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anonymous
writes:HelloI have been out of the dating scene for a while now, mainly due to work and education commitments, so I recently signed up to a dating site. Now, I never thought I would ever do this sort of thing, so for me, it is quite a scary step. I am on the whole wary of the internet, but I just wast meeting anyone who shared the same outlook or interests. Anyway - turns out I have met a totally wonderful guy, who is almost everything I could ask for in a man, and actually has a lot of the same interests as me. We chatted via email, and he asked me out to dinner very quickly. He lives about an hour from me. We were exchanging about 10+ emails each a day, chatting on instant messenger as well as on the phone before we actually met. Dinner was lovely, and we got on really well, and both had a fantastic night, but he didnt make any moves on me. We are both very quiet and shy, tho. We are definitely going to do it again, (altho no date set as we are both very busy with work) and now he texts me during the day, goodmorning etc and to see how I am, telling me what he is upto, little jokes etc probably about 10 times! :) I have never met a guy who likes to communicate so much - which I love, as most of my previous partners have needed a kick to respond to anything. I think what I would like opinions on, is, do you think he likes me? I have been out of the loop so long that I really dont know what is normal or how to read the signs well anymore! I dont want to get my hopes up in case, but I do really like him and I feel we have clicked, but does his behaviour suggest he feels the same? Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Sounds like it started off nicely and you actually met, which some people never do! Most guys wouldn't try and make a move on the first date.
He's contacting you a lot but that doesn't necessarily mean anything. Someone emailed me for 9 months, daily, and then didn't want to meet!
Try and cut down on the texts and emails. Talk on the phone and meet up instead, then you can get a better idea of whether it is heading somewhere. Don't rush in, get to know him first.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Hi, I wouldn't worry too much if it was your first date and he didn't make a move. I don't make moves on any of my first dates, apart from a hug. It shows that he respects you and doesn't want to use you for sex.
If you are to follow the magic dating rules, a guy will normally make a move by the end of the third date, or sometimes even the second.
I would try and cut down on the communication a bit, I know you both enjoy it, but if you like him you should take it steady and save it up for your dates. I was with somebody who would text me all evening and chat to me at work on IM all day, when we went out on a date we didn't really have much to talk about.
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