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writes:I've been seeing a man the past 8 months casually. He has become a business client to me, but we've also been having casual sexual encounters when we have "meetings." A little business, a little pleasure. It's been fun. He would frequently text me or call me...always excited to chat and make me laugh. Last month, we were both out of town. I had just finished my work with him at this point. We touched base while we were apart and expressed how much me missed me and how good it was to hear my voice. I started sensing right before I left that he had some genuine feelings towards me. Since we both got back, we've seen each other a couple times, but he's been distant. In fact, every time we go out, he's hyper focused on wanting to bring another person into our sexual escapades and avoiding being flirty with me. I have no problem with this. I enjoy being kinky and I'm excited about the possibilities. I'm not expecting any relationship, but I'm concerned that he's not telling me something. He's been a little more withdrawn in sex, more selfish - very much into what I do for him, but he's not really that giving or aggressive towards me anymore. He doesn't text me back in conversation like he used to. In fact, he only texts me if it's regarding logistics of our meet times. All of the playful teasing has stopped and I'm confused. I'm just wanting to keep things fun and make each other smile, but there's something wrong and I don't know what it is. We're not in a relationship, so I don't want to pry too much into his life and ask him. The thing I adore about seeing him is that we just made each other smile whenever we were together, and now I see distance and less smiles. Do you think he's just distancing himself to insure that emotions don't get in the way? What happened?
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reader, will I ever? +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Everyone knows that things change. It almost seems as though you were lying to yourself by saying it was just for fun but you really wanted him for your own. Strictly sexual relationships usually don't last long simply because of what they are. The smiling and excitement only last while the person is still interested. There's always another booty that can come along and distract- if that's all there was to the relationship.
I'd consider it over and just keep in touch once in a while with no mention of getting together. This way your ego remains intact because there's no feeling of rejection when he says no, or doesn't seem as enthusiastic.
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reader, dorothy2342 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Here are some old phrases you need to remember. "Don't s**t where you eat. Don't s**t where you sleep. Don't dip you pen in the company ink well." This phrase means "do not have romantic or sexual relationships with any co-workers or with people whom you do business." Basically, you don't want to make yourself uncomfortable (by potentially having a romantic relationship get ugly, or "s**tting") at the place where you work ("where you eat or sleep"). You could possibly loose a good client or business relationship.
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reader, dorothy2342 +, writes (14 March 2010):
I think in the beginning you were exciting and new. Your not new any more. With lots of men it is just about the conquest not about the relationship. You served your purpose and he's ready to move on, or spice it up by adding someone else to keep his interest. If you are into being used then continue, I would drop him, you evedently are of no personal value to him. Sorry.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 If he's not married, tell him you noticed he's not smiling as often and ask him what's up. You are in some kind of relationship. It's all right and fair for you to ask so it won't be awkward every time you see each other, and you can either be patient with him or move on. Maybe his feelings changed after he tried that threesome.
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