back to her ex was a mistake. I stopped logging onto IM, stopped texting etc, but after a month I realised that she doesn't miss me at all, or not enough to ... (read in full...)
We met online, he says he wants to have sex and then marry me in 3 years, do I believe him?
Q. me and this guy met on orkut (Social networking and discussion site )and we have been knowin each other by communicating by phone since last year..havent seen each other bfore.. he says he likes me and i also like him..he says he love me 60% but as f...
A. 20 February 2009: Just take things slowly and don't agree to have sex with him until you have seen him a number of times face to face and your sure that you want to. I've learnt that things can suddenly change once you see someone in the flesh, its easy to fall for ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with trying to find someone!
Q. Please help as i going mad. I seem to be obsessed with trying to find someone. Im on a few dating web site and im constantly looking to see if i have any messages and get so dispointed if i dont. I just am so lonely and my life feels so boring. I ...
A. 19 February 2009: I would have to agree with Ceberus, it sounds like you need to get over your ex before you think about moving on. You mentioned him a lot in your question, and you even said yourself "Why am i bothered what hes doing so much?" When I finishe... (read in full...)
Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?
Q. Guys would you marry a girl who was forced to do oral sex in her past?...
A. 18 February 2009: Yeah, that's not really a reason not to marry someone, if she was forced to do it then it's hardly her fault and it's in the past anyway.... (read in full...)
How can I fix the relationship & make him see what he wants?
Q. hi, im 16 and female. i was pregnant 4 months ago but i had a still birth i developed an eating disorder the only thing i cling to is my beloved boyfriend weve been together 2 years and he asked me to marry him on valentines day. i know were ...
A. 18 February 2009: Yeah I bet you are confused, one moment he tells you he doesn't know if he wants a relationship and now hes asking you for another baby.
It sounds like his head is a bit messed up at the moment and he doesn't know what he wants, I would give him... (read in full...)
How can I fix the relationship & make him see what he wants?
Q. hi, im 16 and female. i was pregnant 4 months ago but i had a still birth i developed an eating disorder the only thing i cling to is my beloved boyfriend weve been together 2 years and he asked me to marry him on valentines day. i know were ...
A. 18 February 2009: You can't really help him see what he wants, its something he needs to work out on his own really. Did he actually buy you a ring when he asked you to marry him? if not, maybe he got carried away with the whole valentines day thing and now thinks he ... (read in full...)
2 men... only one heart.
Q. I really need advice, my chilhood sweetheart and I had a son whom is now 6 years old, I am now married to another man and my ex works away we usually keep in contact via text or pm etc, he has recently told me him and his wife are getting a divorce ...
A. 16 February 2009: I think most people would tell you to stick with your husband. Hes your ex for a reason, do you really want to risk getting back together with him and have him hurt you again, leaving you with nothing?
Don't you think its strange after breaking... (read in full...)
Single on V-day..go out? or stay in?
Q. what are you singles doing on valentines day/night? i used to hate valentines day when i was single, but now i am kind of excited, as i keep thinking there will surly be nice single guys out in the evening to have some fun with. will you singles...
A. 13 February 2009: The last two weeks have been a nightmare as i've recently become single, you can't watch TV, surf the internet or listen to the radio without being reminded of Valentines day. I'll be going down the pub tomorrow night and not even thinking about V... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me so often when he's living with someone else???
Q. Me and boyfriend finished at christmas after he met someone else, we were together for 11 years he moved in with her straight away. I have received 12 texts since last Tuesday, firstly saying why did I not say hello when I saw him at football, then ...
A. 10 February 2009: I had the same thing with my ex, tells me she still has feelings for her ex and they get back together and talks to me as if everything is fine and dandy between us.
I think she was just using me as a backup guy, if it didn't work out again be... (read in full...)
Why do we always fall for the wrong people???
Q. Why do we love people who are wrong for us more than the people who are right for us - majority of the time? Is it cos we have less chance to have the person who is wrong for us than the person who is right for us?? are the good ones almost 'too ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think modern technology is to blame for a lot of people breaking up, for example those people who play on second life and find their partner having a virtual romance with someone else. Also IM and text messaging made me feel a bit trapped with the ... (read in full...)
I'm lonely and think I'm going to get crazy!
Q. Since i broke up from a 10 year relationship in 2005 it has been very hard for me to find a stable relationship. My relationships only last for about 3-4 months, if i don't dump the guy, he dumps me. Sometimes i think i'm too wild in bed, then ...
A. 10 February 2009: My ex sounds a bit like you, she was with a guy for 6 years who broke her heart. Two years later she is just going from bloke to bloke, nothing lasting more than a couple of months. She was about to move onto someone else before I finished it with ... (read in full...)
Dating 3 weeks, she's pregnant by her ex! What to do?
Q. I have been seeing a girl for approx 3 weeks, we found out last night that she is pregnant to her ex bf. It's been a whirlwind romance and i have very strong feeling for the girl. She has asked for time and space to decide how she is going to cope ...
A. 5 February 2009: Give her some space, but I would consider walking away if she starts thinking about getting back together with her ex. I've learnt that the new guy never wins over the ex, especially if you've only been together for 3 weeks.
You never know, sh... (read in full...)
Are relationships so brittle to break in a second?
Q. Hi, My girlfrnd for 4 years suddenly says her feelings for me are over..she told me she will not be able to reciprocate the love i give to her....she dont love me anymore... She told me not to call her as it hurts..... She even didn't wish me...
A. 5 February 2009: Are relations so brittle to break in a sec? Yes some are, my last relationship pretty much ended one evening after a single text message. I think sometimes there may be things going on in the background, which makes it seem like things have suddenly ... (read in full...)
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