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writes:Okay my best friend is 14 and her boyfriend is 18 and they have been dating for like two years now their relationship is great but when they went to italy together he wanted to have sex with her I told her to not do it but he keeps insisting that she does now she wants to leave him but their so good together and I don't want an issue like this to end a good relationship like theirs. My question is what do i do as a friend ??
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reader, ChantillyMarie  +, writes (20 March 2010):
Unless of course, you're like most people these days, and have recreational sex, which is totally alright, and maybe you're not going to be married. @ The person below me.
But to your friend, she's only a child, and yes she may be having all these different and unusual feelings, and the status of having a boyfriend who's either done at school, or just about finished, is amazing. But tell your friend, not to do anything with him, and if he pressures her into sex, tell him you're telling the police, because that is rape. It's not okay. And try to tell her this lightly, it's a touchy subject, take her away from him, and do it quietly...
I wish the best for you & your friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmmmm ... Thanks for the advise dorothy2342
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reader, yeah yeah(: +, writes (20 March 2010):
im 14 now and i was going to date an 18 year old last year.. but anyway that only a 4 years difference! so its not that bad. but if he is only interested in sex then he really doesnt love her! and she should leave him! if he really likes her he will wait and wont try and force her to do anything she doesnt want to do. alot of girls now are having sex and it may seem that you should to but you need to tell your friend that when the time is right you will no. dont let her do anything that she isnt ready for. if he is trying to convince her to do it now it will probably get akward between them and they will break up anyway! and it will make her feel even worse if they broke up after they had sex rather than before!
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reader, dorothy2342 +, writes (20 March 2010):
 It really hurts my heart to answer questions like yours. Your friend is still a child. No matter how grown she tries to be, she is a child. She should have never been in a relationship with that boy, a friendship O.K., even still he is too old for her at her age if she were 23 then the age difference wouldn't matter, but it does now. What happened to love and marriage. Why does your or her world revolve around whats between your legs. If that boy doesn't care enough for her to wait then she needs to ditch him now, because he doesn't love her, if he did sex wouldn't be an issue. You as her friend need to let her know that no male friendship is worth having to be obligated or talked into having sex, her whole life is ahead of her, 10, 15, 20 years down the road what will she have to offer her husband, used goods? Wait until you grow up before you make those decisions. Sex before marriage is still a sin. Where is your friends parents? Does she have any? Don't they care about her? Please step up and be her friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): first off, thats a big age gap for those ages, what is an 18 year old doing with a 14 year old? He's an adult and if he has sex with her, thats considered rape.
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