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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been at my current job for just over two years, I get on well with most people except the two ladies I share an office with they are always telling people I create an atmosphere because I am shy and they keep telling people I am anti-social which I am not, I am very shy and I don't feel comfortable talking to them but I can talk to other people really easily because I find them friendly unlike the other two. Does anyone have any advice because they wont even talk to me know and they are trying to make my look like I can't do my job, I feel like they are trying to get me fired they are just bullies but no one else believes me.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (26 August 2008):
 There are some bitches you will never win over because you are not one of them. Meaning, you are prettier, smarter, or more interesting than they are, and they see you as a threat. When you come into a new work environment,try to be friendly to everyone. Do your job to the best of your ability and try not to gossip or cause problems for other people. This generally works but in some cases you will still be targeted because that's just how some people are. If you sense this is happening, then secretly start circulating your resume so you have something to fall back on. Trust me, alot of us have been dismissed from jobs we did fairly well because of the bullship politics at the office. It sucks and it's not fair, but it is a fact of the work force. I wish you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): This is life, I was fired too because I didn't fit in with the group of people. The excuse that I was given is that I wasn't fast enough at doing the job although I had only worked two days. It was a conspiracy. I would suggest you trying to find another job but in the mean time you should talk to these women, bring in snacks that you know they'll like, try to play to their interests, ask them about their kids, etc..Act like you are really interested in them and their lives. People like them are really all about themselve's so they will eat this up. If none of that works, then oh well at least you tried. And in your next job, you'll have to start off immediately on a better foot. You're going to have to open up more and not be as shy.
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reader, Curiousbynature  +, writes (25 August 2008):
I would try to be really nice to them. Act like their little episodes do not bother you at all. If you cant get another job, you'll have to work on it. Bring in cookies or something, offer to help them with their work. Once they get to know you more they will probably stop harassing you. Just stand your ground.
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