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Help? Is this too soon?

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Question - (25 February 2009) 14 Answers - (Newest, 13 March 2009)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

OK, I have mustered up the courage to type an email asking the girl I like to join me for a walk and possibly a meal.

I am nervous about sending it though. We have only met 4 times, and only 2 of those were times we had arranged to meet and spend any time together.

I feel it is a bit soon...hope I am wrong. Should I just send it and not worry about that?

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A male reader, Ed1337 United Kingdom +, writes (13 March 2009):

Ed1337 agony auntSorry to hear that, as coldplay once sung "how can you blow it if you don't even try". Atleast you went for it and won't regret what might of happened.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009):

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Yeah at least I know I always have a fried.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009):

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Well she never gave me a reply. No big deal.

We bumped into each other a few days back, which I guess was good, as it least it will avoid awkwardness should we meet again.

Still, her last emails to me seemed written to me in such a way that I cannot be too sure that it would only be a meeting as friends.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009):

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A few thoughts:

1. She takes a while to reply anyway.

2. She might still be thinking about it.

3. I suppose it is fortunate that I have not become too attached if she turns me down.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009):

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Still waiting. It was Wednesday that I asked her. I know she takes a while with emails, but I just get a bad feeling.

If she doesn't want to, why can she not just say?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009):

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No not yet. If nothing comes of this then oh well just have to live with it.

Still it hasn't been that long.

I'd rather a refusal than nothing though

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009):

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She has been online, but no reply.... :(

Oh well.

PATIENCE

I guess it is a big thing to just reply to casually.

If not then, life simply goes on and I shall be content.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009):

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I am getting nervous/scared now.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009):

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Referring to my last post - in that situation in which I describe her and I together, there would of course have to be more to it than that, just, well that part of it would be important to me

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009):

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Email has been sent. Just waiting now. :)

jessica04- I just love spending time with her. :)

If we were together in a relationship, just being together sharing time would be the best thing ever.

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A female reader, jessica04 United States +, writes (25 February 2009):

jessica04 agony auntI applaud you with your courage. These days so many people just hook up, call it a relationship, and never get to spend nice, quality time with someone, and then things go south.

I would send it. If you have her number then maybe call her, unless email has been the primary means of communication between you two. At least it's not a text message, which is refreshing.

Just keep it casual sounding, and she should say yes. I don't know why she wouldn't want to.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009):

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Sent it. :)

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A female reader, minnie_me  +, writes (25 February 2009):

i think that if you really like this girl then you should send the email...a walk and a meal sounds like a wonderful idea...so give it a try you sound like a really sweet guy so she wil probably say yes!!

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A male reader, Ed1337 United Kingdom +, writes (25 February 2009):

Ed1337 agony auntGo for it, you've already met her a couple of times, so she clearly likes you.

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