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28 July 2008: I have been dating someone 4 hours away now for a little over 6 months. We have had no huge problems and everything for now is running quite smoothly. I am completely honest with him, which is a first for me. We see each other about every other ...
How To Trust Again
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22 July 2008: Trusting someone with your emotions is sometimes a recipe for disaster. Sometimes trusting someone is harder to get an A on a paper you thought you got an F on. Trust starts from within and it is one of the deepest qualities of yourself you can ...
Tips To Winning A Guy's Heart
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22 July 2008: Guys are pretty simple. Well from what I have been in contact with. If you trust them, dont act all crazy, and once in a while crack a few jokes, they will love you. The problem starts when you worry about them day and night, when you arent t...
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Should I confess or just forget about it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and two months. Back when we first started hanging out, I hooked up with a friend of mine. This was about two weeks into my boyfriend and I hanging out, so at that point, we were not anything, but ...
A. 25 August 2008: Dont tell him, he'll never look at your the same. The past is the past, leave it there!! Trust me, from experience, dont tell him. No matter how many times he says its ok, it doesnt matter, bull... they never forget it. And they see it as ... (read in full...)
How do I break it to friends and family that I'm back with an ex they hate?!
Q. Hi I used to go out with this guy, who i really liked but he broke up with me a few weeks after me losing my virginity to him. I was angry at the time but got over it quite quickly!.....But my parents, family and close friends did not and still sp...
A. 25 August 2008: No matter how terrible the guy is, your family will back you up. Right up until he does something to break up the family or hurt your family, where they feel threatened, your family will back you up. They may not like it, they may have comments ... (read in full...)
She admitted she cheated so now we are on 'break' but....it doesn't feel right!
Q. So, me and my girlfriend have been together for about 11 months, including at college for about 5 months and practically living together. Now, its summer and we live in separate states far apart. We visited a few times, including her being here ...
A. 25 August 2008: If she wants a break she just needs a break. Maybe she is sick of worrying about what you are thinking of her, and she just wants that feeling gone for a while. I think alot of couples that are long distance take a break every now and then. If ... (read in full...)
I feel like the ladies at the office are out to get me fired! They say I'm anti-social but I'm just shy...
Q. I have been at my current job for just over two years, I get on well with most people except the two ladies I share an office with they are always telling people I create an atmosphere because I am shy and they keep telling people I am anti-social ...
A. 25 August 2008: I would try to be really nice to them. Act like their little episodes do not bother you at all. If you cant get another job, you'll have to work on it. Bring in cookies or something, offer to help them with their work. Once they get to know you ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just playing me? Is she still cheating, or was it a drunken one-off?
Q. my girlfriend cheated on me at a party when she was drunk and said she was goin to finish me to this guy for him. i forgave her for that because i love her but then i caught her outside her house with this lad in the car, she said they were just ...
A. 21 August 2008: If she has already cheated on you with this guy you shouldn't allow her to do it again. I wouldn't let them talk if she cheated with him. Either set some boudaries or move on. Either way she needs to respect you a bit more. Maybe she is in her ... (read in full...)
She won't kiss me in spite of an on-again off-again romance. SHould I push the issue?
Q. I started dating a colleague of mine in late May. She is in different departments, so we don't really affect each other or see each other much. I had asked her out in October of last year, but she was in a relationship. I May 2008, I found out f...
A. 21 August 2008: Some women like to take things VERY slow. But if you know each other she really should feel comfortable enough to take things further. Maybe she doesnt want to lose you as a friend. Im not sure, but when I am into a guy I cant not kiss him. Some ... (read in full...)
Why do I get so jealous over these girls!?
Q. Hey, I'm having a really huge problem, everytime I'm with my boyfriend and we see a good looking woman, I immediately think that my boyfriend likes her, and thinks that she's better than me. I know it's ridiculous, but my jealousy is ruining our ...
A. 13 August 2008: Just chill out. Every man looks at other women, if he did not want to be with you, he wouldnt.... (read in full...)
