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writes:I met a guy online two weeks ago and he recently asked me out. He planned the whole thing so well and made such an effort and even wanted to pick me up (I decided to meet him there for safety reasons). I mentioned to him once that I collect certain items and he apparently went out of his way to find this for me and brought it to the dinner. The dinner went well (although he wanted to split the bill) and conversation flowed really well. He complimented me a few times and told me he's looking for committment. He also told me he'd be going interstate to look for work in about 2 weeks time and will be away for a week. He said he felt bad about not telling me this but wanted to meet me before he left. The dinner finished in about an hour and a half and we took a really short walk (basically to our cars). He hugged me and kissed me on the cheek and said he'd call me when he returns from his trip so we could get together again.I was so confused why he ended the date so quick and why not ask to see me in the two weeks he was in town before he left, so I decided he didn't really like me.BUT - the other night I was at a concert and while out waiting for a cab after I ran into him (he'd been there too). He stopped to talk and I asked him why he ended our date so quickly. He said he was just tired. I then asked if I did something wrong and he then moved in really close to me, whispered to me that I did nothing wrong, kissed me slowly on the cheek and lingered for a bit. He then said 'catch you later' and went to find his friends. What just happened? I am so confused. I thought since he didnt ask me on a second date he wasn't really interested. But what's with the kiss? I know it was only on the cheek but coming from someone who made no moves on our date, I thought it was quite intimate for him to get that close and linger there (n case anyone's wondering he wasnt drunk and neither was I).Is it possible that he doesnt want to get involved with me until he comes back from this trip as he's not sure if he'll even be back? During the date he mentioned that he's had 2 long distance relationhips and cannot handle it again.Do i d anything here? Wait until he comes back to see if he'll contact me? why wouldnt he want to see me in the two weeks he's got left in our town?
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reader, Ed1337  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 That was the first time you saw him face to face right? most first dates shouldn't last too long anyway, especially if they are blind dates when you've only seen a picture of them, so I wouldn't worry too much about it being too short.
He just gave you a kiss on the cheek, its no big deal, thats how some guys greet someone and say good bye on a first date and it would of been wrong for him to make a move on you during the date, that normally happens on the third or maybe second. I myself use the first date to get to know someone better, not try and makeout with them.
Hes only going away for a week, why don't you just wait and see if he arranges something when he gets back? and if he doesn't then move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): I would move on...if you hear from when he gets back, take it from there. Don't count on it though.
There is a possibility that he just wants to take it slow, but to me....He sounds like a player!
keep all options open!
Good Luck
Britt
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 March 2009):
 He is giving off mixed signals to you and I think you could be right about him wanting to wait until he gets back.
But you cannot wait around for some guy who may or may not like you! I think you should just move on, there are plenty more guys out there! And if he does get in touch when he returns from his trip, well that will be a bonus. if he doesnt then, you will have moved on so who cares!
I hope this helps!
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reader, UndercoverCyberPolice +, writes (10 March 2009):
2 weeks is kinda quick to get to know someone! Lol. Maybe you could have talked to him just over the internet a bit longer. Some men just use internet dating as a quick fix. So just be careful.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Nope, I don't think you did anything wrong. The dinner date being so brief could be early an indication of him not really into to, or could also be that he wanted to "evaluate" his feelings on his own at first. But, if he did like you a lot after that dinner, I am sure he would have contacted you by email or pm or texted you, afterwards or while he was on his trip. It takes only a few minutes of his time to do all those things.
So, you need to say to yourself: Next! ;-)
Cat
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Sweetie, move on and forget him. He is just stringing you along like he is probably doing to lots of other ladies out there. It also sounds like he is not really that into you and is finding it hard to be honest.
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