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writes:I really need advice, my chilhood sweetheart and I had a son whom is now 6 years old, I am now married to another man and my ex works away we usually keep in contact via text or pm etc, he has recently told me him and his wife are getting a divorce and that he has always loved me and wants to be with me, in my heart I love both my ex and my husband and don't want to hurt either of them at all, my husband would like another baby which puts more complications on me. I love them both and I do not know what to do. Do I leave a man that has raised my son as his own for 6 years and treated me as a princess and put up with a lot of shit from me, or do I choose the guy that makes my heart pound faster, my stomach flip and my body ache for him but is never really around emotionally etc when you need him, what if I choose my husband and 5 years down the line we part and I've lost my chance, what if 5 years down the line I'm back with my ex regreting the biggest mistake of my life? How do I know who I love more?? How do I know if it's love or lust?? How do I know that it's true love?? How do I do this without hurting either of them?? Please help me, I am at my wits end, ps I also have a daughter with my husband. xx
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reader, minnie_me  +, writes (16 February 2009):
If i was you i would stay with your husband because 1) your ex became your ex for a reason 2)your husband treats you like a princess you said
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): I would agree with the posts here - stick with your husband. Your ex is only so dreamy because you can't have him. There is a TON to be said for a man that treats you well and sticks by you. There are many women that would die for that type of guy in their life. Your ex sounds like he is on the rebound - and then what? Maybe you two get together for awhile, but what if he leaves you? Then you don't have your ex, you don't have your husband, and you are alone. I would stick with the man that has proven himself to you. Be strong sister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Hi there my name is Raquel... I would completely agree with Ed1337 on this one... and believe me I have found myself in a similar position as you in the past, however I decided to stay with my partner, which was the best decission I could have ever made.
your Ex is certainly an ex for a reason, so I would suggest that you think about the reason that you split in the first place, this guy knows how you feel about him and is playing on those feelings, what is to say he will not do the same thing to you once you have got together? I believe you need to do some deep soul searching on this and dont do anything that you will end up regretting in the future, please remember its not just your feelings you have to think about... its your childrens too.
I hope I have helped.
Love Raquel xXx
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (16 February 2009):
 I think most people would tell you to stick with your husband. Hes your ex for a reason, do you really want to risk getting back together with him and have him hurt you again, leaving you with nothing?
Don't you think its strange after breaking up with his wife he tells you that hes always loved you? surely he would of told you sooner if he did really love you, instead of waiting until hes single again.
Only you can decide whats best, as we don't know your husband or your ex, just don't let your ex brain wash you.
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