I'm in a new relationship and it's great but I'm not sexually attracted to him. Help!
Q. I am 30 years old and was in a long term relationship which ended about 1.5 years ago very suddenly as my partner walked out on me and had a new girlfiend a week later.I have met somebody else and I think the world of him, he is a great man and I ...
A. 13 August 2008: If you dont want him sexually you are going to fight alot. A lot of fights never begin because you have sex with your man. Get out... it cant be a good sign.... (read in full...)
I've discovered my friend isn't my friend, but she owes me money.
Q. I have a friend. Well she is no longer my friend now. But anyway, when we were friends just a few days ago, she had a go at me for no reason and when i reproached her for it the next day, she pretended it hadnt happened, and when i told her exactly ...
A. 13 August 2008: You're not getting your money back if she is as bad as you make her sound. Sorry, but people are mean. This happened to my room mate. She was dating a guy that used her for every bit of money she had. She has called him, gone to his house, asked ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with long-distance relationship. Could he be trying to keep me at arm's length?
Q. I am really struggling in my relationship with my boyfriend. We are in a long distance relationship. I feel like our relationship is in serious trouble and I am not sure how to deal with it. We have been going out for a year and it feels like the ...
A. 13 August 2008: Drinking, no matter what, always causes problem. Long distance relationships cannot work if you dont put in the effort. Right now it sounds like you are putting in more effort than he is. Its really hard to make these relationships successful, ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend tried to sabotage my new relationship. Is she just being difficult, or does she want me back?
Q. my ex-girlfriend called this girl im talking to saying that shes still sleeping with me even tho im not. and she called her friend. saying that shes with another guy. does she still like me or is she just trying to ruin my relationship....
A. 13 August 2008: Clearly this girl is crazy. You need to explain to your current girlfriend that she is nuts. Obviously she still likes you and wants to hurt you badly. Watch out.... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband's relative to stop flirting with me?
Q. I have an issue, one of my relative's husband constantly keeps flirting with me. It's to the the point where it's getting out of control. I've repeatedly asked him to stop. The funny thing is that he never acted this way in the beginning. He ...
A. 30 July 2008: I have had this happen too. It makes you feel awful. And it gives you this uneasy feeling in your belly. I hate it. And you dont know whether to tell your husband, but what if he thinks you are egging it on? I hate this situation. I cant tell ... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong or does she really need more sleep?
Q. I am kind of confussed about something and need help. You see there is a girl that I worked with and I liked her a lot, now she left the job and we still kept talking. She started a new job and she works most of the week from 3 to 11. Now I asked ...
A. 30 July 2008: If her shift, before that 3-11 shift was different sometimes there is a transformation period. I know when I started working 9 hour days at first I had absolutely NO extra energy and I wanted to sleep all of the time. But, eventually I got ... (read in full...)
My Ex wants me to call her, should I?
Q. I stopped talking to my ex girlfriend/first love because of her drinking, drug abuse, and promiscuity was upsetting. I didn't speak to her four about a month then monday she Instant Messaged me and was all "I know we "Aren't talking, but I just ...
A. 30 July 2008: Make sure she still isn't drinking and using before you let yourself back into it. I am sure it was hard to get out once, so it would be hard to get out twice. Just do a little investigating before you bring all that back into your life. Maybe ... (read in full...)
We went through an awful break-up, it's been a couple of months, I want to give it another try, any suggestions, as to how to go about it?
Q. Dear all, My boyfriend and I broke up in May. We were very much in love, but it was a first real relationship for both of us and was long distance. On top of that, both of us are very conflict-avoidant and dated for a year with the assumption w...
A. 29 July 2008: Just ask him if he is still into you?? Clearly you are otherwise you wouldnt even be thinking about him. I havent dated one of my x's in 4 years and I still think about him. It is just one of the things we do. We think about our past. So its ... (read in full...)
Even at this age I know the agony of heartbreak.
Q. I know I'm still relatively young, but even at this age I know the agony of heartbreak. Many times I've fallen in, just to be broken again. I always think I've given up on love, but then I fall again. Every new beginning, every sign that says this ...
