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writes:I have a friend. Well she is no longer my friend now. But anyway, when we were friends just a few days ago, she had a go at me for no reason and when i reproached her for it the next day, she pretended it hadnt happened, and when i told her exactly what she had said, she sort of dismissed my hurt feelings and never apologised.She has never been a good friend, and it has taken me eight years to realise it entirely, but there has always been some evidence about, that show everything is about her. So what happened at the weekend has been the icing on the cake where i am concerned. I have always been there when she needed me, but she has never been there for me. When she has problems i listen and offer advice, when i have problems and try to confide in her, she lends half an ear, or none at all. She is sarcastic and always finds a way to put me down in front of others. I always brushed these off, but now i know i have been silly. My other friends said i should just drop her and that she was a user, but i made up excuses and kept on with the friendship. I have always been naive when it comes to friends and i have always been a bit sensitive, but i don't think an apology takes much.The only thing now is that she owes me quite a bit of money, i know i was stupid to lend it her in the first place, but it has never been an issue in our friendship. I always told her not to worry and pay me when she could. Now i am intending to break friendship with her, which will be to my own benefit, i am wondering how to broach the subject of money.If she had just apologised, we'd have been ok, but since she dismissed her behaviour out of hand i must make the break. My parents are no help, they just say i will make friends with her in the end and my other friends say the same. But now i really mean it.
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reader, Curiousbynature  +, writes (13 August 2008):
You're not getting your money back if she is as bad as you make her sound. Sorry, but people are mean. This happened to my room mate. She was dating a guy that used her for every bit of money she had. She has called him, gone to his house, asked his brother, everything and 3 years later - no money. Sorry this had to happen to you.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (13 August 2008):
 My mum has a friend like you have, and she is just as sarcastic. And is a very bad ear if my mum ever has problems which is very rare. I think its jealousy myself. Ive got a lovely mum of 59 with her looks still in tact, doesn't smoke or drink, a lovely home she owns outright, and a bloke that treats her ok. Her friend is catty, in arrears with her mortgage, a husband that cheated on her yrs ago that she doesn't even like anymore, not so hot looking cuz she cant face giving up smoking so has a few wrinkles more and basically my mum does all the running around to keep in touch with her for the last 20 odd yrs. I cant understand why my mum is still friends with her, it baffles me. But if you are a nice person, you cant help that can you!
Her friend is never in the wrong according to herself either, and i dont reakon you can expect them to change if thats what they are like.
You shouldn't of lent her any money no, but the thing now is to get it bak. If you can be strong and not get back matey with her, i would take her to small claims. Depending how much it is?
C xxxxx
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