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writes:Help. I met a guy over the internet who lives in NSW. I live in Perth. We seemed to get along really well. He then started sending me pics of his lower private parts and wanted to know what I was wearing etc and wanted intimate pics of me. At first I said excuse me I don't even know you and I would like to meet you first. I'm not sure what happened then. I suppose I got sucked in you could say with the way he spoke to me on MSN and text messages. He would send me up to 15 texts per day for the last 5 or 6 weeks everyday at first and call me Sexy Miss, kitten, Good-morning kitten, Sweet Dreams sweetheart lots of kisses and hugs etc etc and that I had become an important part of his life. I eventually succombed to his charms and sent him intimate pics of myself via sms which I now regret. Over the last two weeks he wanted more pics and I said no I don't feel like it and he text me back whimp. I should have dumped him then but I didn't. Anyway a few nights later I had quite a few drinks and was feeling very frustrated as I wanted to see him face to face and was sick of not being able to see and be with the real person and I text him that I thought the geographical distance between the two of us was too much of an obstacle. The next morning I regretted what I said and told him that I had second thoughts and wanted to continue a friendship etc. He said he was annoyed at my indecisiveness but said however that he still wanted to continue to build a relationship with me but wanted to lay off the sex talk and just be friends until we met face to face and then see what happened. He was in the fact the one who was initially encouraging it and the pics etc. That really confused me. I texted him what was his sudden change of mind as to why he didn't want to do it anymore out of curious interest and he didn't respond to my text message. He also said that he thought that I needed some time to be by myself to sort out what road I really wanted to take and that he didn't need any complications in his life and he felt that I had too much in my life to currently take on anything else. Anyway I have text him a few times and called him and he text me back on Wednesday morning just gone and said that he was busy and that he would text me Wednesday night after he finished training. He didn't text me back on the Wednesday night at all.Thursday morning I text him and still didn't get any reply. By Thursday night I still hadn't heard from him and by this stage I was extremely upset and confused and text him a couple of times to say that I was very disappointed in the way that he was ignoring me and that his silence made me feel like I had just been used for porn pics and phone sex and I finally rang him and left a message on his voice mail and said that I was disappointed in his ignoring me and all the best for the future and goodbye etc.At this stage I wondered whether he was just using my text message re the geographical distance as an easy cop out because I started to say no to sending him more pics or whether he is feeling genuinely pissed off about my indecision.He said the other night that he agreed that I had stuffed up but was prepared to let it slide this time but then he refused to answer text messages or answer his phone etcAnyway this morning I woke up to find a text message from him saying sorry for not replying to my texts and that he had left his phone in a taxi on Wednesday night and had only just received his phone back.I ignored that text message and he sent me another one at 5pm Sydney time today to say sorry for his very rude behaviour over the last couple of days and that stress tends to cause this sort of behaviour in him and that it was one of his not so nice traits. In the last two text messages he did not call me kitten or miss and there were no kisses or hugs like the normal texts.I still haven't replied to that text either as I am still feeling hurt and very confused as to his erratic behaviour.Was the not calling for two days some kind of punishment for me or what? Could someone please enlighten me as to what they think his game plan is? or if there is one at all or what he wants cause I don't know what to make of this situation or what to do as I still have feelings for him.View related questions: msn, text, the internet
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 Did you happen to read the advice you got on this thread you started?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-feeling-very-hurt-upset-and-anxious.html
I think that your feelings for this man are based on a lie. I expect his game plan is to keep stringing you along in the hope that you'll send more pictures. Eventually, you'll figure out that he's using you and you'll cut contact, but he'll try to keep things moving along until you do that.
Be VERY VERY careful if you do decide to keep contact. I just don't think that is a good idea here.
I found a website specific to Australia and protecting yourself from scams. I would highly recommend that you read through this and perhaps think of ways that you can protect yourself in the future.
http://www.scamwatch.gov.au/content/index.phtml/itemId/694213
Take care.
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reader, Ed1337  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I myself would walk away, do you really want to be with someone who acts like a child when under a bit of stress? thats if hes even telling the truth. You've been texting him now for 5-6 weeks and hes already upset you, making you ask for help here, I really don't think he is suitable for you. I would of told him to get lost after calling me a wimp, just because I didn't want to send any nude pictures. If he cared about you, he would of understood that you wasn't comfortable with it, instead of calling you names.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I think he may have got himself a girlfriend and is only calling/texting you when she is not around.
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