A. 29 July 2008: Its only going to get worse. Sorry, but its true. And if you are so sweet and innocent as you sound, you need to be respected as well!... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't know I've never had an orgasm because I fake it!
Q. hi, well,eva since i started having sex,which is a long time now,i ve never had an orgasm,i mean never.am married with two kids and my husband doesnt know cos i fake it!!!i dont want to hurt his feelings!! i do have feelings though when i put my pi...
A. 29 July 2008: Some women can’t have vaginal orgasms. Seriously, it’s a very high percentage of women that cannot. So try other regions. You have 3 spots where you can have an orgasm. Your anus, your vagina, and your clitoris. If you are not into the anus ... (read in full...)
I feel like my life is going nowhere.
Q. im 25 years old and i feel like my life is going nowhere. Ever since I was 18 I have been trying to become a model and have been turned down every time. Unfortunately I am very short and this is my downfall. I am also a singer and have taken part in ...
A. 29 July 2008: I think you should focus on the positives in your life. You are living your life right now. Just be happy you are healthy and you have people that love you. If great things are meant to happen to you, they will. Just dont be too impatient. ... (read in full...)
Phone calls to another girl in secret, deleted inbox. Can I trust him?
Q. I don't know what to do about my boyfriend as he acts really suspiciously. He gets lots of texts from some girl he knows who apparantly 'lives in london'. He tells me that they're nothing but friends, but I find this really hard to believe as I have ...
A. 28 July 2008: I think he is lying. Pictures, texts, and he is hiding things from you. You know whats going on. Sorry though, it sucks!... (read in full...)
Sex Talk with New Man??
Q. Hello again! I have another question.... any help would be really appreciated! If u have read my last 2 posts, u will know im lookin again after a long relationship. Well, it finally happened - with an old friend. We're havin a great time, every th...
A. 28 July 2008: Sex can be the most exciting experience, if with the right person and is done correctly. I say talk to him. If you two are as close as you say you should be able to. At your age, you need it! It sounds like you have never even enjoyed sex, its ... (read in full...)
How To Trust Again
Q. Trusting someone with your emotions is sometimes a recipe for disaster. Sometimes trusting someone is harder to get an A on a paper you thought you got an F on. Trust starts from within and it is one of the deepest qualities of yourself you can ...
A. 28 July 2008: For one, if he can trust you after that he must be really strong or really weak. Im not sure... that is up to you. But dont stop dating. Just keep it up, the more you experience, the more you learn. Sometimes you have harder times, and sometimes ... (read in full...)
No matter how we start... it always ends up "doggie style"! Is he losing interest in me?
Q. Hi! Any input here will be appreciated. I've been happily married for 5 years and thought we had a pretty good sex life. The problem is....lately my husband seems overly interested in doggy style sex. No matter how we start, it always ends up with ...
A. 24 July 2008: Oh Come on. Of course he is still into you. Look at some other issues women have on here and I think you will feel much better about yourself. Guys love doggy style because that is the way they can get the furthest penetration possible. And ... (read in full...)
Will I grow any more? Can I do anything about it?
Q. I'm 17 is it too late to grow? I'm 5.9 and really wanna be a bit taller I've started the gym and go every week atleast. DO you think i will get any taller? My dads about 6.2 and my mum is about 5.1 ish :S Is there anything i can do b...
A. 24 July 2008: You're 5'9". Are you nuts? Thats above average. Get yourself a good pair of heels and you'll be 6 foot. I am 6 foot and let me tell you, when I was yonger I slumped and I could never find any boyfriends taller than me. Yes, being tall is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, and I'm the one who ends up apologising for my jealousy! No more. Advice?
Q. boyfriend cheated on me in the past twice and begged me for his forgiveness, telling me how much he love me an all that. So i did because i do love him back. But now weve had problems with trust since then and he wanted us to have some time apart. ...
A. 24 July 2008: Yeah he is pushing the blame off onto you so he doesn’t have to deal with what he did to you. This is a defense mechanism. It’s similar to what a compulsive person does. Say for instance you have someone who is a compulsive shopper. They buy to ... (read in full...)
He said I should go out with another guy, and we could maybe pick up our relationship later, I'm gutted.
Q. Please help!!!! i recently broke up with a long term partner and was lonely. I ended up chatting to a guy i work with and found he had also broke up a few months before with his long term gfriend. We arranged to meet and there was an obvious p...
A. 24 July 2008: I think he is a moron. He is not too sure about this other girl so he can’t let her go just yet. Basically he wants to test you both out until he decides he would like you to wait on the sidelines while he plays the game. I think this is a ... (read in full...)
We talked, and it sounded like he didn't really care about me. Why are guys like this?
Q. ive just been at my bfs place and i brought up 'the talk' as he calls it which is just bringing up things about me and him like just things that are on my mind that are worrying me and things. but this time it was just how he always seems to dismiss ...
A. 24 July 2008: Whatever. Any guy that loves a girl she be ever to tell her. I think that is awful that you have to feel like this. I know it’s really hard, but you have to find someone who appreciates you. Does he make you feel bad all the time? Obviously you ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a member of a group who won't give?
Q. Hi, I'm studying events management, and a group of girls in my class are manageing a large event for our final semester of studies. We need to come up with a name for the group and we are deciding between Zap Events or Vibrant Events. The majo...
A. 24 July 2008: Well clearly she thinks she in the boss. You just have to confront her, and you really cant back down. This is a problem you will have in the work world ALL the time. There is always one lady or man who doesn't like the finishing product that ... (read in full...)
My husband won't have sex with me any more.
Q. My husband won't have sex with me anymore. I'm only 23 and he just turned 28. We have a son who is 3 years old and has been a major challenge for us. In the beginning of our relationship he loved being intimate with me, he'd initiate it all the ...
A. 24 July 2008: I don’t think it is necessarily the weight. A lot of men love their wives no matter what size they are. My mother is very, very over weight and my dad is skinny; they still have sex all the time and he can’t keep his hands off her. So I don’t ... (read in full...)
He said he may not be ready for a relationship and we should take it slowly. Was he breaking up with me, or not interested?
Q. I met a guy from an online dating site. We hit off after the first date. I never have sex on my first date. However, the chemistry between me and him was so strong, I slept with him. Things were going sweet on the second and third dates. Yet, I felt ...
A. 23 July 2008: He was not breaking up with you and he is very interesed in you if he can tell you all the emotional things he has been through. He just knows he cant give out all of his heart right now, because he is clearly still hurting. This girl must have ... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual and I need to know how to tell my parents.
Q. Im for sure for sure bisexual and I need to know should I tell my parents about it,they tend to be extreemly closed minded and Im not sure they will understand. My family is going through crisis after crisis and im not sure wether I...
A. 23 July 2008: I think your parents do need to know. I played college softball so I have been in contact with ALOT of lesbians. And they all said they wish they would have told their parents earlier and it would have been easier. just a suggestion. They will ... (read in full...)
He called me "a mate" in a text to a friend. I'm not "a mate". I'm his girlfriend! Help.
Q. I hope someone can give me advice about this becuase I didn't sleep a wink last night for thinking about it. I was out with my boyfriend last night and we had a really good time, but something spoilt it - he sent me a text message which was for so...
A. 23 July 2008: Just chill out. Guys have to be cool with other guys. And if he thinks of you as a mate, but he is actuall your boyfriend then thats great! The middle core of a relationship is you enjoy the other persons company! Dont worry too much. Guys dont ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got pregnant while on their period?
Q. can i ask if anyone has gotten pregnant whilst on their period? me and my boyfriend had sex and he had cum on his finger and then fingered me it was all in the moment and then the day after we had sex and he came in me. only alil bit though do...
A. 23 July 2008: Get some birth control. Get on a pill/patch/ring or shot. Do something.. think about it... if you cant even tell him not to cum inside you, can you really handle a baby? No, you cant, so get some control. Go to your doctor! Sorry, its just too ... (read in full...)
Dating, just dating. And he's dating someone else too. So how long before dating should become an (exclusive) relationship?
Q. Okay quick question. Im 15, I'm dating this guy.. He is keeping his options open because he is 16. Dating me, and dating someone else. Nothing is official so I am okay with it, and before we started dating he told me, so I am okay with it....
A. 23 July 2008: If you two are just dating... and he wants already to date someone else... I say its not going to work. When you are in the beginning of a relationship, that is when you like that person more than any other time. You dont know their deep dark ... (read in full...)
Would I be better off in a relationship with someone of my own age?
Q. So i'm a gay 18 year old guy, and am going out with a 36 year old. True not the most conventional of relationships, but i've known i like older guys, so that's sorted. We've been going out for over a year, and like with most relationships we've ha...
A. 23 July 2008: I would say date someone your own age. Its easier. He probably wants different things than you do. Unless you are really mature, I dont see how you can even handle him. But if he makes you happy, then try and make it work out. I know all my ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I have other girls - and all because of a silly game. Is this normal behaviour? How do I put the trust back?
Q. Hello All. To get straight to the point. I have been living with my girlfriend for about 2 months. We've been seeing each other for just over 3 years on and off. She went away for work last month and as a surprise i bought her the game s...
A. 23 July 2008: Women are nuts! We just are. Sometimes we have moments of weakness. Just tell her. Maybe have one of your friends that are a girl reassure her as well. All-in-all you should not be in trouble if you didnt do anything wrong. Just talk to her, ... (read in full...)
How can you beat a "player" at his own game?
Q. if you know a guy who claims is and honest but is a player when it comes to women how can the woman beat him at his own game and him not even know he is being played back?...
A. 23 July 2008: Ignore him and flirt with his friends. Make his friends enjoy you more than they like him. Be funny and outgoing. He'll notice, trust me! And if you really want to beat him, just let him go, he's probably not worth your time!... (read in full...)
It's true I embarassed her by getting drunk, but how could she get over me so fast?
Q. I need advice just over 3 weeks ago my ex dumped me I embrassed her at the her prom and got really drunk and she said that she no longer see's me in that way any more but how could she go off me in the space of a few short hours. We were together ...
A. 23 July 2008: Do you realize that us women once we are over a guy, we know where it hurts the most. That is one of the first things I do with a guy after I have broken up with him, I go find another one. Its not that we love that person we find, we just need ... (read in full...)
I found a sexy text from another woman on my husband's phone. He said he hasn't done anything wrong.
Q. I have just found a sexy text from another woman on my husbands phone. It was under a mans name and in his language (which I can understand) I confronted him, he claimed that he met her on the yahoo chat and gave his number cos he was bored and now ...
A. 23 July 2008: Oh he could have an affair in another country. I think that is crazy. If I were you I would put some guide lines down. Why dont you just take his phone away. Or dont allow him to use text messaging. I hate those girls who text your man, and ... (read in full...)
The Nature of Love
Q. This will be my LAST article. Love is a difficult feeling to grasp. It's a feeling that can make you or break you. Have you ever seen romantic films that always have happy endings? Well the love that you feel inside is not like in the movies. ...
A. 22 July 2008: I think love is hard work. You cant rely on love to get your through every aspect of life. Love cant pull you out of a lake when you are drowning. But what love can do, is make you try like crazy to save the person who you love. Love is also ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has never given me a reason not to trust him... but I still don't!
Q. Will I ever trust my boyfriend? We have been together for nearly 2 years but I feel as if I don't trust him. My last serious boyfriend cheated on me loads of times but I never knew until after we had split up. He hasn't given me any reasons why ...
A. 22 July 2008: I think this is a common problem after the occurance of a cheating significant other. Once someone cheats or is untrustworty it makes relationships really hard. I think the only way you can 100% get over the cheating curse is to get help. Help is ... (read in full...)
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